If you have a child... and they win a game or participated in some type of event... do you Reward HIM/HER with food? or how do you reward them? (i've notice a lot of parents reward their kids with food and that's a problem in my eyes because it will cause problems for them in the long run). HOW DO YOU REWARD YOUR KIDS?
2007-06-10 18:14:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I have two terrific children that are going to be great grownups and happy, well adjusted individuals. I reward my children with praise and explain why I am so proud of a certain accomplishment and if we celebrate we go to a movie, picnic etc an acitivity of their choosing..however, a "reward" is not as important as praise and showing that I am proud of them, after all they are not performing poodles. I let them know I love them even when they do not win a tournament or contest etc..I love them for them, not their accomplishments...I sit and genuinely listen, let them talk if they are upset or disappointed but always let them both know that I love them, support them and I am there whenever they need me. I grew up never (and I do mean never) having heard "I love you" or getting any praise, all I heard was criticism. I thank my parents for teaching me what not to do as a mom.
2007-06-10 18:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Ok I'm not a parent, but I have nieces and nephews. My two nephews are in sporting events, and it is a reward to them for all of us to be there for thier games. The totally love it and my parents never miss a game. They are rewarded with lots of love and praise if they win or lose. Here is the tricky part and others may see it from the outside as a reward. We do go out to eat after thier games and sit and talk and praise them, but the food is not the reward and to others around it may seem that it is. Here is why this happens, you are not supposed to eat before being extremely active or you can get so sick that you vomit, soooo they have went the entire time before and during the game without eating and are extremely hungry when they get done. It is no ta thing either that everyone else eats and they dont. Everyone waits to eat until they can. It is just something that makes them not get sick, no cruelty invovled, and they are old enough to understand.
2007-06-11 01:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by alli_jo79 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she wins a game or does well in an event, I reward my daughter with lots of hugs and kisses. If she makes good grades and does her chores, I spot her a dollar or two for a job well done.
2007-06-11 01:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anne W 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think rewarding kids with food is why there is a childhood obesity problem today.
my daughter is two, and i reward her with verbal praise and hugs and kisses. she doesn't know how it feels to be rewarded with a lollipop or anything like that, so she never throws a temper tantrum for not getting a lollipop. when she goes on the potty, i give her lots and lots of hugs and tell her that what she did was very good. if you begin to praise your child with material objects, it teaches them to be materialistic. if i gave her a sticker, she would learn to expect a sticker, but if my daughter expects a hug from me, there is nothing wrong there. parents are supposed to hug their children, and those who don't will one day wonder why their kid has issues!
2007-06-11 01:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by I~LOVE~BATMAN 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont see a problem with rewarding them with food, as long as it is not way too much food, and it's not after every single thing, and they are healthy. But I dont see anything wrong with taking a kid out for ice cream after they won a baseball game. As long as they are healthy, there is nothing wrong with rewardinig children with food.
2007-06-11 01:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If my children did something really special, I made a 'special day for them' They got a special thing they wanted to do granted, with in reason. They are grown now and have told me that it made them feel really ' special ', and made them want to work hard to be granted this privilege again. I've never rewarded my children with food. No one in my immediate family is overweight.
2007-06-11 01:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't have kids. But, if I did, I would congratulate them loads, and maybe occasionally reward them with food. A Happy Meal from McDonald's won't hurt him every now and then....
2007-06-11 01:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by Allgeier 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
we should reward them with an activity, like a trip to the park
2007-06-11 01:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by Antoine J 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Buy them some sort of toy, they've earned it. I don't think it's healthy to reward with food. Unfortunately, I've learned from experience.
2007-06-11 01:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by TipTip!! 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
not a parent....but i would teach them to reward themselves--nooo not the dirty trick lol
just common values
2007-06-11 01:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by Carlos 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋