should i leave my boyfriend of 7 yrs because when we weren't together he got the girl he was seeing pregnant? should i stay by his side or leave?
2007-06-10 07:53:57 · 9 answers · asked by CRYSTAL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave. You aren't married to him and he has another woman pregnant. He has responsibility to his child.
2007-06-10 07:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm let me see if I have this straight. You have been with a guy 7 yrs(probably his live in whore-shacking in other words) and he has been screwing another girl behind your back which he probably says means nothing to him , and he is abandoning the baby he has made with her after telling her she is special he loves her etc.He hasn't proposed in the last 6 yrs. to you right? Do I have all this right so far? Should you stand by his side? Why with such good character as that why wouldn't you want to?Chances are when you get pregnant you'll get the same thing as his other g/f hon. Dump him, move back home eat some crow tell your parents they were right and get a job and a place of your own. Next, get to know a guy before dating him. A guy who will shack you does NOT respect you and probably will NEVER marry you. "I love you" sex and shacking ARE NOT a commitment to love, "I do" is.
2007-06-10 15:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that my dear is sure to be a tough one. I cant tell you what you should or should not do. But just keep in mind that if you chose to stay with your boyfriend then you have agreed to allow this baby and the mother to be an every day part of your life. You have to ask yourself if you are prepared to do this. If you do-because you are not married to this boyfriend then by law you have no legal grounds to say anything about this childs upbringing by his two parents or even a say so about anything. So now ask yourself "Can I stay out of the way and not get in between my boyfriend and his childs mother when they must raise this child?" Who knows maybe you can and that would be wonderful but I just wanted you to get an idea of what your future will be like if you stay with him.
2007-06-10 15:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by edykns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is rough. Seven years is a long time, and you probably have a lot of time and emotion built into this relationship. However, i think it will be more hard on you when the baby is around then you think. He must deal with the mother of this baby for at least 18 years, you have to think of what you will be able to handle. I think that emotionally it will wear you down. I think it is great that they are keeping the baby, but i feel for you sweetie. Do whatever makes you happy. And for him to go sleep with someone because you were on a break, and make a baby is selfish and irresponsible. I would personally walk away and let him raise his child, you can do better then this!! =) but it is up to you!
2007-06-10 15:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally idk if u know for afact that he doesnt want to be with that girl like gf and bf and doesnt want anything to do with her just the child then be by his side. my use to be best friend is dating a guy that has a child with his ex wife. and she at the time i was her friend she was worried about her getting with her man. but if ur bf doesnt have any romantic feelings for her and just wants to help on the child then stay by his side. but if it is bothering u talk to him about it. if ur worried about seeing the child alone with her then set some rules .good luck girl if u need help email me at bittyowomp@sbcglobal.net if u need afriend
im hayley
2007-06-10 15:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Hayley H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he got someone pregnant than they should be there for them so you should just leave him...
2007-06-10 14:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by AREA51 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for the hills
2007-06-10 15:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave
2007-06-10 14:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use your own knowledge but i would say drop him
2007-06-10 14:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋