My fiance and I have been together for 3 yrs now. We have gone through thick and thin with eachother. We have been apart for a year now. He was in the Navy when I met him and he chose to get out. Times got bad. We were staying with my parents and that turned into a disaster. They hate him for no good reason and when we payed rent they still wanted more money. Finally they kicked him out and he moved back home to his parents on the east coast. Since then he has found a good job and is trying to get back in the Navy. Being apart and only talking on the phone is killing our relationship. I am constantly sad and he gets mad at me when I cry and complain about the situation. He has told me that I act like a child and gets so furious that he insults me and tells me if I don't like it I can go find someone else. I am really in love with him and I tryed to tell him how he hurts me with his words but he just ignores it and tells me to stop whining. Please help I need some advice...
2007-06-10 17:25:28 · 9 answers · asked by Tiffany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I wouldn't be calling him my "fiance" anymore.
Long distance relationships are tough, there's no question about that. But if he's even told you if you don't like it to go and find someone else, I'd call his bluff and do just that. It sounds like he wants you to anyway. He's not enough of a man to break up with you and be honest with you, so he's just going to make you miserable until you dump him--so do it! Quit letting him make you feel miserable and hurt you--don't give him that much power over you!! Find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, not like a child! Good luck to you!
2007-06-10 17:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know why you would let anyone treat you like that let alone your fiance if he won't hear your pain he sure won't feel it you have been together for 3yrs he should at least know how to make you feel happy and loved it sounds like you been throw enougth already in case you don't know that's not love.. but i hope you find someone who can show you what real love is stop trying to tell him how you feel he really doesn't want to hear it get to know yourself and find out what make you happy and go get it what ever it is cause your happiness is not him good luck
2007-06-11 01:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by legna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry he treated you like that, so maybe you should let him go and find someone else to be with. I know there is someone out there who will treat you with the love and respect you so surely deserve, and I do hope you'll find him. Good Luck.
2007-06-11 00:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to stop whining, dump him, and find someone that really loves you! Don't let your parents get involved, ever! Don't put up with treatment like that!
2007-06-11 00:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by smerten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I now its burtal but if he treats you like that over the phone imgaine when you don't agree on something in person like... your MIL... You deserve better.
2007-06-11 00:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by h_lynn24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, a better question is how do I make good choices for myself and make a future with a man who respects me.
2007-06-11 00:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to make that decision, as forgiveness is very personal
2007-06-11 00:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of great fish in the sea..he should understand how you feel....
2007-06-11 00:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by o0xmmx0o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be desperate.
2007-06-11 01:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋