Hey everyone. I feel like I am in a bit of trouble. I have been with my boyfriend with a very long time... almost 5 years, and I really love him dearly. Well, he watches a lot of porn (and I realize porn is normal, so I am cool with that), but now he keeps asking me for things sexually I don't want to do... MANY MANY things. Well, lately he has been into cross dressing a lot... and to be honest I am a little freaked out by it. I don't know how to deal with it because to him, it is very important, but I don't want to see it. I buy some clothing items for him to make him happy, but I tell him not to do it around me.... but then he does it around me anyways. Am I being a ***** for not understanding? How should I deal with this?? Help!
2007-06-10 07:47:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Calm down, hon, It doesn't mean he's gay, or a 'freak'. It's a little unusal, perhaps, but not as unusal as you might think;around 1 in 5 men crossdress.
It is difficult for a woman to understand why a man wants to do this; I don't understand it either, but I accept that some men enjoy it. It's a hobby, like stamp-collecting or trainspotting.
If you want to understand it a little better, or just learn how to cope with it, you might want to look at some of the articles in the link below.
2007-06-10 07:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, couple of issues. First - thank you from a crossdresser. thank you for being type and considerate and open minded. this may well be a lots nicer worldwide with extra people who had a spark of compassion. next ingredient - i think of it incredibly is a amazing theory! Your brother ought to have the potential to understand that the Bride is the celebrity of the marriage. no longer something ought to distract from her special day - the day SHE is meant to be the princess. enable's settle for it, having him there pass dressed could have been a substantial distraction, so your decision to no longer enable that to ensue on the marriage may well be understood. Your now offering to grant him the dress and spend the time to help in making it particular by making use of getting %. occupied with you on your dress is an exceptionally considerate and style gesture. whether he declines and says "nah, do no longer complication approximately it", he will understand which you seen him, which you cared, and which you tried to make him happy. i think of it incredibly is a amazing gesture. :-)
2016-10-07 06:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not willing to compromise, then give him the boot. You have shown you are by buying him clothes, but by cross dressing in front of you when you have asked him not to is very selfish. It sounds very much like a one sided relationship - his side! Leave him and find someone you will feel happy with.
2007-06-10 07:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL you are doing nothing wrong. So why did I laugh. He wants to be fem and feel sexy... So you need to tell him if he is going to be all fem then he needs stop being a male pig and listen. You have done what he asked so he should be able to do what you ask.
Have him drop me a note or you can if you wish. There is no way to put it all in an answer here.
Hugs Kim Lynn
2007-06-10 08:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kim Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love cross-dressing and my wife is supportive, but if she wasn't, I would not dress-up in front of her if she asked me not to do it around her. So, you husband should respect your choice and he needs to be understanding.
2007-06-10 18:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy with it why not just move on and find someone else ? You cant make him change his life just because you dont agree with it.
2007-06-10 13:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to compromise and sit down and talk with him. thats the best solution i can think of.
2007-06-10 07:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋