I was dumped6 wks ago. I had no idea it was coming &he never gave me a straight answer as 2why. He messed my head around, breaking up, asking me back then dumping me 4good. said it wasnt right 4 him anymore. Im so hurt&upset &miss him so much. I left it a week then we met up but he still said he didnt want me. we work 2getha so see him everyday &its tearing me up. I really want him back, i miss him so much&thought he was 'the one', I even told him that when we got back together the 1st time. Every1 says move on, but i can't&i don't want to. He says he still fancies me&a wk after we split 4good he said he still loved me when i asked him. Lst wk we had sex in his car- he refused to take me to his as he said hes "meant 2b moving on" i just needed2feel close 2him again. Afterwards he said it didnt change things! he went 2cinema fri &wouldnt say who with-i think it was a girl. We were perfect 2getha&i love him! why would he say he still loves me but not wana b with me?how do i get him back?
2007-06-10 07:17:05 · 14 answers · asked by JamJar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweetie let go. Find a new job, do some clothes shopping, get a make over and move on. You'll begin to feel better. I'm so sorry for your loss but know that this too much like time, shall pass. Besides he may have done you a HUGE favor...you're Mr. Right may be just around the corner. Good luck and God bless.
2007-06-10 07:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Gir 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep an untrue thought living in your head. It's like thinking you'll live forever, and becoming so obsessive over it that you actually believe it's true. Obviously, if he leaves you, he's not the one. You may have thought he was the one, but you know what? Love is blind. And the best part is that there is still hope for the right one. This guy is probably not the one, so why do you want to be with him? You want to find your TRUE love. You just need to learn to let go, or else the rest of your life will be very hard. You seriously just need to move on, because if you obsess over this for too long, you'll have missed a huge chunk of your life, which you could've spent looking for the right one, or becoming successful, or just living it up. Just let go.
2007-06-10 07:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you are hurting, so you won't like to hear this, but here it goes anyway...
HE is using you and you are letting him. If you really want to feel better, then you have to UNDERSTAND he doesn't want you anymore- except as an occasional lover. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's the way it is. He knows you love him and he knows he can have you back anytime he wants....And he will continue to call you and contact you whenever he feels the need for casual sex- no strings attached.
IF you really want out of this unhealthy situation, you will have to make a CHOICE: Either you or him. Simple as that.
Please remember that you cannot expect others to love and respect you UNLESS you love and respect yourself FIRST.
This guy knows he has you wrapped around his little finger, and he's on an ego trip....He will continue to do this to you UNTIL YOU DECIDE TO PUT A STOP TO IT.
No one can live your life for you...Only you can. So I really hope you sit down and think hard. What do you want from life? To be happy with yourself and someone who loves you, or to be unhappy with someone who uses you and hurts you?
The choice is yours....I hope you take it a day at a time and stop all contact with this guy. Don't fall into the temptation of believing he will change and love you again...HE WON'T and he has clearly told you this in your face.
2007-06-10 07:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds as it this guy has moved on and is just using you. Instead of hooking up with and being all in his business why don't you try moving on. Stop talking to him, calling him, everything. Get rid of all his things, too. Try to stay busy with friends and family. You have to accept that fact that he's moved on. Learn what went wrong and know better next time in a different relationship. If you two really love each other, let go of him, if he comes back to you then he loves you. It will get easier with time, but i don't think getting back to together with him would be the best answer. Hope this helped and good luck!
2007-06-10 07:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by alexisanned 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 22:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by catchings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, let it go. If it was meant to be, it would be. Don't try to hold onto someone who doesn't love you wholly, completely, 100%. There is someone out there for everyone. If you keep trying to hold onto the wrong one, the right one can't come in! So take a deep breath, and let him go, once and for all. You could end up with an STD if he is seeing other people and still having sex with you. You could be putting yourself in danger! Move on, and I promise you someone new will come along and you will wonder why it ever took you so long to dump that loser. Good luck to you.
2007-06-10 07:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is realize that he doesn't deserve you. You CAN move on. Here's a tip - sit down & write out all the bad things you've gone through with him, all the head games & bullsh*t and then read it. You will come to realize that he is NOT the right one for you - somewhere out there is a man who will treat you like a goddess and you WILL find him one day. It's ok to grieve, it's ok to be hurt but time WILL heal you. Just don't keep hanging on and having sex with this guy - it obviously means nothing to him and just hurts you.
2007-06-10 07:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Misty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey, you need to understand that even though someone says that they love you, doesn't always mean in the sense that they want to date or be together with you. i'm sure this guy still loves you in a way. he must still have some feelings for him to say that to you. but, those feelings aren't that strong.
he was just using you when you and him had sex. he felt lonely and he wanted to have some pleasure, and you were the best choice.
you need to seriously need to find another job and get away from him. it's unhealthy for you. it's hard, but you need to move on with your life. i truly don't believe that there is the "mr. right" or he was the "one". i believe that there is are different men for you, but, he wasn't the best one for you. do you get what i'm saying? so, you need to get on with your life and find someone that will be the best match for you personally. and, i don't believe this guy is, if he keeps messing with your mind, emotions, and your physical body.
2007-06-10 07:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by christi t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is I'm so very sorry he did this to you. The loss will be his, and I personally hopes he suffers merrcilessly. What I suggest you do is find another man to give you the love and respect you surely deserve. They say there is someone for everyone, and I'm sure there is someone for you as well.
2007-06-10 07:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't get him back, and he made it very plain to you.
Just put him out of your head whenever he pops in, and avoid seeing him. Spend time with friends-especially in big groups. Don't put out a vibe that says "unavailable"----there's probably already someone that likes you!
2007-06-10 07:21:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋