As in all relationships it's hard to find a meaningful, long lasting relationship, however, is it harder to find that sort of relatinship in the gay community? And, if you have that - can I tell you I am jealous! ;P
2007-06-10 07:48:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
terps007 can you answer my other question about my friend please. Thanks!
2007-06-10 07:52:17 · update #1
Zeta, can you answer my other question too please? Thank you!
2007-06-10 07:56:08 · update #2
my son is gay, and he has often commented on the fact that long term relationships in the gay community are VERY rare.
2007-06-10 07:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno...I would guess the answer for gay men would be "yes, it is harder". We men are dogs. :)
I do have one though. I have been together with my partner for over 10 years now. Sooner or later, the pickups, the different men, the sex, gets very old and very unfullfilling.
I think everyone has to go through that (straight and gay), and once you get past it, you are ready for something more, something more fullfiiling....and that is sharing your life with another person. There is nothing better.
2007-06-10 07:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there MUST be others out there who share the same dilemma as me, but I've never personally MET one! See, I am straight and single, having been divorced from an abusive womanizer with a severe drinking problem about 15 years ago. Since then, ALL I have known are GAY men!
My friends fall into two categories - married hetero COUPLES, and GAY men!!!!
It depresses me being a "third wheel" hanging out with the straight couples, being alone as they reap the benefits of togetherness. Being straight myself, how can I NOT be envious seeing all my old girlfriends happily enjoying life with THEIR men???!?
So.....I have spent the vast majority of the past 15 years hanging out with gay men, living in THEIR world! As long as THEY are unattached as I am, it's tolerable. But hanging out with a gay COUPLE is just about as frustrating for me as hanging out with the straight ones - THEY still sleep TOGETHER at the end of the night, while I still sleep ALONE!
I'd LOVE nothing more than to find a nice decent STRAIGHT man to call my own. But WHERE is he???? ALL the men I meet are either openly gay, or turn out to BE that while still in denial over it. Either way, men these days do NOT want to be "bogged down" by committment, ESPECIALLY when it comes to women!
All my reproductive years have now passed my by, waiting for "Mr. Right" to materialize into my life. I never got to have any kids, which I wanted more than anything. Now all I've got are my CATS, and my GAY friends. Year after year after year, I get to watch THEM pair off with other men, frequently and effortlessly, as I sleep and grow old ALONE!
It just isn't FAIR!!!!!!
2007-06-10 10:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that it is the same. There's no real formula, conditions or whatever that will ensure that the guy or girl you meet is going to stay with you forever... or just the next weekend. Unfortunately.
The quest for eternal love is as hard for straights as for gays.
It's a shame, isn't it?
2007-06-10 07:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by zetabosio 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes its very hard. read my newly posted question in friends section and see what u think. i think my friend is gay and i love him (u have to read it to understand it) but yea its def. harder to get a gr8 relationship in gay community cuz not lots of ppl are gay
2007-06-10 07:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6-10-07
well some people are cool wit gay folks
2007-06-10 08:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by no drama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, but only because there is not many gay people.
Hehehehe, wish I could say I have but nope :(
2007-06-10 07:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your question deals with "values". Why do you want to "hang out" with gays in the first place? Long lasting relationships are based on mutual values and interests. I don't see how a straight person could have the same interests or values as gays. They know they are not liked by the vast majority of society. Does it make you feel "good" to associate with outcasts?
2007-06-10 08:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jim N 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋
Awesome! Your a ḟag Hag.
2007-06-10 07:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋