to go back when you were 21, what would you do different...anything, relationships/schoo/work whatever counts? thanks in advance
2007-06-10 16:23:00 · 22 answers · asked by c'mon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Save more money for retirement!!!!!!!!
2007-06-10 16:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing different - everything was there for a reason. At 21 I was done my first degree, out in the working world, getting mature. Took a chance at a 'different' career that I had dreamed of, and was lucky to find out rather quickly that it wasn't for me. Glad I didn't marry the dude who asked me then, same with the one who I was serious about me when I was 24. Had gone back to school, got another degree, went back out into the working world, found the "right" man, got married at 28, first child at 30 - and it's been wonderful.
One changes SO much through the 20s!
2007-06-11 10:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the advantage of my experience I would not place so much importance on relationships, but more on school. I've old enough now to know that a relationship is something you can have at any age. There is not need to feel like, "If I don't do it now. I'll miss my chance".
School on the other hand is different. If you don't get it now, you will always be behind in the corporate arena. Additionally, employers want young minds, not old and recently educated.
At work I would have saved more money. At 21 one believes there is plenty of time to save and invest; spend for now. WRONG!
2007-06-10 23:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God... what a question.... well, now that I get to go back 19 years to when I was 21...
first off, I would not want to meet my wife until we were 25 or 26... we met at 16 and got married too young. I love her to death, but both of us wish we would have had more experience with others.
secondly, I would have saved all that $#$%^& money I made along the way so I would have something to show for the hard work.
I would have relocated to California much sooner, we love it here.
I would have appreciated what I had when I had it, before it was gone.
other than that,,, I would not change too much
2007-06-10 23:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by jdesey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow that is a mind search for sure. i would of gotten an education higher than high school, although i hated school. i woulld of been very careful with my personal life, i married for all the wrong reasons, spent 15 years of my life with someone i didnt love and now i am 50 and have found the love of my life and i will never get those unhappy years back. i guess my bottom line would of been at 21 to think life out more carefully and not be such a party girl.
2007-06-11 00:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by love the puppies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married a month before I turned 21. I probably would have waited a little longer before I got married. But I am pretty happy with the way my life has turned out........I am 29 now and I finished getting my nursing degree three years ago, so I probably would have went to college sooner.
2007-06-10 23:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by steeler_chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh! Great Question!!! When I was 21 I was in college...and having the time of my life. If I could go back to that time, I would have been single ...not had a boyfriend. I would have tried to meet more guys at school. I would have enjoyed my 21 year old BODY! I would realize that I wasn't "fat" or "old"!
2007-06-10 23:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by Dana 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would have taken off the rose-tinted glasses and married the right woman - the confident, intelligent, beautiful woman with the pure heart who stood up for her beliefs and refused to marry me because I was not of the same religion as her at the time. As opposed to the beautiful manipulator that I ended up converting for anyway, who told me what she knew I wanted to hear so I would bring her to this country so she could have a better life.
2007-06-11 04:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Dick Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd love to go back just for the fun of it. I wouldn't do too much differently. There are a few relationships I should have bypassed. But those things that happen in the past shape who we become as a person.
2007-06-10 23:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't think there is anything I would do differently. People always dream about what life would have been like if they did this or that, but then it wouldn't be your life now. So, if you are unhappy now, I can see you wanting to change it, but I am happy. If I changed anything it would have altered my life and my kids wouldn't be my kids if I wasn't with their dad and I might not have gotten remarried and found the love of my life finally. So, for me, honestly, I wouldn't change a thing. What we go thru makes us the people we are and lets us attract our mates.
2007-06-10 23:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I could I would have waited a year to get married in stead of rushing into it...that is the year I got married...also I would have had my own life instead of always having to be right there when he needed me...I would have taken a seat back and watch for awhile instead of being in the movie...and I would have kept my job...instead I quit the good job I had to be here....anytime....
2007-06-10 23:27:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋