my mom has 2 go out of town 2morrow, she is training 2 become a manager at her job and she wants me 2 go, she keeps telling me 2 think bout it.. itz only like an hour away and she will be back friday but i really done want 2 go but i think she will be lonely up there, but i really really do not want to go so what can i say so she knows, without being mean because i already kind of feel bad.
2007-06-10 16:43:14 · 25 answers · asked by La'Dav'ion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go with her. remember she has probably done hundreds of things just for you that she'd rather not do. from changing your dipes on down. it's time for you to return the favor.
besides, you might have a areally good time if you go with the right attitude
2007-06-10 16:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by katy_bug56 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she did ask you to think about it. So she is giving you the option to say no. She maybe hurt or upset. But Maybe you can explain it to her that she can have some alone time. To get what she needs done. And then when she gets back you two can have a night out for dinner or something and talk about her trip.
My husband goes away on training things all the time, and they too are only an hour away or so, but after class and his studying. He says there isn't alot of time for much else. He might take a lap or two in the hotel pool, but the next day starts so early he is off to bed.
Believe it or not a phone call every night does go a long way.
Tell her to enjoy her time. Not to often a mom gets alittle peace and quite. Just tell her you true feelings. She is your mother and she will always love you no matter what.
Hope all works out
God Bless
2007-06-10 23:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by mom90cookin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright you say: "Mom, I love spending time with you, I think we have a lot of fun together. Do you remember all of the great times we've had? However, I feel that I don't want to leave though to go out of town, but NOT because of you. We wouldn't get to do anything, you will be too busy training and I don't want to distract you. What if I call you every evening and we can catch up and discuss our days? You could tell me about what you are learning, and I'll tell you about what I have been doing. It will only be for a few days, and when you get home, you can relax and give me your full attention, so that we can really have some fun without work getting in the way! And remember, I love you and you truly are the greatest mom in the world!" Sorry if its a bit dishonest, but its difficult because I don't fully understand the sistuation. Hope this helps!
2007-06-10 23:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by serendipity8010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk with her just like you just did. Tell her mom I don't want to hurt your feelings but I don't want to go. With it only being an hour away there is room for a compromise, say you go there till Wednesday and she'll be back Friday? Also let her know how proud you are of her training to become a manager. Good luck.
2007-06-10 23:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by phylobri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very sweet that you're taking your mom's feelings into consideration. With that being said, I'm sure she would appreciate knowing that as well. Just talk to her and let her know that you are really not into the trip and that the only reason you would be going is to spare her feelings and to keep her from being lonely. I think she'll appreciate that you're taking her feelings into consideration. Your mom will understand. She might be kinda bummed but as a mother you know that you have to let go sooner or later. Try promising to do something with her later like catch a movie or go out to eat. Reassure her that it's not spending time with her that bothers you, but that it's just the trip in general that turns you off. Good luck, you seem like a sweet kid.
2007-06-10 23:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is afraid to be out of town by herself. Can you think of anyone else that will go with her? If you end up going, just remind yourself of all the things she has done for you in the past! Maybe you will have a good time. Someday, you will wish you had spent more time with your Mom... Good Luck!!
I don't think your mom would ask you to do something you dont want to do , So talk to her a little to find out what her thoughts are behind this....
2007-06-10 23:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want you can just tell her that you promised to help some one move or some thing and let her put the rest to gather. Or tell her it is some thing to d with work, School, Etc.. Some thing that gives you know choice but to stay. Or some thing like you told your Friend that you would baby sit the next day so that way you can't go there are so many things you can say and still be nice about it.
Nikki
2007-06-10 23:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by NIKKI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would just go, so I wouldn't risk hurting my mothers feelings. And not only that, but like you said she'd be lonely up there. But since you don't want to go, I would sit down with her, and just have a talk. And see how she takes it. But if your mother seems sad when you tell her you really don't want to go, then maybe I would change my mind. I hope this is helpful to you
2007-06-10 23:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by jake k 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to go? Sometimes in life you have to do things you don't want to do for the people you love. This is one of those things. Maybe she wants you there for support through her training. Ask yourself, if things were the other way around, would she accompany you on your trip??? Of course she would - she' s your mom. Suck it up and go with her - you may have a nice time after all.
Good luck!
2007-06-10 23:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by njgrl622 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just watch a movie with your mom, like one on cable with commercials. During a commercial, bring up going out of town with her. Tell her that your really not up to going. Explain to her that you dont want her to be lonely, and if she really needs you there with her, then youll go. But let her know that your just really not up to going.
2007-06-10 23:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by xsweetemptashnx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋