I just started dating this guy. He is my first "boyfriend" I hung out with him and began to notice some very.... flamboyant behavior. I think he may be gay. What do I do? I am perfectly comfortable with gay people, but not comfortable dating some who is gay. If I go out with him agan and still think he is gay.... what do I do. If you say break up with him can u please tell me how I would do it? I dont want to be meana nd I dont want to hurt him. I also dont think I should accuse him of being gay because chances are he doesnt realize it and I shouldnt be the one to tell him!
Thank you!!!
2007-06-10 15:59:15 · 17 answers · asked by Green Eyes 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OK first off u don't really know he's gay he could just be metro or feminist so don't jump to conclusions u don't really know
2007-06-10 16:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be in touch with both sides..u know what i mean? I am not saying he is Bi or anything I am just saying... Also chances are if he is on a date with you he is not gay, or as you said he may not know it IF he is. Some guys that are raised around all females are not gay but in touch with their female side as well. IS he raised around a bunch of females? Just take it day by day and see how it goes. You will know in time.. or he will. Either way I am sure you have made a good friend and if nothing else tell him that is all it can be. Don't tell him you think he may be gay because if he is not and is a younger guy you dont want him questioning himself. good luck!
2007-06-10 23:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by dolphinlvr2330 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be wrong. If you tell him he'll be humiliated. Your probably his first girl. by your question I'm guessing that your 13 or 14 maybe. If so you are both new at this and should probably be friends. When you guys are kidding around and laughing just say "your such a good friend".
2007-06-10 23:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just ask him if he is gay? Don't assume anything! I use to date a guy like that and it turned out that he had alot of sisters and female relatives ,so it made sense to me after that.
2007-06-10 23:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by smithville_oakland_seattle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be his friend. Don't take it any farther. Just let it drift away. If he does ask then tell him that you don't feel right for him but you'd still like to be his friend. If you don't make it such a big deal, then I don't think he will either.
2007-06-10 23:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by bosco6159 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should break up with him. you dont want to go on liking him even more and then have him realize and come out to you.
I dont know how u will do this
2007-06-10 23:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that honesty is the best policy.
I would tell him exactly how you feel and the reason.
Maybe he is gay and he needs a reality check.
Maybe he isn't but needs a reality check.
His sexual preference is his issue.
2007-06-10 23:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by PIN954 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a sincere and open discussion with your Friend. You do not have to accuse him of something to be interested in finding out about him. You are entitle to be curious about his likes and dislikes and such.
2007-06-10 23:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by Ed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe thats just how he is..have you known him for that long? if not then maybe he is just the feminine kinda guy. not all men are manly and buff like we think..um and if he's gay ask him..would you ever date men? maybe he'd say yes maybe he wouldnt. but no matter what happens im sure you could just pull it off as a joke. if your uncomfortable with it.
2007-06-10 23:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by bikerchik999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gay ppl know they're gay. i'm bi. maybe he's bi. or he was raised in a predominantly female household/family. he could be metrosexual. metros are commonly mistaken for gays. it'll take some time.. but you have to determine for yourself if he's gay or not. look into metrosexuality lol. seriously.
2007-06-10 23:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋