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2007-06-10 04:23:14 · 9 answers · asked by boathouse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How about a dad? No problem just do the best you can and make sure that all are treated the same. Learn to stay calm and let them know how things are going to be without arguing.
2007-06-10 04:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For the most part I love being a stepmom. Although there are days where I think it is a thankless job. We have custody of the kids and their mom lives over 200 miles away. She sees them on weekends. I help with homework, cook dinner, clean, do laundry, give hugs and kisses, clean scrapes and boo boos and am the only parent that goes to plays, musicals, practices, games, recitals, etc. Then when the artwork comes home from school it is always labeled To: mom. Or after a recital, it is "I wish mom were here." And I do understand that I will never replace their mother, its just that some days it bothers me and some days not.
2007-06-10 04:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tyra99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a stepmom.. is just the same as being a mom.. the only diff is that they are biologically not urs... it can sometimes be a lil frusterating.. especially if the kids are testing you.. meaning.. they give u a hard time.. because ur not their real mom.. they tend to have that come back saying "i dont have to listen to you... ur not my mom"
I suggest you weight out all the positives and negs.. and see whether ur willing to still go ahead knowing the negs.. its all on how the child feels... it will take some time for them to get used to you.. but in time.. as long as u treat them like one of ur own... it will work out... just because their ur step child.. doesnt mean your going to love them any less... good luck
2007-06-10 04:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by DiGGiE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conflicted. I love the kids very much. But my husband's ex is horrible - always yelling and screaming at the kids or my ex, always picking loser boyfriends, spending the child support money on her Passion Party business rather than the kids, etc. The kids also can act like wild animals since their mom is the way she is and my husband usually tunes them out. It can be a miserable existence. Think long and hard before you put yourself into that situation.
2007-06-10 04:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k. I'm gonna tell you how my life is but it doesn't mean that yours will be the same. my bf never nade the kids respect me because they were going through a divorce and had enough stress on them. So now I have hell on my hands. I'm told that they dont have to listen because I'm not their momma. even though now 5 yrs later he tries to make them listen, they dont. It's too late for that. Then the fact that my 3 step kids hit, tease, pick, and bully my 3 kids. they resent the fact that dad is with me. I even think they're racist towards whites( they're black). I've had them try to hit me, call me names, make fun of me to my face cause I'm fat, briuse my daughter up, almost broke her arm once, etc........ need I go on? If I had to do it all over again, HELL NO would I!!!!!! I stay because I cant raise my 3 kids 12,3,3 on one salary. I hope you have better luck than I did. sorry If I vented a little too much.
2007-06-10 04:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband or boyfriend you would have a big problem,unless the child/children i being hard on you all because you arent the real mommy.I feel really great being mommy to them because they respect and love me,but at frist the begining it was all a bad dream,but now everything is cool.Please dont try to hard.
2007-06-10 04:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by yoli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any real trouble with my stepson. His mom has always been the one to cause trouble between us. She usually has him on weekends and when he is there she tells him that she is his only boss and he doesn't have to listen to anyone else. He has told me this several times too. I tell him that his mom isn't here and that he has to listen to me, and it always works.(He is 5) Me and his dad have been together since just before he turned 4. Otherwise, things are pretty good.
2007-06-10 05:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it feels a bit weired and upsetting but if u truly love ur significant other then u should love your step kid(s) the way u love him or her.sometimes u just have to deal with it if u want to be with this person and the whole package.don't expect them to love you or accept you at first give them some time to get used to u and don't try too hard to fit in.
2007-06-10 04:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by martina s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a step dad and he said it just takes time
2007-06-10 04:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋