My friend doesn't have the best grades so the colleges that she can attend are a bit limited and the one that she wants to go to (a csu) is made up of mostly whites and she brings it up a lot, she's worried that people are gonna look at her and that face that she's black. (um, she's always telling me how she wishes she were white (she's half, but looks mostly black) but I always tell her nothing is wrong with her, she's always looking up pics of blonde hair blue eyed celebs and all that stuff) What should I tell her? I've never really had that problem.
2007-06-10 05:32:56 · 10 answers · asked by longgoneobb 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
tell her to shut up or not attend college
2007-06-10 05:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Blazin 22s 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well I'm a white guy, 17 years old, and I'm going away to college next year upstate New York. It is mostly white (about 85% white) and I literally saw two black couples walking on the campus. The only interracial couples I saw were white and Hispanic, and that was such a small number compared to the white couples. I like white girls anyway, so I'm good for when I go to college. I live in Brooklyn at the moment, which has many black people. When I pass Brooklyn college I still see black women with black men, white men with white women, and so on. Personally, I think most of the black women want black men depending on where you are from. My cousin who lives in South Carolina tells me that all the white girls are with black guys and the black girls are with white men.
2016-04-01 00:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is bi-racial. The colors you use are black and white and mixed together they make gray. I doubt if your friend has a gray complexion. Her heritage is African and Caucasian. Colors are not ethnic groups. Colleges can be painted white of course, but what person would paint themselves black.
As far as her concerns about being accepted, she should put her effort into getting good marks and graduating not playing the social scale. She will go to college to learn and that should be her focus above all else. If she's is intimidated or mistreated she can file charges or complaints against those who are simple minded and do such things. She can also defend herself with intelligence and fortitude. Don't be weak and become a victim. She should stand up for herself and show she has strength.
2007-06-10 06:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think she should go anyway... there will be other black people there, and there will be white people that she'll be able to be friends with. And besides she's just as white as she is black!
I know a family with a white mom and a black dad- the kids are absolutely awesome- they're in HS and college now. They are talented, active in theater and other artistic pursuits and have tons of friends.
Tell her to just go out there, have fun, be her best self. If she's busy DOING what she loves the old racial thing will not be the overriding force in her life.
2007-06-10 05:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Behaviorist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some colleges today have black dormitories which you can choose to live in, if you're worried about being around a bunch of white girls.
Most people will be nice and almost all will be cordial to your face. But alas it still exists. Your friend seems to have her own personal issues. I thought all black people were required to watch Malcolm X.
Your friend seems to suffer from the same problems X had early on. His speeches are on youtube.
2007-06-10 05:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel bad for her because nothing is wrong with her accept for the fact that she is not happy with who she is and that may only be an excuse for a deeper problem maybe shes ashamed of her family that is black as compared to the side that is white but even when your parents are the same color there's one side of the family you like better than the other she needs to embrace the beauty of both of her cultures after all her parents did.
2007-06-10 05:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by dr dick johnson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have a good start by just being her friend and by being there for her when she needs someone to talk to.
I have a friend who is half black and half white. Yes, she has gone through prejudicial treatment, but she has accepted herself for the person she is. And like Mr. Rogers used to say, "people can like you just the way you are".
I hope that your friend will come to realize that she is beautiful just the way she is now.
2007-06-10 05:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her not to worry.
As long as she acts like it doesn't bother her that shes a little different, then other people wont make a big deal out of it as well. Plus it's who she is and she should be proud.
2007-06-10 06:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jaq 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your friend will come across someone like her. Of course in a different race. Some Caucasians are European, going to a CSU.
She will fit right in, but if prejudice happens, it just does. It will be like that everywhere.
2007-06-10 05:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most people want to be something they are not.
I would like to be thin with no appetite for food...
My wife wishes she married a man with more ambition and was a better @ housekeeping, cooking, and more romantic, thinner, and did not talk so much..lol.
we all want something we are not..I wish i stayed single...
2007-06-10 05:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋