Every since me and my husband Geogre had our 3 child he has been visiting his ex-wife Vicky. He tells me that their just friends. We've had picnics together and everything else so I'm not sure if I have the right to say anything. But sometimes I feel worried when I go out of town. One time I went on a trip by myself and the CHILDREN told me that he'd visited Vicky again. Makes me scared that Geogre didn't tell me... Am I overreacting? Should I pull out divorce papers?
2007-06-10 10:48:43 · 16 answers · asked by simmersrock24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't pull out the divorce papers. But yes be worried and no your not overreacting.
And it is your right to say something! You are his wife!
Tell him it makes you uncomfortable when he goes to see her nad you want it to stop. The two are divorced and he is MARRIED to YOU now there is no reason for him to see her. Unless they have kids together and then still there is no reason for him to be going and seeing her without you. Period. End of conversation.
Then go from there.
2007-06-10 11:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ex wives will and always will be a third wheel in a new relationship no matter what - not because they are but because the husbands allow them to be. Being friends is one thing but stepping out of the bounds is another. You always have a right and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Firstly you have to determine if you are overreacting. I would say that men sometimes dont think of the impact they have and how things hurt until it becomes to late. I would suggest that you tell him you have no problems with their friendship however if you see signs of things happening that would put a dagger in your relationship - then you will have to let him know. Dont pull out divorce papers at all - he is married to you not her - but if you act like a jealous freak over nothing then it would give him reason to talk to her more as they are friends. If you would like to email me r_ali70@hotmail.com I can certainly help you - I am in the same postiion.
2007-06-10 11:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by jodie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you are reading more into this than there really is and combined with a little jealousy, the human mind could conjure up anything possible. Im not going to guarantee that nothing is happening but I seriously doubt it. But since you do know about her and his contacts with her, this sounds more of a friendship than an affair. Keep a close eye on this but dont go overboard on the worrying and put the divorce papers away for now. Good luck
2007-06-10 10:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do they have kids together? Is it possible that there is an issue that they have not closed on? They were friends once, and it is a good thing that they can continue to be friends.
The question is why did he leave her? Did she kick him out for cheating? Did you help him cheat on her? Generally there are guys who cheat and those who don't. If he cheated on her, then he may be cheating on you. If he didn't, then there may be another reason.
Either way, at least you should talk to a counselor -- if you think there is cheating going on, then there must be a reason and definitely is a lack of trust in the relationship.
2007-06-10 10:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you have divorce papers on standby??? I would question my husband as well, but you also gotta trust that when he says their friends their just that...If you don't have any proof of infidelity than just the children told you I wouldn't jump to conclusions. He doesn't sound like he is hiding anything from you, maybe the kids told you before he could....If you know and have been on picnics together then he wants to try to make you comfortable and also let his ex see how happily married you guys are....remember she is the ex...not you, he is with you. Be glad that he is confident in you and your relationship to include you on the visit to his ex....also, talk to him about how uncomfortable it makes you...good luck
2007-06-10 10:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you imply permit him? Does he answer to you, even when it entails his kids? Does he pay baby help through the courts? If he does, then he will have to have visitation rights, which means he will have to be allowed to decide upon the children up from ex's apartment and carry them to you and his dwelling for the week finish. IF he does now not have these preparations, then the ex has him by means of the b***'s.
2016-08-11 16:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you propose enable him? Does he answer to you, even whilst it consists of his little ones? Does he pay toddler help with the aid of the courts? If he does, then he ought to have visitation rights, which potential he ought to be allowed to %. the little ones up from ex's living house and produce them to you and his living house for the week end. IF he does not have those arrangements, then the ex has him by making use of the b***'s.
2016-10-07 06:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did they have kids together? If so, they could be discussing the custody or something. If not, talk to George about it, and let him know that you don't want Vicky around. If it still happens, get a judge, and talk to him about this...get down to the bottom of this, and if George happens to be cheating on you, sue his sorry butt, divorce him, and get the custody of your kids.
BEST OF LUCK
2007-06-10 12:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by mnmz4lyf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My my my, everybody's SO eager to divorce these days, something ain't right with the visit stuff but again, what are you doing when you're gone . . . just visiting "friends too? You both seem pretty non-committed in making that marriage work. Might as well divorce, this marriage is running aground.
2007-06-10 10:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you try talking to him and to her (separately).
I am best friends with my Ex.
Why did they break up?
Why is he wanting her to be apart of your lives?
It may be totally innocent......
Do they have kids together?
Maybe ask that he not see her unless you are with him....
We get along better now that we are divorced than we did when we were married.
We have an agreement ; that we would rather have each other as friends than to get back together and ruin the friendship that we have..
People find it odd that we can be friends and that is all.
But our kids like it better this way also because we all get along. He had 2 kids and I had 2 kids when we met. We never had kids together.
2007-06-10 10:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by mischievious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋