i've been marrige for 6 years and we had a son toghter now we are divorce and its been 6 month and now when i go and take my son from my ex wife every saturday and sunday 11:30 till 4:30 he comes to me happilly and i take him everywhere he wants to go like park and stuf but when it comes to take him back to his mum he doesn't want to go back but i've to take him back cause its court order and he is only 4 1/2 years old and when he does that it's heart me so bad some times i think i should stop meeting him.
2007-06-10 12:38:33 · 18 answers · asked by y-u-left-me-alone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NEVER STOP!
If your son is enjoying your company, then be for him, for ever!
maybe you can talk to the judge/lawyer to see your options.
maybe if you and your wife were more sensible and spent a little time to think about your son, his feelings and his future, you wouldn't have acted like DUMB GROWNUPS to get a divorce!
Who is more important? him or you? Don't be so selfish and stupid to let him alone and betrayed!!!
2007-06-10 12:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Miki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you stop seeing him, then you are only making matters worse.
Of course, he is going to cry, because he does not understand why you have to leave. It is going to take a long time for him to realize and understand why this is happening. You are just going to have to be patient. And as heartbreaking as it is, you are just going to have to deal with it. This is one of the many unfortunate consequences of a divorce when children are involved.
Just stay strong and keep visiting. Time will help you to both adjust. Maybe as he gets a bit older you can get more visit time. Many states have what they call "age of reason". This is where the child gets to choose who he wants to live with. Explore this in your state. Some states it is 11 or 12, I know. But at least it is something that could be a possibility if he truly wants to live with you down the road.
You just have to hang in there. Part of being a parent is being strong in the weakest moments. Running out on him so that you don't have to face it is the WRONG thing to do. He needs you now more than ever.
Hang in there.
2007-06-10 19:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't under any circumstances stop seeing him!! He needs you. At 4 1/2 they really do not understand divorce and fighting. Just please have a good relationship with your ex wife because your son will suffer if the two of you don't get along. You and your ex should make him the top priority in your lives and work things out and be friends for this child's sake. He needs to know that you both love him very much.
2007-06-11 15:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to meet up with him, a boy needs a father. Every child needs a father. Even if you only get him on weekends. He doesn't want to go back, probably because you take him to do whatever and take him everywhere and he has lots of fun, when he goes home, he probably has to go to daycare or something, and has schedules, not just fun all the time. But don't stop seeing him because he's upset to go home. If you were to keep him for a week or so, he'd probably start asking for his mom.
2007-06-10 19:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by Megan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop meeting him he needs you in his life. We my ex and I had the same problem with his daughter when she was 8 years old. I know its hard when time has come to take him back but just try and support him and help him get through this time. He loves you.
2007-06-10 19:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to be kidding....... Your son is telling you something here!!!!!!!!!!!!! You may need to get back to the courts to let an expert examine his actions. May bee something is wrong at home with mom. You would be less than a man, only a piece of a father, even half a human if you decided not to meet him again. Let your kid tell you what's up. Kids are smarter than parents think they are. TALK TO THE BOY IN BOY LANGUAGE.
2007-06-10 19:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by russbillen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say. I as a mother would want the best for the child. And if the child preferred to live with the father. Even though hurt I would accept it. But not all women think like me.
2007-06-10 19:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you stop meeting him? You better stay apart of that boys life. He's upset that your not around and he wants to be with you. You and your ex need to sit with him and explain in the best way you can why you can't stay around. Get some group counseling to help him deal with this if you can.
2007-06-10 19:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by plumber19682000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not stop meeting with your son. If you do this, you are going to hurt him more. Does he tell you why he doesn't want to go home to his mother? He only sees you twice a week and obviously misses you and has fun with you. If his mother is working full time, she is not able to spend the "fun time" with him because she has other responsibilities. Please do not stop seeing your son. My ex did this to my son and it hurt him terribly.
2007-06-10 20:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by catgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep seeing your son! He just loves the time he has with you because it is all fun and games, which is great. When he has to go back home it is back to the same things withs his mom. Which is not always fun stuff. It is the day to day grind. So keep seeing your son and give him a day of fun!
2007-06-10 19:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Dance 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋