PLEASE help ME?

Question

My husband is so jealous over me.
he decides who i can and cant talk to.I have online GIRL friends and he even gets jealous over them
I have a 360 page and he go's nuts if a guy even asks how i am etc.
We moved hundreds of miles from all our family and now we have nobody to talk to...i cant even get away for a tea
He then sulks for ages.We stopped sleeping in the same bed a week ago as he repulses me now.
He only seems to be happy after sex.
All my profiles say clearly i'm married.
Wtf is wrong with him? I've never cheated nor would i ever.
I'm constantly accused of chatting to men or putting my cam on if he's out.I never do this.
This has got so bad I don't go out anymore.This is a medical condition and I'm recieving treatment for my agrophobia as i can only walk a very short distance from my door.
I was in an 8 year violent relationship before but this feels worse.
I'm trapped and he knows it because my agrophobia stops me leaving with our 2 children.
Help plz

Answer 1

keep going to therapy and take slow steps to conquer over your agoraphobia and then divorce him

Answer 2

you have gone from a violent relationship into one that is just as abusive. he is a control freak who is using his power and your illness as a form of control. he has you right where he wants you. if its got to the stage where he is repulsing you then you can be sure its over. what i suggest is do what i do. if you can obviously. start putting some money away. doesnt matter how little but put away what you can. at the same time work on your illness. when your recovered then your gonna have some money to move out. you need to leave this man. he's a controlling bully. get back in touch with your family and enlist there help. good luck hun. x

Answer 3

get out of this relationship now,its totally distructive,and ur partner sounds like a control freak,it will only end in tears.your agrophobia is down 2 his constant demands on your time and his paronia it is not normal to own someone but that is the way he is makin you feel.i think if u leave this person and get your confidence back,the agrophobia will improve and u can start makin new friends without havin 2 worry that your every move is bein watched by him.hope this has helped and goodluck.

Answer 4

You need to leave , because this relationship isn`t going to get better. But you need support and you need to think it through how to leave. Get a friend or family member to come stay with you and enlist their help.
Can you go to stay with friends or family ?
Take the kids with you....it`s nearly summer holidays can you work around that and say you`re going to stay with your parents ??
Or can you get himout of your house with help from somebody? When he`s gone go to your doctor and explain your situation see if you can get more counselling or support.
Try finding out some support groups for women in your area(ring the local library)
Once he`s gone or you are away from the situation then you can see it all in perspective and decide what to do long term.

Answer 5

Sounds like a desperate situation but you are not trapped. Ask your parents or other close family for help. They should come and take you and your two children away to a place of safety.
You should not continue with this relationship for a moment longer than is necessary.
Good luck. Don't give up

Answer 6

You have gone from one abusive relationship to another and this is quite common. He may not be violent but he is mentally abusive- and you have no confidence or self esteem so you are suffering. Your children need you so you need to get strong. Please go and see your GP and talk it over with him/her- you need some help to regain control- agrophobia can be overcome because i did it. You then will be strong enough to reassess your life and get out if needs be. Please keep your online friends - they are an important part of your life and you must not allow this man to dictate who you can and cannot talk to. Abusers do like to isolate their victims- and he is the one with the problem really so you do need to seek help-please- you can do it.

Answer 7

Sounds to me like you need to get the courage up to leave. Dont tell him when or where, just go. Let him suffer a week or so before you call. If he hasnt changed, consider finding a new life. Life is too short to live in misery.

Answer 8

I feel so sorry for you, I would try and talking to him about it, but i'm not really sure it's going to do any good.... I would try and leave if he won't change, I know that it will be super hard for you with your agrophobia and all, but you can't live like this for ever.

Answer 9

oh ffs tell him to grow up we are in the year 2007 not the 15th centuary i feel so sorry for you becoz hes making your agrophobia the perfect weapon for you to do nothing about it ,but keep getting your treatment and hopefully in time you will find the strength to dump the idiot and if you need a chat anytime feel free to contact me i also have a 360 pro my id is tricia44ukuk and u can usually find me in uk25 or if im not there ask for me coz they all know me so feel free at anytime to contact me good luck to you hun

Answer 10

At the tie of my answering, serveral others have voiced the same thoughts Ihad with your situation.
Honey, they are ALL happy after sex.
What a crock they are.

Have you no brother or sister or best pal that can get you AWAY AND OUT of the home? Look at Paula Deen, she had the SAME fear of leaving home so we KNOW it is conquerable. If you do not know her story, Look her up on Google--America's chef- Paula Deen.

What would you do if your house was on fire?
In a way, your "house" IS On fire and ...you need to get out.
I have a dear friend here in the States whose husband is the SAME way, and finally, after years of ABUSE (AND YES THIS IS ABUSE, MY DEAR!) she is processing for an attorney and to get rid of him legally.

No one.
No one.
NO ONE should have to live this way with an abusive
partner, and frankly, I think you'd be happier alone, raising your children, without him and without his money.

YOU can do this! Get yourself over this silly Phobia, there are no boogey men out here to get you--the sky is not falling, it is a glorious world, blue skies, green grass, singing birds, jobs galore, SANE people, and jobs galore--we call it LIFE!

If I was there I'd wring his neck FOR you!!!

Also, please consider what you are
TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN by staying in this relationship!
What do they see?
Oh, it is okay for Da to be mean to Ma because that is how mine acts, and that's life.
It is NOT life as it was meant to be, and your hubby, pardon me, is a perfect ... JERK! Which starts with "J" which reminds me of Jailer!!
Toss out the key and move on, (if he were hit by a truck, you'd have to do that anyway, right?)
You sound young, and you have the whole world ahead of yourself, don't miss out, this is YOUR life, and unlike our friends who believe in re-incarnation, this is the ONLY life you are going to know NOW.

Answer 11

You need help try your family or try the police don,t put up with this man any more you truly deserve better and i hope you get rid of this guy for the sake of you and your children good luck and don,t be scared as the Police are on your side.