Anybody have any input from any perspective?
2007-06-10 13:21:08 · 41 answers · asked by jlassw101 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oops I am not the one getting married I'm too young for that. My dad just told me he was getting remarried and I am a little shook up
2007-06-10 13:31:26 · update #1
I think that is too soon. Maybe your dad would be willing to have a longer engagement? It would be worth talking to him about. Perhaps he doesn't feel complete unless he has love in his life...You need to talk to him man to man and let him know how you feel. I'm truly sorry for the loss of your mother.
2007-06-10 13:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it IS rushing it. But some men just can't live without a woman around so it's also understandable. If you are the kind of guy who really needs a woman around, and you think you've found the right woman, then it might just be okay so long as you don't have children who object. Your children (if any) should take top priority. Assuming the kids are grown, get yourself a good lawyer to draw up papers so the kids don't lose their inheritance and go get married. Be happy again.
2007-06-10 13:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it's not rushing it. It's probably too soon for you and I don't know what to say about that. I guess give your Dad's new wife the benefit of the doubt. Nobody says you have to love her right off or ever. But I would say, at least give her a chance to have a relationship and make the best it can be. Go at your pace and what ever is comfortable for you and don't accept pressure from anybody to feel anything other than what you feel. If that makes sence.
2007-06-10 13:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems quick to me. Maybe your dad is worried about raising you (and your siblings?) on his own. My guess is thats part of the underlying reason he's remarrying so soon. You have every right to tell him that you're shook up about it, though. If you feel like it's disrespectful to your mom or that YOU aren't ready for another woman to live in your home, tell him that.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-06-10 13:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too early to move on with someone else and having a relationship. I think one year is fine. But as far as actually getting married, it may be better to just wait a bit more.
PS: Just curious: if you're planning to get married after 1 year, how long after your wife died did you actually find someone new? I mean, it must have been just a few weeks/ months after that?
2007-06-10 13:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were happy with your late wife, and being married brought you happiness, and you have found another woman who could bring that kind of happy contentedness back into your life, then no it's not rushing.
I love being married with all it's ups and downs I would not trade it for the single life, and if I died I would want my husband to find someone to be happy with as soon as possible. I would want him to live again, even without me. I don't think it is dishonoring in any way.
2007-06-10 13:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am sorry but I think you are. I think you should wait at lest 2 maybe 3 years . For respect for your last wife. How can you find someone and know you want to marry them so fast? How did you know she is the one? I just do not understand. I know people who have done this and it dose not last. I understand you not want to be alone. But you needed to give your self sometime. But you do what you feel is right to you. only you know how you feel and know if you are ready or not. Good luck...
2007-06-10 14:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know there are mixed emotions on this issue and personally guess it is dependent upon the person
seems that men have a harder time adapting than women
seems that women are in the long run much more committed to the prior relationship
seems men just do not have the same level of coping skills
sometimes it appears the Lord just knows better and sends the next best person to supply the human needs thru another spouse
2007-06-10 13:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is something that not anyone but yourself can answer. There is no set time on proper grieving of any family member. The main thing is how you feel. Just don't rush into anything that you do not want to do.
2007-06-10 13:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by Just Want To B Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an individual decision. Everyone grieves differently. Just be sure you are marrying for the right reason, not just because you are so sad and lonely. You should remarry because you love the person deeply.
2007-06-10 13:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by MaryUm 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋