should i be worried that my husband is attracted to the other ethnic races?

Question

my husband and i have a great marriage. i let him look at porn and even other women when we are out. i look at guys and he has no problem with that either. its human nature. the problem is when he looks at porn it is always at other races. he will even look at very fat women of other races but he won't give a second glance to the prettiest skinniest woman of our race. we are both of the same race but i am the first woman of our race he has ever been with. he says i am different. i have given him everything he has asked for sexually except a threesome and neither of us wants that anyway. he has given me no indication that he wishes to return to the other race. i know he is attracted to me because he looks at me like i am the most beautiful woman he has ever seen but it bothers me big time the way he won't look at other women of our race. am i overreacting. all advice welcome but would really like to hear from the men. thanks in advance

the races that he looks at are not new to him. He was married before to an asian woman and all his relationships have been with asian women so he has nothing to be curious about--he already knows. i am very secure about his commitment to me so thats why it doesn't bother me for him to look at these women. i mean, i like to look too, but thats just it- a look. i'd rather allow him to do it and know about than to have him do it on the sly and then feel like he's disrepecting me. everyone looks when they see something that appeals to them so i feel its just human nature. he even tells his friends he has the coolest wife b/c he doesn't have to sneak and do the things that they have to. this makes me proud. i guess i'm not concerned with the fact that he looks at these women but more concerned with the fact that he WONT look at women of our culture.

Answer 1

Men are visual and they tend to gravitate to the exotic and forbidden. If he's looking at other women of different races, he's just enjoying the fantasy of exotic forbidden fruit. Its harmless unless he begins to reject you or to cheat.

Answer 2

For black people bigger is better. I am a size 0 and not very attractive to most black men (physically). However, my husband is okay with my small frame. He may find women who are "thick" more attractive, but he is married to me, not them...

Realize that no matter who your husband fantasizes about he married you. Marriage is a big deal. Guys don't want to be "tied down". So for him to marry you is a sign that he loves you and is very much attracted to you(till death).

Dont worry.

Answer 3

If he looks at women of other races, but doesn't pursue them, then you really have no problem. It may be that he feels no attraction to women of your race, as he has you, and that's all he needs or wants.

Answer 4

First of all my question is, what is your race? Anyways i suggest that you ask him if he is uncomfortable his own race. When people have races that have been under control by other races i.e. japenese and white, they tend to feel funny... Do you think your husband is in the same case? If so tak to him about his sercuity of his race.

Answer 5

OOH, well you are way more secure than most people I know. If it bothers you that much, you should have a talk with him,and if he doesnt atleast make you somehow more comfortable, then you both have a serious problem

Answer 6

guys who prefers to view porns, usually have attached fantasies on what they view, no doubt and that maybe not a very good news to you. and you have no problem with that?!...with him fantasizing with other women. the really bad news, is only a matter of time he has the urge to satisfy his senses, with others.

Answer 7

He is just curious about other races... its nothing to worry about. maybe he's tired of his own culture and want to see how the women of other cultures interact O.o