What should i do...my daughter and her boyfriend had sex!!?

Question

One day i went out to the store and came back early, (my daughter and her boyfriend were watching a movie together) when i heard weird nosies, i went to go and check on her and was having sex with her boyfriend! I dont know what to do! Ground her? Ban her boyfriend? AHHH! please help!

Answer 1

You leave out some information. How old daughter and boyfriend? Also, and perhaps this is the more important question, how old were you when you first had sex? If you were the same age as your daughter, please explain your issue?

Answer 2

I think you should have a word with your daughter about what you saw when you came home that day, See what she has to say, hear her side of the story first. Then have your say and decide what you have to. Also I think you should ask her if she used protection or not and if she did'nt, tell her that she can go to a clinic and get free condoms or maybe she could go to her doctor and ask for the pill.
I don't agree that's its right to have sex under your parents roof to be quite honest even if you are 16 and over, Its not right, people need to learn and respect that...!!! But at the end of the day you can't stop your daughter from seeing her boyfriend, because it wont work she'll find other ways so that they can be together. Good luck with what you decide to do I'm sure you'll make the right choice.

Answer 3

Hey man, I think the age is whats going to make the difference here. If she is 13-15 I think you should definitely try to ban the boyfriend and teach her the importance of school and college, and maybe find a teen mom that screwed up early to talk to her. If she is 16-18, follow the same steps as above but introduce birth control. She's going to do it anyways, you know that. Be on her side and dont be angry, its all part of life, and you definitely want to be a friend and not the enemy.

Answer 4

How old is your daughter and her boyfriend anyway? A very important thing to consider in a family relationship is communication. Don't just drag her or her bf out ouf the house or something. Talk to your daughter first. Ask her how long have they been doing it and why did she think of doing it. Let her unfold her explanations and emotions. Then explain your values and virtues as a mother to your daughter and let her understand your feelings and thoughts about this. You can also try to talk to the bf. It isn't because you're into ruining your daughter's life and sticking your nose into their business, but as a mother, you still have responsibilities to your daughter no matter what area of life it is, and that includes her own betterment. Discuss with this boy his issues and concerns and what it is he really is after from your daughter. If you don't like it then tell them, but if you allow safe sex then tell them as well. It's just a matter of talking everything through and making these young people understand what they are getting themselves into. In this generation, it is difficult to stay away from temptation, but it is still a must to provide awareness and education about these things. Hope I've helped in a way, good luck!

Answer 5

How old is your daughter? Honestly.. if shes like 16 and up... alot of kids are doing it. Theres really no use in "banning her from her boyfriend"- lets be honest.... shes gonna find a way to see him.

Why dont you instead talk about the importance of protection and go with her to get birth control?

Shes a "young girl in love" (atleast THINKS she is) and if you turn this into a big thing she is going to resent you and not care what you think. Instead educate her on how important it is to love someone before you have sex and how to have safe sex.

Answer 6

there is a few thing extremely incorrect with this photograph, She is 15 years previous and he or she is having intercourse on your place decrease than your roof! have you ever long gone mad? you're actually not coaching her something. particular you're a undesirable mom! Who shall we there infants have intercourse after which is going out or maybe buys them condoms! you may desire to take a parenting classification or some thing. Ask the different verify obtainable approximately this. you're putting your self as much as be sued! by potential of the boys mothers and dads for one. If a legal determine properly-knownshows out you will circulate to detention center. Your daughter is getting the rep of being difficulty-free. you prefer counseling, im sorry yet you prefer training from yet another person to assist you comprehend that it extremely is incorrect and not healthy! Did your mothers and dads assist you are attempting this? Are you proud? which you enable your 15 year previous "newborn" have intercourse on your place. ? what's next a three some? There are actually not any limitations here. it extremely is unacceptable habit from you and your daughter. Its gonna be no longer difficulty-free to tell her no and he or she will probably circulate else the place to have intercourse. i could get her into the wellness care professional asap. to get a beginning administration and tell her that she nevertheless needs to apply condoms. in case you do no longer supply up this cycle NOW you would be having a great form of grand youngsters by potential of the time she is sixteen years previous. just to assist you comprehend she could be telling ppl in school approximately this and captivating different females over with there boyfriends and her acquaintances could be having intercourse wiht there boyfriends after which .... there aprents will locate out and you'd be sued!

Answer 7

Honestly it depends on her age and your relationship with your daughter. I would say do not punish her or him. Sit and have a serious conversation with her, no yelling no pointing fingers. Go over birth control options, and set rules. Obviously state your not okay with it, but lets be honest it'll happen whether you want it to or not, better to have her protected and smart about it. Ask her about the relationship why she's made this decision- and try to determine if it's a healthy relationship, or if it's about peer pressure or just a fling. The more honest and open you allow yourself to be as a parent will allow your daughter to feel able to open up to you, and more inept to listen and fallow new rules you may want to set. To go further once you've done this if you want to deal with the boyfriend- ask her if you can arrange a sit-down with you and him or all three of you. If she feels embarrassed ask if you could at least speak with him over the phone, or if she will be okay with having her own serious conversation with her boyfriend about safe sex, and respecting her parents home and rules.

Answer 8

you should probably just sit her down and talk to her about. don't be mean or angry or pushy about anything just be calm and nuetral...discuss how you feel about it and see what she has to say. since i don't know what age they are its hard to give you better advice. just let her know what she's getting into and ways to be safe about it...that's all you can do. kids are cunning in ways you can't imagine and if you ground her or ban her boyfriend she will only become more sneaky and they WILL find a way to be together behind your back. you want her to be open and honest with you so you must treat her with respect. i've seen many a mother/daughter bond severed for life over this very matter and its just not worth it.

Answer 9

It depends on how old she is......if we are talking 15 and up then its time to talk...TALK don't yell.
Wouldn't you rather have her trust you enough to come to you so that you can educate her on how to protect herself or ground her and ban the boyfriend which will only cause her to sneak behind your back and even worse she could end up pregnant! My mom was always very real with me because she said that she would rather me come to her than go asking my friends who had questionable values.....if you know what I mean.
If she is under 15 then I would be looking at how old he is and take the necessary steps.

Answer 10

wow tough mother daughter conversation....If you don't want her to have sex at all then I suggest telling her right away. You are the mother and she should respect your decision but she is a teen so she will get mad and go over to a friends house but one day she will thank you for it don't be loud and pushy and do not not let her see her boyfriend because she will find a way to be with him

PS personally I think being a teen and having sex is wrong. please talk to her though make sure she is ready for the responsibilities because remember condoms and pills are not 100% preventive only abstinence is.