if MISERY needs COMPANY, isnt it Less Miserable Not wanting 2b ALONE Anymore?

Question

just a happy thought(hoping my own misery goes away)
:-)

Answer 1

That is a good one Enki we have all said these words before Misery loves company....hahahaha it is a happy thought Enki BUT......in order for your misery to go away you can not count on the other to bring you happiness...that happiness will have to come from within....the person that will join you if they are miserable too they will not be able to help you with your misery and you help them with theirs.......As my friend said to me once you can't expect another to fix your life....The misery feeds off one another and boy as she said you want to alone then hahaha Enki your cute & just from your questions hahahaha you are not that miserable hahahaha

Answer 2

Ah, darlin'! Wanna join me for a walk in a thunderstorm? I am just about to leave :)

*grin* That old saying, "Misery loves company"; my own take (based on me *grin*) is that misery loves a good audience. Sometimes it needs an appreciative ear. Sometimes not wanting to be alone anymore is the most miserable feeling going. The answer is in the doing... not the wanting, but the choosing.

So... a happy thought, hey? How about a comment? You are a wonderful, beautiful soul. You think and feel deeply. Those obstacles in your life will not always be there... they will be overcome, and in the process of overcoming them you meet the people (or may-hap the person) you will walk your path with.

You are not alone, never alone. There is Creator, there are friends, there is the family that we choose. There is earth and trees, water and sky. There is beauty all around... and it is in *you*.

You are the happy thought. Be well, Neechogkun (my friend). You are happiness... shift the perspective... it's all in you.

Answer 3

No, there is something worst than not having what you want-and that is having something you thought you wanted and finding out it is hard to get rid of. I would rather be alone in that case.
I hope you see that life is worth living.-there is an old English proverb-"The man who, in a fit of melancholy, hurts himself today, would have wished he had waited a week." As time has a future we won't want to miss. Where there is life there is still hope for other things.
I think we have all know misery and sometimes it has a terrible hold. I don't think Misery should have Misery for company. What hope is there? During the manic phase of your misery, your good judgment may evaporate and you may not be able to see the harm of your actions .And others will not help you there-it is just the way it is. There are times when a sufferer can gain much relief by talking out his or her feelings with an empathetic listener. Even so, it must be acknowledged that when true misery factors are involved, depression cannot simply be willed away with a positive outlook. . Looking for help in the wrong places is no good. and many fail here. Highs and low moods are no good. It may be difficult to convince the sufferer of misery what he or she needs . Those who are physically ailing need a physician.-those who ache in the heart need a truer heart to help them. Not easy to find-so many claim and look to be it. Rare. Those who follow you here many of us like you--have listened and perhaps feel your ache and want to sincerely help. But again we might not be your answer as much as we want to be. Look carefully. Think wisely.
Best wishes to you I hope you find what you really need I don't think it would help for me to tell you what you need--you need to do your own searching there---I can only advise you that you might be looking for help where you shouldn't. That is a fact based on many studies. Again Best Wishes -look for a heart you know for sure has more virtue.Don't be fooled and Don't settle for less. Maybe you will find the one who holds the key to your heart in safe keeping . :)

Answer 4

Ahh, but you are misreading the quote. It goes: "Misery Loves Company!" not misery needs company. You need to listen to a song by the late Great Hoyt Axton, "Sweet Misery" The chorus goes like this

Chorus:
Sweet Misery
She loves her company
She's in a Crowd when she is all alone
She doesn't care
Follow You Anywhere
She is most happy when she makes you moan!

The only thing you have control of in this life, is your own attitude, and some people don't even have control over that. You have to learn the three laws of survival:

1. If you are bored, that means nobody is shooting at you
Boredom can actually be a good thing

2. If you are not having a good time, improve your fantasy life.

3. Never forget your equipment is made by the lowest possible bidder. Trust yourself, not your equipment.

If you follow these three laws, you will not only survive, you will be reasonably happy thanks to that second law.

You have a right to be miserable. There may be every reason for you to be miserable, and I would not think of showing any lack of respect for you or your situation by saying that it is less than legitimate. but you, and you alone, can pull yourself out of that situation, rise above it, and leave it in the dust. Misery loves company because misery wants to keep you down, drag you down even further, and lift itself up by stepping over your crushed feelings. It's time to get past Misery. Misery is a lousy companion. It won't open the door for you, it never buys even one round, and it makes fun of the waitress. Anybody who makes fun of the waitress deserves to be checked with the coats and never picked up. You need a better class of friends there, Misery is a loser.

Answer 5

My dear enki, I wish you'd soon get over this phase. With all the beauty in your spirit, why can't you MAKE the misery go away? Not wanting to be alone isn't "less miserable." Sometimes, not being alone creates more"misery," if the person you're with, or want to be with isn't fulfilling you. I don't think misery "needs company"--but it's nice to have someone who makes you happy. I think you know that.

Answer 6

I think chronically miserable people want others to have to listen to them. I've never been able to tell if forcing me to be their audience was a relief to them or not. Misery seems to come from within and no words of comfort seemed to penetrate. I'm like you about wanting to be alone if I am sick, disgusted with the world or sad. It doesn't last for long and I soon want to be with people again, when I can smile and be good company.

Answer 7

As the French would say, c’est la vie. That’s life, my friend

I don’t think that any one of us has gone through our lives without being miserable at one point or another. And yes, when one is miserable, it is only natural to cry out in woe. When you’re in that situation, it really does feel like you would want others to acknowledge your misery.

That’s alright. It’s actually quite healthy to get a little dose of misery once in a while, just to shake you up a little and you’d pause to have a look at your life and see where it’s heading. It strengthens the character and can help render one's emotional resilience a little stronger in the future.

So, never deny yourself the right to feel miserable. On the contrary, allow yourself some time to fully feel it….and then put it aside once the allotted time is up.

But don't keep going back trying to revisit it, or you'll forever be in perpetual misery.

It's like swimming underwater to cross a wide river. You have to hold your breath a little and fight against strong currents. But when you've reached the other side, you know you've accomplished a great feat. Just remember to resurface and see where to land, or you will be swept away.

And as a wise man once said, “…and this too, shall pass…”

Answer 8

We are only miserable when we are unable to define the cause. Reality responds to consciousness. Cause and effect are never separated even if the cause is hidden within.

Your question makes me wonder, because it is CONSCIOUSLY conflicted. You don't ask, "Isn't it Less miserable to not be alone anymore?" or "Isn't it acceptable to NOT want to be alone anymore?"

Armchair analysis. You NEED company but unconsciously you believe - for reasons only you are capable of remembering - that company is dangerous. It sounds like you're ready to bite the bullet, get to the origin, reframe the past experiences and "go for it." BUT, if there is a little squirrely part of your ego that is attached to the attention you get from being miserable and lonely - pitiful compensation though it may be - you have to deal with that part FIRST - convince it that you have a better use for its power in the here and now - namely happiness!

Answer 9

I believe you are referring to the expression "misery loves company" I think what this expression means is that it's good to have someone to be miserable with. You know? Either someone who has as many problems as you, the same problems as you, or else can validate your pain for you.
The first 2 of the list could be self destructive, could put you in a hole of pain that doesn't see light because now you've got someone to feed the pain and dig the hole deeper.
The third is the best. Someone who is enough removed from the pain you are going through, that they won't feed it. But will understand the pain and validate it as substantial and legitimate so they can start bringing you out of the hole into the light.

Answer 10

If one miserable person meets another miserable person, you have two miserable people. The key to losing your misery isn't in another person, no matter how wonderful they are. There's nothing wrong with wanting companionship, but realise that if you're not happy with you when everything is quiet, no one else is around, and it's just you... you won't be happy even with the most wonderful person ever created. Get to the place where you are happy with you and you'll be complete regardless of your marital/dating status.