Currently me and my husband are separated. He says he loves me and still wants to be with me but that so much arguements are making him doubt. He says he needs his time to figure out what he wants. I've started praying and believe that praying to God will help. I have prayed for other things such as my grades and it worked and I always offer something to God in return to show my gratiude. I prayed to God to help me save my marriage and help my husband clear he's doubts. I offered God that I would become a better person by volunterring to help children, which I've already started appyling to agencies to help out. I believe that my faith and my sincere believe in God will help. Am I mistaken? Any suggestions will help.
2007-06-10 11:51:18 · 31 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's no problem in praying to God and yes He is the answer to all problems but you as a person need to sit and evaluate yourself as are you quick tempered, are you flighty, do you give him a chance to speak his mind without you interrupting him? And no your not mistaken but you needn't have to pay God for His deeds that you have asked.
2007-06-10 11:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that God uses people as vessels to do his work and to help each other. Faith is a wonderful tool. I attend a church that teaches us to PUT THE WORD IN ACTION". Sounds like you want your husband to act the way you want him to act. He has to be himself and make up his own mind about your relationship. You have to be able to accept the things you cannot change. Sometimes we want things so bad but God knows best. We can have faith to believe some things but they never manifest and then we think that God did not answer our prayer. Yes he did. I believe that it is then that he is showing you that he knows what's best for you. You say there's a lot of arguing. He can't argue by himself, you must be taking a part in it. Maybe you need to be still. Allow God to use you as a good example. Don't argue with him about the situation or try to force him back into your life. Sometimes too people are only in our lives for a season. Take note, give him time. Keep trusting and thanking God in your prayers for his resolution. If it's meant to be then it will. God bless!
Peace and Love
2007-06-10 12:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by moogles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a Godly union.
Get a Bible and read ALL that God has to say about that union and how it is supposed to operate and once the vows are made to GOD (not eachother, as most people believe) it is a Life Time union. Read what God has to say about Divorce and the only reason he will condone it.. however once divorced (as long as your spouse is breathing) you are not to remarry as it is considered Adultery (God's words, not mine).
God makes NO deals with anyone, you speak as if God has agreed to a "deal". That's not the way it works.
When you pray.. pray that God will change YOUR heart. Pray that he intervenes in the marriage. Your faith should be sufficient. Believe that he will do what HE knows to be best, not what YOU think is the best solution. You do have one thing going for you though .. he'd rather married people stay together and love and forgive one another for wrongs committed (just like He does with us), rather than divorce.
God is not a Wish Granter.
God is GOD and he keeps promises.
Read about all the promises that God has made to us (in respect to marriage as well)
2007-06-10 12:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having faith and believing in GOD will always help any situation. But don't think GOD let you down if you and your husband don't work things out, because sometimes that is how GOD works. He does for us the opposite of what we want because he indeed believes and knows it's what is best for you. Say you don't end up back with your husband and you both go your seperate way. Years or months or time down the road you may find that someone that is and was everything your husband isn't or wasnt and that may be who GOD intended you to be with and that be the reason he didn't answer your prayer in the way you thought he would. But yes the power of prayer is amazing. Keep praying to GOD and all things are possible.
2007-06-10 11:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely.... A praying wife is a devoted wife. It is always best to pray about situations in your life. The fact that you are praying for your marriage shows that you care and that you really want to fight for your marriage. Everything is based on faith... without it... we are all lost. You are doing a great thing. God will never take you where the grace of God can not protect you... continue to pray about your marriage and let God handle the rest. There will always be challenges in your marriage... but with faith and patience... it will come to pass. Also, continue to try and communicate with your husband... let him know that you still believe that you two can work things out... and that he is still the man for you... still the love of your life. If God brings you to it... he will always bring you through it. Good Luck... I hope things work out between you two soon.
2007-06-10 12:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to save your marriage, it has to be a two way thing. Based on your message, it sounds like you feel the problem lies with your husband rather than both of you. If you really want to save your marriage, you should focus on getting to the root of the problems and trying to solve those problems. Perhaps you need to seek counseling together.
Maybe the problem isn't that either of you is doing something wrong. Maybe it's just a matter of not communicating effectively or just being incompatible. Regardless, if you both want to save your marriage, you both have to be focused on resolving your conflicts.
I don't believe in God so I'm inclined to think praying for help is a waste of time. When it helped with your grades, I would guess it's probably because you studied more and/or were more focused on studying.
2007-06-10 12:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not Santa Claus with gifts of good grades & marriages. To do stuff so you get stuff is hypocritical. God can not do your work for you. If your marriage is on the rocks well it's your challange and how you handle it is the true measure of your worth.
If you want to pray why not ask for clarity, strenght in your situtation or defintitley give thanks for the good in your life.
God didn't give you good grades you did, and I doubt he will intervene in your delima of your marriage. You have all the tools you need to get through whatever you are going through. We don't get more than we can handle. Faith is key. Have faith that everything is as it should be that your marriage will survive this.
Good luck
2007-06-10 12:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice that you are praying, but God himself cannot fix the issues. If both you and your husband want to fix this then you work on it together. Find out what you both need and then work from there. Your faith in God is at the forefront of your mind and at this moment it seems that you are using God to not face want is going on, it may be clouding your mind in what you truely need to do.
I am not saying dont have faith, I am saying there are times when you need to see things clearly.
2007-06-10 12:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray always is answered but sometimes the answer is no. You need to keep moving forward. Meanwhile, think about marriage counseling a 3rd party can help you 2 find out why you argue so much and see if reconciliation is possible.
2007-06-10 12:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praying comes with firm conviction that he will answer your prayer. Understand this - asking if it will help shows that you are not totally convinced. You have to believe with firm conviction that when you pray it would be answered but there is another side - you cannot question his decree. God loves those that help themselves. Praying for your marriage is one thing but making the necessary changes to help your marriage is also necessary. The arguments need to stop in order for your husband to come back and if there are changes that needs to be made within yourself you need to make it - that together with prayer would be the answer.
2007-06-10 12:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by jodie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not mistaken, you have faith and God will be there for you. If you do not have faith in God then what will you pray to?
You are in the right direction, hopefully it'll all work out.
If it doesn't then know that God has something else planned for you and you still must not loose faith!
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-06-10 11:56:02 · answer #11 · answered by WICCA 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋