If you have been divorced, how would you know to take another chance?

Question

There are people out there who never ever trust again, could you take a chance on happiness again or would you say "no way!" ?
I think there is someone out there for everyone.

Answer 1

listen to your heart. follow your gut instinct always. There is a right person for everyone out there, including you.

Answer 2

After my divorce I was determined to never marry again and never have children. When I met the man who is now my husband, I told him that. A week later we were discussing marriage. Since we had both been married before, we knew the pitfalls as well as what we were looking for in a partner. We have been together almost 7 years now and are still very happy. When you find the right person you know, and even if you're determined not to take a chance, sometimes you don't have a choice but to give love another shot.

Answer 3

I've been divorced 13 years, after an 18-year marriage. I didn't date at all the first few years after the breakup. Then I decided I wanted to try and meet someone. I dated some and met a mixture of people, but there was never that spark. Out of the blue, after all these years, I have met THE MAN. We met on Answers several months ago. We have spent time together many times since the first of the year, and I am definitely going to take this chance. I love him. His name is Jack; he's on my 360.

Answer 4

I have been married 4 times also and it has been 3 yrs. since I have even thought about dating let alone getting married. I mean get married for what?I would have to wait until the honeymoon period is over and we are settled in so I good see the good the bad and the ugly along with this person. If I found someone that was mature and could communicated well with and had compassion. I would consider it .
They would have to be able to take care of themselves financially and not give me a hard way to go. I have friends that push me up not down and I would apply that into my dating world as well. I enjoy being married until the love and friendship turns into anger and resentment.

Answer 5

Well, I did it, I'm on my second marriage and have been very happy for about 25 years now.

I just made sure when I was dating again that anyone I was with did not have the qualities my Ex did that caused us to divorce.

I approched it differently then most, I didn't know what I wanted in a spouse but I did know what I didn't want so I approached it from that angle, and found my perfect mate.

So yes it was worth taking the chance, and when you do find the right person you know it, you can feel it emotionally.

Answer 6

If we don't take chances we never know what true love is. I have been divorced for 2 years now, and am still struggling in this area..... but I do believe there will come a time that my heart will open up again to new possibilities its only a matter of time!

Answer 7

Walk away and divorce. It might be easier, but even seeing a therapist might not work. He could very easily say all the right words and perform all the right moves to win you over. You can also go with the BS cliche that a cheater always a cheater, but not always true. The questions you should ask yourself is: Do I really love him after he hurt me like this? Can I forgive him? As a husband myself, that is all I want from my wife, is to be trusted and loved. I would not want you to be always looking over my shoulder, callin me to check on me, checking my emails, text or internet history. All of this can be exhausting and take some of the spark out of the marriage that your trying to work back into it. Trust needs to be earned. Just saying.

Answer 8

I'm a very trusting person by nature and that hasn't changed no matter how many times I've been burned. Not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing. But I will definitely be able to take another chance at happiness. I haven't given up hope that I'll find it!

Answer 9

Although this isn't a question directed at me, a few of my beloved close friends have been down this road. I have told you about this, and what makes a difference in their lives, as well as the people on here in are the lessons learned by their experiences.
Sometimes people marry too young, they in fact do love the person they're marrying, but things change, they grow apart, and the move on. It is not that they did not love, they just didn't know themselves well enough, and of course, as you know we can't do anything about others reactions and behavior.

What has been more amazing to me about people that move on from divorces, is that they realize that things they could not control, they do not take reposibility from other's actions & personally, they learn from their experiences, and when they learn how to value themselves for what they're worth, they do suceed in moving on.

There are many people out there that are priceless companions, but you have to believe this is who you are, they are worth a lot and they have lots to give....to someone who will truly appreciate who they are.

Hope I didn't step in any toes....

Answer 10

I am sure there are a plethora of women out there for you. You seem like a sensitive and charming fellow. I haven't been divorced. But if I was once bitten I would be twice shy for a period of time, and then I would get over it and try not to make the same mistake twice. A number of people that I know have had much better luck the second time around. With age and experience comes wisdom.

Answer 11

I took another chance after my first divorce and it ended badly again--we have a beautiful daughter in heaven and a beautiful daughter here we get to raise, but I don't think I believe in the "3rd time's the charm"... But good luck to anyone else out there!