she is 5 yrs old. She throws tantrums and completely shuts all her systems down. She will be going to kg this fall and my friend worries how she will cope. getting mad doesn't help, she starts to shake and cry etc. She's ok with family. Ii's basically her way or highway. Any suggestions?
2007-06-10 09:52:08 · 8 answers · asked by Nanu N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she may not be ready... my youngest son, (who is now 10) was that way... he cried his way thru K and 1st grade! i had to hold him back a year in 3rd grade, because he wasnt emotionally mature enough to go on...
she should try counselling, and maybe an extra year before K
2007-06-10 09:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was like that once and people thought I was a brat. The truth was that I was extremely sensitive and cannot handle change. The best way to handle this is to have her take a favorite toy, an article of clothing or book so she feel secure. Even better if she can visit the school in advance. Have her pick out what she wants to wear. Make her feel special. I hope this helps.
2007-06-10 09:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Noree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are actually two very different and distinct behaviors you've just described.
I know it's painful to hear this, but there are two potential answers for this:
The most likely is that your friend isn't a very effective parent. Children that age need structure and firm boundaries. The behaviors you've described are systematic with poor parenting skills.
The other option is that the child might have some autism. Your friend should take her to a doctor and have her concerns heard and the child tested so she can get help if she needs it.
Sorry to sound so blunt, but it is honest.
2007-06-10 09:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by crazz_32 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your friend should consider taking the little girl to the doctor for a physical check up. And if she can afford it, a couple of visits to a child therapist.
Children can be very manipulative, so it's good to keep your eyes open.....Maybe your friend is trying too hard to be "nice" and she is not being a good parent.
Children need to be taught how to behave, and the difference between right and wrong. Maybe your friend could also visit a therapist and see if she is doing anything wrong.
Good luck.
2007-06-10 10:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her behavior isn't abnormal. First off, she's five which means that she likes things to be predictable. (That's why children like to hear the same stories and watch the same movies over and over again.) Two, she may be "slow to warm up", meaning that it takes her awhile to adjust to changes in her life.
I suggest that your friend take the little girl to the school and let her see what it is like. Many schools allow perspective kindergarten students to sit in on classes, meet with the teacher, etc. I would also put her in touch with other children who go to kindergarten and have them prep her by telling her what she can expect on the first day.
2007-06-10 09:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im pretty sure by the time she gets into Kindergarden she'll learn how to cope with her feelings and stop throwing tantrums..
did she go to preeschool? is she fine with other kids her own age? if not mayb over the summer put her in a play group or send her to camp.
2007-06-10 09:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by janice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child may have a form of high functioning autism- i have lived through this for many years- it gets better with the right therapy, and changes can not be too abrubt, but rather talked about to prepare the child for the upcoming change. she should be checked before entering school, as she may need classroom modifications, etc.
2007-06-10 09:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by La Rousse 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a good spanking and time out in the corner!
2007-06-10 09:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋