if the spouse isnt satisfying physically ..is it right for the partner to go out physically ..continuing the marriage..and if not then what should the partner do when his/her physical needs are not met though with repeated attempts...should that person just lead the whole life without s** ? does that person have no right to satisfy self without harming anyone? should the person continue the marriage becos the spouse is gud in every way and when they have kids?
2007-06-10 16:22:28 · 28 answers · asked by jas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'll probably get crucified for this answer , but i could care less what you all think . things happen for a reason ,either good or bad. infidelity is not right ,but if it's the last resort , then i say do what you need to do.if this will help fill that missing void ,then so be it.
2007-06-10 16:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Infidelity is a sin, no it is not right for any reason. You chose a spouse, you married them, you said your vows in front of God. Cheating is cheating no matter how you try to justify it. If you love your spouse and kids and want to stay in the marriage, don't cheat or you will lose it all. Talk to your spouse and fix the sexual part of your relationship or get counseling. Don't just ignore it and go elsewhere. Think of your kids when your marriage breaks up and it will. Or what if you fall for the other person or they fall for you and start calling your house? So many things can happen. Take your marriage vows seriously and do whatever it takes to make it work, or else get divorced, then look around, but not before.
2007-06-10 16:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, infidelity is not right. If medical tests rule out medical causes, and if counselling can't get to the root of the psychological problems causing a lack of phyiscal satisfaction, then it would be better to divorce than to disrespect your marriage and spouse by cheating. Sex is supposed to be for marriage so if it does not exist there despite the best efforts of yourself and your spouse, then it may be time to call it a day rather than put each other and your marriage through the torment of infidelity.
2007-06-10 21:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Dick Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to satisfy your physical needs, however can you keep the emotional involvement at bay? What about AIDS or accidental pregnancy? Blackmail?? a lot of threats together. Only if you find a mature and a truly no-strings attahched kind of person, its ok... Second point - what about the other partner who isnt stepping out of the marriage to satisfy those needs? Is it justice to her? whats s/he getting in the bargain? I feel one should end the relationship if unhappy with the situation. If one is brave enough to face infidelity then carry on...good luck to those who dont get it and all the best to those who enjoy it at the stake of losing their family forever.
2007-06-12 00:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Deepblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be very sensible person what I found from your answers given to other questions & even have legal knowledge. You yourself know whether infidelity is right or not so I need not comment on this, but for the genuine problem of sexual satisfaction with ones spouse is concerned well definitely the basis of any marital home is standing on this sexual relationship for which any one gets social, religious & legal sanction & permission. If the very base of any marriage has cracked the sustaining the marriage is very difficult, hence the only criteria left is either to get the sexual deficiencies of the spouse treated medically or if it is not possible then move the court of dissolution of marriage. Unfortunately the concept of second marriage during the lifetime of first marriage is illegal for non Muslim Indians males, but getting another spouse during the first spouse with her/his permission can be another solution, but such a second marriage itself although with the permission of first wife/husband shall remain void & the second wife/husband shall not be able to enjoy the legal status of wife/husband & legal rights of inheritance & insurance etc, although her children will get right of legitimacy. Indulgence of frequent sex outside marriage with different partners can cause medical problems & sexually transmitting diseases such as AIDS etc hence it’s not at all medically advisable to do so even if necessary precautions are taken as none are 100% safe. I have here discussed all the possible solution to the given problem & no one should take I am propagating any of these on personal grounds. I have even told the legal & medical implications connected with each of the solutions hence any one indulging in it or purpose to do so should understand these implications too.
2007-06-10 20:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, It is wrong and not worth it you will regret it. If your gonna do that you might as well throw your marriage away. You are breaking your VOW.
Hang in there things will change, love your spouse anyway. Maybe something is bothering your spouse. Have you talked about it?
2007-06-11 00:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Chhaya05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are not being satisfied physically, maybe have a weekend get away, and set it up for romance. If that still doesn't work, communicate that you have needs... and ask your spouse what they are willing to do to meet those needs? Ask what your spouse's needs are. Find out if they think you meet their needs.
I do not think you should live your life without sex. That is not how we are made. And, that is not realistic.
Good Luck!
2007-06-10 16:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Infidelity is never right and is always hurtful. Have enough respect for yourself, your spouse and your marriage to work things out. Things will never get better if a third person is added into the mix.
2007-06-10 16:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Approach appears to be some what aggressive. Physical need is not the problem but the illness regarding it. Better consult doctors and psychologists first. They will treat both. Your proposed suggestion may be the last and last resort after exhausting all possibilities. Dear friend be patient.
2007-06-10 18:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is a sin. Just take her to a doctor. Marriage is all about commitment to each other and seeing each other thru hard times. Be strong. Dont give in to temptation. Work it out with ur partner. Trust me u wont regret it later.
2007-06-10 18:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anastasia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is EVER a time that infidelity is acceptable. There are counselors that work specifically on sexual problems in a marriage. Try EVERYTHING you can to keep you family together. It sounds like you have a good spouse in every other aspect of your life so work through the one that is not good........Good luck
2007-06-10 16:26:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋