Everyone in my family, and pretty much all my friends have the attitude of:"If I am really ambitious and aim for high goals I am only setting myself up for big disappointment." The problem is even worse, because I am the only really ambitious person I know, and I haven't made it yet. I am that guy that keeps trying, but keeps landing flat on his face. So, the afore-mentioned people keep telling me to lower my standards. What should I say to these people?
2007-06-10 08:03:07 · 15 answers · asked by martin h 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I say "you are what you think".
2007-06-10 08:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Say nothing.
Examine your beliefs. Your ambition is discontentment with your current life. Always striving is one approach, however, learning to find happiness and contentment is also a way.
The ambitious are usually impatient and have little tolerance for anyone or anything that gets in their ways. The ambitious usually make others uncomfortable and themselves miserable.
If your ambition is realistic then work towards it, but not to the exclusion of all else.
Instead of setting yourself up to land on your face, set yourself to land successfully.
2007-06-10 10:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to say a thing. Success is the best revenge. You have a great thing going for you, you really try. Hey, Edison didn't get the light bulb right the first 100 times he tried. Remember no one can sing your song or do your dance but you. Get a copy of "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. You will learn of your own power. It is a matter of changing focus to the right way for you. Hang in there. Blessings on you.
2007-06-10 12:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can I be honest with you? This question makes you seem like you're actually quite mean, and maybe have some of your priorities slightly warped. And claiming those close to you have a "loser attitude" is pretty unfair.
You sort of remind me of a Calvin and Hobbes strip, where Calvin asks Hobbes if he could have one wish, what would he wish for? Hobbes replies he'd like a sandwich.
Calvin says "...I'd ask for a trillion billion dollars, my own space shuttle and a private continent!"
Next picture is of Hobbes happily eating a sandwich saying "I got *my* wish..." while Calvin looks depressed.
Being ambitious is fine, (although its shaping who you are as a person sort of went out with the 80s) but not to the detriment of your well being and relationships with others. If you're too desperate for it, it'll never come.
Futher, being good with people is a fundamental aspect of being successful, and as things stand, that desn't seem to be one of your strengths. It may well be, but on the strength of this question, it appears not.
Good luck.
2007-06-10 08:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Munchkin 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are to be congratulated on you courage and hope. These are the things God gave to you. You may not know it,but Abraham Lincoln lost in many tries at being president.
To give up is to be unhappy for good. There's always a chalenge, otherwise, we would give up our hope and happiness.
I glad you are trying.
My advice to people is "I know I will make it, someway some day, with God's help. I have hope".
Your are lucky you are not a quitter.
2007-06-10 08:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by mary 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe you need to raise your expectations and stop calling people losers? This suggest to me that you infact do not have a high self esteem. A person without a high sense of self worth is not one to be ambitious imo.
Also after having read some of your questions asked I get a sense of arrogance from them. Idk if this is true or not but if you are arrogant in any way how is it justified? I know I am at times arrogant and it is never justified but I sometimes think it is.
I would suggest you say to these people what you truely think of them... Call them people with loser attitude and see how far that gets you.
2007-06-10 08:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by magpiesmn 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Set goals for yourself, like walking up stairs, one step at a time. If you miss a step, its only one step to make up. Good Luck
2007-06-10 08:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by ronedon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore them
2007-06-11 11:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Uhnonuhmus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christ man,your skin is too tight for your soul...Relax..You are the one setting yourself up for the fall..there is no failure..you have to go back to basics..What do you want? Figure that out first..and loosen up...you want to die young? Be cool! I would tell them to mind their own business..Tread slowly,grasshopper..do not disturb your path with advice that you do not want nor care for...Life is not a race..no matter what they tell you..there is a start and a finish..for everyone.
2007-06-10 08:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by kit walker 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Nothing. You just go on ahead and succeed.
That's the best form of reply.
2007-06-10 12:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by Saffren 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never say the words I can't. If you do, you already lost.
2007-06-10 08:10:07 · answer #11 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋