2007-06-10 00:27:13 · 24 answers · asked by SANAT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
becasue you love them so much you let them right into your heart so if they do something that would normally just make you a little sad, it will hurt alot becasue they are right in your heart!
2007-06-10 00:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although this sounds rather paradoxical, it is true: We hurt the ones we love the most. Why do we do this? Well, think about this - for the most part, we spend a great deal of time with family, friends, and our loved ones, and they have opportunities to see us at times when maybe we are dealing with stress, or not up to our usual self, and sometimes we vent at them, while those with whom we only see occasionally, don't see us in these times, or we hold back allowing them to see our true inner selves because we don't want to risk being thought any less than we are.
We take liberties with loved ones because we realize that they are forgiving and understanding, and they often take liberties with us as well. Sometimes we snap at them, they snap at us, or say something that may hurt our feelings or make us feel terrible, and we wonder how they could be so cold and indifferent to our feelings. Well, it is simply because they are feeling so free that they refrain from holding their tongue.
This is just human nature. However, the other side of the equation is that the person whom you love the most may also give you the most pleasure.
We all must learn to forgive, forget, and move on, and also to keep the lines of communication open, and discuss those issues that may be problematic at times.
Lastly, if both parties in the relationship are working diligently to please the other, little slips can be tolerated and forgiven, but if one or the other, or both spend more time bickering, arguing and pointing out the faults of the other, than the relationship is doomed for failure.
If one would think about the consequences of their actions before they act, and make the right choice, say the right things, etc., the relationship will become strong and loving.
2007-06-10 07:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by 1greatguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A mother can love their kids so much it hurts when they cause pain. I watched my daughter go thru a terrible addiction to Meth and thinking in our minds why us?? The many nights on the street looking for her and the hospital calls over and over they found her she may not make it thru the night. The pain was unreal. I am happy to report that she has been clean now 3 years and has a home and a job and her first child with her husband that has never used. We now have joy but I always wondered how could she put us thru this pain.... In reality I don't believe people do things to hurt us on purpose at least not the ones we love the most and that love us. I think that they are able in someway to block it out so that they can cause it. This holds true to men and woman that abuse as well. I am not making up excuses for them I just know they have to be able to block their feelings in order to hurt a loved one....
2007-06-10 07:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by SJ H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if you truly love somebody even the slightest pain can cause a gaping wound.With surrender to love of another person leaves yourself wide open and vulnerable to pain. It is not expected that a person you would love and says love you would do anything to cause you pain and so when the pain does come it is unexpeced and startling and thus more painful.
2007-06-10 10:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Dave aka Spider Monkey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As u love them very much u may believe whatever they say, and also u would be convinced with whatever they do. If they r eligible of ur true love then they won't hurt u. But if they r not eligible for that and if they r of bad attitude then I am sure they will take a ride on u means they will use such a sort of situation and take advantage of it.
So better stay far from them
2007-06-12 07:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by sneha y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where there is happiness there is sorrow also. we only feel heart pain when loved ones hurt us.we take it very personally thats why. two individuals have two different views but when you love a person u think that even they think the same way u do. its always better not to depend on others for your happiness. only way is not being too emotional and forgive and forget the hurtful things.
2007-06-10 08:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon it would be because you value this person too much?Its a feeling that we cant explain. Others may do the same to you but you dont feel the heartache as much as the person who you love most doing to you... People say that if you feel pain or heartache for a certain person, that would be when you have fallen in love with him/her...
2007-06-10 07:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by jacquesLee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cos love is abt pain and pleasure. if u dont get hurt by the person u love the most, u aint truly loved anyone yet.
pain and pleasure in love is like teo sides of the same coin.
2007-06-10 07:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by aryan_vikas2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sometimes actually it happens many a times because to whom u love you always want to see them happy but in that love also we become selfish by not letting the loved ones free... we want them to act according to our ways(being protective)... and when they don't do so then it gives pain.
2007-06-13 06:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must know that love is a feeling which is characterised by maturity.
you must know that it is going to give attachments and factors influencing and also it may give you friction resulting in maturity collision and collapsing of ideas.
it is giving someone the power to destroy you and it is necessary for you to cope up with love and related problems for ur maturity and intellectual development
2007-06-10 07:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
... because you love this person with all your heart and always want the best for her / him - that´s why it hurts so deep when this special person treats you bad, is angry with you or ignores you. If you wouldn´t care that much for that person it wouldn´t hurt so much... we only suffer for the people we really do love and not for these who do not mean that much for us...
2007-06-11 10:37:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋