I need help in dealing with my husband. Currently his ex wife is taking him to court to increas her child support. When they divorced they agreed to 15% of his income and he pays for medical care. He has paid that on time every time and never once been late. No suddenly that is not enough and she is taking him to court. He is so very angry and has serious issues with his ex wife to start with. This just has made things even worse. When we go to court Im afraid he will show his anger and make things worse. How do I help him get through this. Soon we will be going to court for shared custody due to all the issues my step daughter has and Im so afraid he will not be able to controll his anger at his ex wife during all of this. It hurts him so badly to see what she has done to his daughter. He just cant seem to keep it inside when he needs to. Its hard enough doing that around his daughter but when he comes face to face with the ex in court I just think all heck is going to break loose.
2007-06-10 07:00:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Would he be willing to go to counseling? It sounds like that might be a good option for him. He has to realize that if he shows his anger in court or around his daughter, things will most likely not go the way he wants, so he has to control himself in order to appear rational and sane. (I'm not saying he's crazy -- divorce can be awful and his feelings are probably valid!) If he won't go to counseling, why don't you try some role-playing with him? Act out different scenarios of what may happen in court. Help him to come up with the right words to best express himself calmly rather than lashing out in anger. If it is rehearsed, he might have something to hold onto in the heat of the moment and that will hopefully help him to be calm.
2007-06-10 07:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the key here is to stay calm in court. Explain that you don't understand why she needs more money. You pay 15% of your check and cover her medical. Tell the courts that the money your check provides should cover anything the young girl needs and if there something that is larger than what you have offered than maybe her mother should let you know and you'd be more than happy to go get it. Often times mothers aren';t using that money for the childrens needs, it goes to bills or in there pocket, make sure she is not taking advantage of him. What age is the daughter
2007-06-10 14:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by dalanna218 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters you need to enlist the services of a good divorce attny. Your husband is angry, understandably, because he has no control over the situation. With a good attny, working FOR HIM, he may win a few battles, which will help aleviate some of his hostility.
2007-06-10 14:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get some therapy for his anger and frustration. One or 2 sessions may be enough to help him.
2007-06-10 14:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont get involved with the ex that justs adds drama...be there for him..hear him out when he talks about it but dont try to bad mouth the ex.....support but not add fuel to the fire..good luck
2007-06-10 14:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Eyelovme2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why I do not want children or be married without a prenup and postnup.
2007-06-10 14:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by rflatshoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fragile! Handle with care ( & patience ).
2007-06-10 14:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the many reasons why i dont beleive in divorce
2007-06-10 14:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋