My wife moved out almost six months ago and told me she is no longer in love with me. We have been married for 1.5 years, and been together for 5.5 years. How long should I wait to start dating again, even though I am technically married?
2007-06-10 16:19:05 · 50 answers · asked by jaroo23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should wait until you are no longer married.
2007-06-10 16:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jean H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not "technically married", your are married! I've been in this situation. What does she mean by a "time out" or are those your words? Does she say she wants a divorce? Is she willing to go to marriage counseling? And, of course, the big question, do you want her back?
I'm sure she got a lawyer before she moved out to check on what the law says about this. If she moved out, then you have cause to petition for divorce because of "abandonment". You have some advantages to be the one who files for the divorce instead of her.
When my x-wife moved out, she said she needed a "time out" and that she had not decided to divorce me. This was soon after I bacame physically disabled. If I would have filed for divorce then, I could have cited abandonment as grounds for divorce and I would be much better off financially than I am now.
By her saying she had not decided to divorce me, I didn't file for divorce. I didn't realize that in my state that being separated for 6 mos. was proof of "irreconcilable differences" and grounds for divorce.
For sure, you need to see a divorce lawyer ASAP and get advice. No, you should not date anyone as long as you are married. It will be assumed by the court that you are having sex with them. That is called adultery, and is grounds for divorce and could cause your wife to get more from you than she is otherwise legally entitled to.
2007-06-10 16:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife moved out six months ago and says she no longer loves you, then you should move on to divorce proceedings before dating again. Close the current chapter before opening a new can of worms.
2007-06-10 16:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Steven 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you had time to analyze things which you may have done or ways you acted that a change might influence a re-bonding with her? Is the marriage truly failed? I would say that if every avenue has been explored and nothing will work, only after the filing should you look. But even then you should take time to discover who you are alone.
Now if only I would have taken this same advice... ;)
2007-06-10 16:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by AverageJoe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation, i would really just slow things down a bit, and try to figure out how you can fix your relationship with your wife. And dating other people is definatly NOT the way to go about doing that. I highly suggest talking to your wife about marriage counciling if you are both willing to work things out. If that would be to uncomfortable for you, I suggest talking to your wife about wife about your relationship's future, and how she feels about staying together, geting a divorce, etc.
2007-06-10 16:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by avacado 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you got married, you made a promise it was forever. I think you need to do your best to honor that promise, firstly by attempting to reconcile. If that is truly impossible get a divorce, but dont go out with another woman until the divorce has been granted.
2007-06-10 16:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by pete the pirate 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if u still love ur wife then hold out a little longer...maybe shes going through a mid life crisis
if u dont then u should wait at least a year before seeing other women
2007-06-10 16:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. It's a personal choice. Though I would wait until the divorce is final. She could use it against you. The courts tend to favor women even if they are not the most just decisions.
2007-06-10 16:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either work on fixing it or get divorced. Most women aren't going to want to go for a guy that doesn't have the last chapter of his life cleaned up before starting a new one.
2007-06-10 16:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by bloom6810 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get divorced and get that out of the way first. So then you can get a fresh new start in finding the right woman who will love you always and forever.
2007-06-10 16:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't date anyone until you're divorced. If you're on a "time out", you must be willing to work things out. Either end it and move on, or fix it...you can't have it both ways. Most women think men that are "seperated" and still dating are schmucks.
2007-06-10 16:22:26 · answer #11 · answered by Just Nikki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋