2007-06-10 11:10:51 · 17 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Er. No. You put on your big girl pants and deal with it. Get some counseling.
2007-06-10 11:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you were married? were you engaged at the time? If not, you have to deal with it and get on with your life. I've been married to great woman for 23 years now. We were not virgins when we married. How can you justify holding it against someone for something that happened before you made a commitment to each other. Why let your insecurity ruin a (hopefully) good marriage? Trust is so very important in a relationship. Communication si also a top priority. If it was before you, drop it if you can. If not, then you and your spouse need to sit down and have an honest talk about it. If their are other issues, you need to prioitize them in your mind and then discuss them. If you can't, your wasting your marriage. No marriage is easy when first starting out. We had some "bumps" in the road. but if you can work thru them. you can have a strong marriage. The only things that I would say are reasons for divorce are physical violence, drugs or alchohol or cheating spouses. If you love him, work it out. If your lives are miserable because of any of the reasons I listed, get out now and stop making each other miserable. Otherwise, hold on and make it work. Good luck. Maybe 23 years from now you can be answering someones question about marriage too.
2007-06-10 11:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by randy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk! He crossed a line he should have NEVER crossed, an affair in itself is bad enough but with one of YOUR family members is low. DIVORCE him at once and DO take his lying cheating @SS to the cleaners. Take EVERYTHING you can, go after property, his retirement, spousal support, child support (if minor children are involved). Start tucking some cash away NOW but NOT in a bank account with your name on it, for legal reasons pertaining to a divorce. Maybe buy a fire proof box, hide it at a TRUSTED family or friends home (keep it locked & don't tell ANYONE what's in it), stash all the cash you can get away with in the box. Empty bank accounts and remove property you want to keep prior to a divorce filing, if ya have to, tell em you sold it to pay a bill or something if he asks. Taking his @SS to the cleaners financially may teach him a valuable lesson, NOT TO CHEAT. Good luck and I am sorry about any pain you may be experiencing and so close to the holidays too, what a JERK!!
2016-04-01 00:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew this before the marriage, and still married him anyway, right?
So how can you change your mind now?
I know it sucks because it was a family member that he slept with, but still....he is not making a big issue of the people you were with before the marriage is he?
So let it go. There are plenty of other things you can find that are worthy of your emotions.
If you waste your time being honked off about this, then you are going regret it. Life is too short.
Get over it. Be thankful he isn't still sleeping with her.
2007-06-10 11:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did that Before you were married.. that was a decision you should have made BEFORE you walked down the aisle.
I think you know that though and are looking for an excuse to get out of a marriage that you're not satisfied with (using THAT as the excuse).
When you married him.... you made the decision right then to "get over it'>
2007-06-10 12:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world we would all wait for marriage to have sex but it's not that way. Your feelings because of this is why we should wait. But now that your married you shouldn't divorce. He married you so you are the one that he loves. Jealously can really hurt the person you love because it can cause you to say hurtful things. Remember he married you!
2007-06-10 11:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by rosa3332003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok!! I have to say if ur husband slept with ur cousin and it was before engaging you , its fine . But if he did that while he propoust to you , that is just wrong . And u still decided to married him knowing that he did it. So u have to trust him and make sure he is not seeing her alone.
2007-06-10 11:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't divorce him...what happened before you was just that BEFORE you...work past it. Go to individual counseling to get it off your chest...work it out...let that mess stay in the past and focus on the present and future. Plus you knew it before you married him, just let it go....and have a great marriage
2007-06-10 11:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was before you were married? Before marriage a person is free to do what they want, right or wrong. How long have you been married? Was he engaged with you at the time? Was he going out with her first? Need a little more info.
2007-06-10 11:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why did you marry him, then? Possibly - he certainly has very little morals or values. Or even boundaries.... I would try some marital counseling or individual counseling, at the very least. It's tough to answer this question because I am not sure why you married him.
2007-06-10 11:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that was before you got married. did you know about it before or after? If it was after just try to work it out. if it was before should he divorce you because of your ex's?
2007-06-10 11:15:54 · answer #11 · answered by Cowgirl Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋