My ex-husband had a habit of leaving when he was mad or did not get his way. He would stay gone (usually it was on a weekend) for 2-3 days. The last time he left (because my daughter accidentally let his cat get out) I told him to think about it before he leaves because this time he was not coming back. He packed his clothes, ripped up our wedding pictures and said he wanted a divorce. Fine! He then drug the divorce on for over a year, thinking he was coming back. After 6 months of being separated, I started dating and now he tells everyone that I cheated on him and that it was going on before he left. Should I have waited? What would you have done?
2007-06-10 05:19:13 · 13 answers · asked by Tyra99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
""He tells everyone"" Who are these ëveryone""? Your friends? They will know the truth. His friends? Ignore them. People in the family? Tell them the truth. He sounds like an immature selfish sod momma's boy. No you did not wait too long because your heart was empty and you need to be loved and hugged - What would I have done? Got the divorce over with if counselling failed. Good luck and a hug.
2007-06-10 05:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good that you started up. But 6 months, you could have waited a little longer. He's awful to go around saying these things, though. And you were a little harsh on him, saying he wouldn't come back. Sorry but I'm a little on the fence. And if it was only that your daughter let out his cat, he should have been gentler on her. If I were her, I would feel awful that i made my parents get divorced. Make sure you comfort her in this strange time. Did you actually get the divorce? I couldn't tell.
Answer my question plese. Both, I need answers to ASAP.
2007-06-10 05:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, trust me. I know that I'm not married, but I'm a guy so I should know. This man didn't leave bcuz of no darn cat. Think about it, unless he's silly. I think that maybe he's just loosing interest or he found someone else. So he's just trying to find ways to break up with u.
And no, don't blame urself for not waiting. He's only saying these stuffs now bcuz he wants to pin the blame on u and take some of the guilt off himself. Think about it.
2007-06-10 05:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by Stephen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say with the last reason for him leaving if anyone believed him about saying you had cheated on him doesn't know the real him... get the divorce going and make sure with the dating that you dont get to serious to fast...
2007-06-10 05:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Don't make me beg!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would have waited until it was final, but many people are of the opinion that if it's in the process then it's fine to go ahead and date. It sounds like he wants to cause you problems, just tell everyone that you didn't cheat on him and he's just mad that you didn't take him back
2007-06-10 05:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would of for me... waited until the divorce was final.. or at least some type of legal paper work was drawn up... .just so i know.. and he knows... theres nothing more.. but hmmmm its all up to u.. i mean.. if ur over him.. then ur over him.. who cares if he was still wanting to be with you... 6 mths is a long tim to be seperated.. and over such a dumb thing.. dont worry.. hes just making it so that ppl assume that ur at fault..when its really was his choice to leave.. who cares what he tells them.. if they want to be nosey and ask you.. then u can tell ur side.. and let them make their own assumptions....
2007-06-10 05:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by DiGGiE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! once divorce proceedings have started then you are legally separated and free to see who ever you wish. He's just annoyed because he didn't get his own way don't worry about it. just enjoy yourself.
2007-06-10 05:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a real jerk!! I would not have started dated till the divorce is done!!!!!
2007-06-10 05:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have stayed if you wanted to continue to be disrespected and controlled obviously he hasn't changed and it doesn't matter what people think you know the truth can you live with yourself? Well then!
2007-06-10 05:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by may_his_peace_be_with_you 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope you shouldnt've waited, once the divorce is going through the courts you are a free woman, if people say anything to you, just let them know hes jealous of your new life.
2007-06-10 05:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by danielle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋