He's trashed the house, caused such a commotion the neighbors were looking. He got after me and I had to bite him (brought blood)to get away and when I poured out the rest of his booze, he threw the bottle at me. I'm so sick of this every weekend. He's asleep now and I'm left to clean up this mess. I don't want him arrested because then it would be huge fine we can't afford to pay. How can I make him stop drinking?
2007-06-10 10:28:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
you should leave him.......you don't need that kind of abuse
2007-06-10 10:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by The Spazz 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I feel ya. Unfortunately I live at home still and I have to deal with my Dad drinking every weekend. He has not been physical but he does slam doors and break stuff and picks a fight we me and my mom for no reason. He cannot handle his booze. I don' think there is a way to get anyone to stop drinking. My Dad apologizes in the morning and then just does it all over again next weekend. AA is the only thing that can help. But getting him there and sticking with it is another story. Wish I could be more helpful.
2007-06-10 10:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
He needs serious AA help! Please get away from him before he seriously hurts you. If you cannot leave him, make sure you have a backup plan so you have somewhere to go on a moment's notice (ie- best friend/sister/other family member - give them a folder with copies of important documents - have a different bank account with cash in it for an emergency - document all the abuse you take from him, verbal, physical or otherwise - go to an Adult child of an AA meeting to get a connection started...) TAKE CARE OF YOU. Alcoholism is an illness. You cannot cure him. You cannot fix him. Best of luck to you, I really hope this works out for you.
2007-06-10 10:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Zoecat 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I deal with addicts and alcoholics all the time. First, call around to find a residential treatment center that accepts your insurance. Set it up for him to be admitted on a certain day. Finding one close enough to drive him there will be better. Then get family, friends, and co-workers to agree to take part in an intervention. If you don't know what that is, or how it works, watch an episode of of "Intervention" on the A&E Channel (Sunday nights at 8:00 PM Eastern). Basically, this is where family and friends tell the alcoholic that they need to quit denying their problem and get help. Often there is an ultimatum attached... do it or we're cutting you off because we can't watch you kill yourself. Or in the instance of family members who have been abused, do this or we're out of here because you cannot keep treating us this way. Get some of his male friends or family members to agree to drive him to treatment. You should go along, but don't try to take him yourself in case he becomes hostile. Talk to the admissions staff, because he probably will not be entirely honest with them. In all likelihood, he will be in denial about the severity of his drinking.
Give this a try. If he cannot make it work after a 30 day residential treatment program, aftercare therapy, and AA, then you need to let him go. But first give this a chance. You will need to know that you have done everything in your power to help him before calling it quits.
2007-06-10 10:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by cherochap 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I'm sorry for your misery. It appears you are in somewhat of an abusive relationship brought on by alcoholism. The one thing you cannot do is MAKE him stop drinking. He has to want to stop as with any other addiction. If he should want to stop you can only help him just as no one can MAKE you leave him.
2007-06-10 10:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kandie 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately you can't change anyone. They have to want to change. I gave my ex a choice, me or the booze, he chose the booze and I chose to leave. Best choice I ever made. Now I am married to the man of my dreams, who treats me like I am a queen. You just made a bad choice, now it's time to make a good one.
Best advice I can give you is: Get out NOW! This kind of behavior only escalates and no one deserves to be treated that way.
Good luck to you my dear.
2007-06-10 10:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sr. Mary Holywater 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Leave him. You deserve better than that. Set your standard higher. It's not easy to make an alcoholic stop drinking. Don't put up with it.
2007-06-10 10:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
you can't make him stop if he doesn't want to the only thing you can do is leave him it won't get better it will be worse if you stay with him i watched it get worse when my mom was with her last boyfriend he said he quit but we knew better he would hide his drinking and that when the fun really starts
2007-06-10 10:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by The brat 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
keep calling the cops on him,make him keep sober in jail,or just get rid of him if you don't want the hassle forever!
2007-06-10 10:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Call AA.
You all need help.
He can only change if he wants to.
You are in danger.
2007-06-10 10:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Is this person a relative? Leave them, that's what I did.
2007-06-10 10:32:25 · answer #11 · answered by anonymous 3 · 4⤊ 4⤋