hi there. me and my girlfriend anve been going out for a year now im 19 shes 18 and things are looking a bit stale and just the same old? we talk and stuff and we get along great together and we work well together but i want our relation ship to be exciting and special so were together for a long time but how do i do all this i make her feel like shes the greatest woman in the worls well so i think so i tell her i love her all the time and try to get her to do stuff with me like going out and i want her to be the same and i dnt know how we've gone from having sex 5 times a week to 1 a week and maybe not for 2!!! could some one help me out ?
2007-06-09 23:44:52 · 6 answers · asked by chazy boy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know it mite sound selfish but i am a caring dude who just wants the best for her i just dont want her to get bored of me because i love her to pieces!!!
2007-06-09 23:54:11 · update #1
First off- Joe C your a freakin retard, just because you don't believe in sex before marrage doesn't mean that everyone else does- or has to follow your beliefs.
sorry about that rant- i just hate people trying to push their beliefs onto others... as for your question, it sounds like your relationship is getting stale, and because of that, the romance is fizzleing. Take your girlfreind out for a romantic evening. Something nice to make her feel special and show her how much you love her. I can't really give you specific advice without knowing what you and her like- when i'm trying to be extra-romantic for my girlfriend, i send her to to a spa on a saturday get all prettied up, then let her know to get dressed in something nice (semi-formal) and i take her out to a nice dinner. Flowers are always good too- not to get into her pants, just to let her know your thinking of her and that you love her
2007-06-09 23:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Paulo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this relationship may be doomed. The opposite of love isn't hate but indifference. It isn't good if she is acting detached. Just remember, girls just want to have fun. Seems trivial-but that's just the way it is. It took me many years to figure that out. I thought they were deeper than that but they are not. Be nice, don't pressure her, be somewhat aloof and mysterious, don't be her lapdog, do different things. If this doesn't help, then look for another girl. Cause it sounds to me like she is with you only until she finds someone else-like people do a job. As for as the criticisms you have received from the others above, I don't understand where they are getting that from. They must not be reading the same question as myself. You don't sound selfish to me at all, just worried.
2007-06-10 07:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal for females you have to understand that unlike males we go through stupid menstral things of the month and turn us crazy in different ways,after a year it can go stale,but i think if you give her more space time away from you she will be brought back to you,take off some of the pressure your may be giving to her,and give her lots of space ,make her miss you and let her come after you then once she has you again youll see that time apart is all you two needed at 12 months,you need to make sure you give her space and dont harass her about not being more sexually intimate with you because this will set things back even more,stop telling her you love her so much and back off alittle and you will see things getting better
2007-06-10 06:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's part of the relationship process. once the lust is over then comes the learning about each other. this is where alot of relationships start to break up because the couple start to realize that sex was the only thing keeping them together, they have little in common. if you want the relationship to last, now is the time to put more effort into trying get to know each other. after awhile the passion will return. good luck.
2007-06-10 06:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by oldguy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound selfish. You seem to be more concerned about getting sex than about your girlfriend's feelings or the relationship. Instead of telling her that you love her, you should show her that you love her. The best way to show her that you love her is not to expect anything in return.
2007-06-10 06:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've a complete selfish user. If you had any regard for her you wouldn't be having any sex at all, not being married to her.
You've asked an insane question, and although I'm sure that you'll get answers that will make you think that your behavior is normal or acceptable, you won't get one from me.
2007-06-10 06:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋