Is it possible to hate your husband sooo much?

Question

I've been married to a man for8 years. In the 8 he has worked a total of 1 year . He has never been able to maintain a job. He sometimes leaves the house for two weeks at a time. I have done everthing to keep him out of my home. From locking and changing all locks, moving. Restraining orders. Telling him I don't love him. I hate him. It's better that we move our seperate ways. He somehow finds a way back inside my home. I can't even leave my bathroom window open or unlocked because he will climb in through there. He tells the police what ever they want to hear so they just ignore me when I call them. I live in a really good neighborhood. That it's emberassing to have the police over every day. I work 40 hrs a week, starting my own business. He does nothing all day. He sleeps all day. He doesn't help with house chores and eats all day. Whe asked to do something he say's he's not a slave. I'm to the point of commiting suicide. Thats the only way out

Answer 1

Try getting a divorce then that makes him an ex, police will sure listen to you then and it won't make any difference what he has to say. You need to start learning the word NO to him and start moving ahead instead of backwards.

Answer 2

You are losing it! Why are you still married to this man? File for Divorce immediately! Then, get a restraining order against him for stalking and harrassing you! That way, the police will be forced to arrest him if he comes into your home. Do not commit suicide over this man. He is probably mentally ill, which is why he cannot work. He needs medical help, but you need to get away from him.

Answer 3

I had a similar situation with my ex-husband. Except he would try to "charm" his way back into my life. I ended it by filing for divorce and putting a restraining order on him. He was not allowed to come to my house or my work. What ever you do suicide is not the answer. There should be several local agencies in your area to help you through this. Please make an effort to contact them.

Now I am remarried and am very happy. There is someone out there for everyone. Good luck.

Answer 4

Oh, for God's sake -- you need to grow a set of ba**s and end this crap.
#1) you need to hire a really GOOD lawyer -- one that gets off on shredding people apart. It will cost you but will be worth every cent.
#2) file for divorce -- you don't need his permission.
#3) get a restraining order with teeth in it -- your scummy lawyer will be happy to oblige
#4) have a home security system installed (like ADT). That way, when he breaks in the police will arrive, handcuff him and toss him in jail.
#5) when he shows up on your front steps a few days later, slam the door and lock it. Call the cops, roll up a magazine and belt yourself in the face with it until you have welts and red marks. When the police arrive tell them he assualted you. That will get him a minimum of thirty days in the slammer and a court date. Your lawyer will then have the enough to push the court for a more comprehensive restraining order until his NEW court date. His lawyer will inform him he is now facing two years in the state penn -- serious time by any standard. I'm telling you, judges hate dirtbags like him. If he has ANY brains at all he will call it quits and leave you for good. Remember, strength = calm, so make up your mind to win.
Don't let this dirtbag push you to suicide --push HIM to it!

Answer 5

Please read:
I'm so sorry your going through that. I can so relate with you! He sounds like a bum, or like a parasite. I'm sure you feel hate for him because of his lack of support towards you financially, and emotionally.

I suggest in your situation that if divorce is your only choice, than put a restraining order on him immediately for your own sanity. But please read on...

Obviously you still love him, or wish for things to change, and save your marriage, or you would have left him a long time ago. I once found myself in the same situation, my husband sat on his butt all day for the first nearly 4 yrs. of our marriage, while I kicked my butt working 24/7, and paid the bills! All this because of lack of self-confidence, and depression due to his best-friend and cousin being murdered.

What motivated him was God's word, and this scripture, and the threat of divorce looming over us. Now we have a beautiful son, and I'm a stay-at-home mom and he supports us by working full-time, for over 2 years now. I'm so proud of the change he's made, he's a loving father, and a wonderful husband. There is hope!

According to the bible: 1 Timothy 5:8 -"Certainly if anyone does not provide for those who are his own, and especially for those who are members of his household, he has disowned the faith, and is worse than a person without faith" Under this law there is bases for seperation, and divorce.

If you wish to try and save your marriage, please visit this site: http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/1/8/article_01.htm

I urge you to at least read the following article, alot of times we leave a marriage, only to bring emotional baggage and encounter new problems to deal with in a new relationship.:
This article is called:
"Trapped in a Loveless Marriage" and through God's word the bible it will help you with questions and answers such as:
1.) Why does love fade?
2.) Is there reason for hope?
3.) How to throw the ball gently
4.) What's involved in how your spouse should honor you and how you can honor him
5.) New mate, same problems?
6.) Conflict? How serious? and the power of the tounge
7.) How to Defuse Explosive Arguments
8.) How to maintain a Realistic outlook

Wisdom From Bible Proverbs

Proverbs 10:19: "In the abundance of words there does not fail to be transgression, but the one keeping his lips in check is acting discreetly."
When you are upset, you may say more than you mean to—and later regret it.
Proverbs 15:18: "An enraged man stirs up contention, but one that is slow to anger quiets down quarreling."
Stinging accusations will likely make your spouse defensive, whereas patient listening will help both of you work toward a resolution.
Proverbs 17:27: "Anyone holding back his sayings is possessed of knowledge, and a man of discernment is cool of spirit."
When you sense that anger is building, it is best to keep quiet so as to avoid a full-blown confrontation.
Proverbs 29:11: "All his spirit is what a stupid one lets out, but he that is wise keeps it calm to the last."
Self-control is vital. A temperamental outburst of harsh words will only alienate your spouse.

I truly hope this has helped you.

Answer 6

File for divorce. Get another restraining order. Move again or remove his name from the lease. If the home is owned by you or him, its marital property Ask the judge that he grant you the home until you go to court for the divorce, that way he can't legally come into the house.

This loser is basically stalking you. Enforce the restraining order, refuse him entry into the home. Do whatever you need to do to keep him out.

Answer 7

What you describe is a "deadbeat"...they are the worst of all possible people. Don;t kill yourself - get busy living and rediscover life. You can do it. You just have to make a decision, get a plan, and get moving. Life is too short and far too precious to waste it on a downer...It sounds like you have a lot to offer.

Find yourself a counselor...you'll be surprised at how much it helps if you get the right one.

Answer 8

If you are serious about getting a solution to this issue. Contact your local domestic violence agency, they can assist you in getting a restraining order and if he violates it he will be thrown into jail... File for a divorce and he will have no choice but to leave. You can get rid of him, you simply have to be very diligent in the process. Good luck to you and God bless****

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Don' give up call the Attorney General Office in your state & ask them what u can get him out odf your life. Can u afford to move? In my own experience I sold everything except what i could get in my car & i moved to missouri. 3 years after that i remarried & my husband past away 2003. But my 2nd husband ran around on me plus after 14 years I had enough. I haven't seen him anymore.Ask God to help u & he will show u the way. BIG HUGS to YOU..................star