Anyone else out there feel hopeless??

Question

I am a female in my twenties and can't go through a single day in my life without feeling like a waste of space. I have a job (though I still live at home with my parents), but all I feel like is a failure. I often think to myself "Whats the point of me being here, I am terrible at everything and lack pretty much everything that is required in life to succeed!!".. I have never truly been good at anything and what usually comes soo simply to others takes me ages to grasp. I am afraid to express or say what I want to say and bring my point across because I don't want to be judged or looked down upon. I consider myself to be stupid and everyday I experience a blonde moment (usually more than one) I feel alone and unaccepted in the world. Everyone else seems to be succeeding and flourishing in their lives, all I seem to be doing is going further and further down the gutter. Life is soo unfair, I am an outcast with nothing to offer... Can anyone relate (even in the slightest of ways)???

Answer 1

You felt outcast because you are probably in the wrong circle of people around you. Try to discover yourself a bit more. What is your interest in life? What do you want to do? What does excites you? Answer questions about yourself and then slowly turn your life into something you really wanted to be.

Try not to follow others to what they do because it may not suit you.

Answer 2

I behave like that sometimes, especially when things don't work out the way I want them to be or when I'm under lots of pressure. I have hurt by people I love, I feel worthless at some points in life, and I feel shameful because I have done something embarrassing in front of people I know. But hey, the world still keeps moving, and tomorrow is another day. Don't care too much about what other people say and think. You should look forward and be confident. You are unique.

You need to keep yourself busy. Try to do things that you are good at. If you can't find anything you are good at, then start doing something that interests you (e.g. cooking, painting, exercises, etc) and learn to be good at them. Be a critical thinker. Have your own perspective, and don't always listen and follow what others say. Read international news, and pay more attention to new things that occur in this world. This world is BIG, you have more to learn than to think about pessimistic stuff. You can even find some volunteer works to do to make your life more fulfilling. Meet more people and don't think of the negative sides (I know it's easier to say than done)

Try to think about 3 good things that have happened to you everyday. Even little things count like having a good breakfast in th morning, or the weather is nice today... Just reinforce yourself to think positively. Remember to keep doing this everyday, then you will soon discover the beautiful sides of life.

Answer 3

You are too hard on yourself. EVERYBODY feels exactly this way from time to time.

If you think that live is unfair, you are right. Try explaining to a starving homeless orphan in Africa or Bangladesh who hasn't eaten in a month why you have loving parents who can feed and shelter you, and he doesn't. Try to explain to a retarded or senile person why you have a normal intellect, and they do not. Dear, develop a little perspective here by focusing on what is RIGHT with your life so far, not on what you think is wrong with it.

By the way, if you are feeling outcast, consider the fact that positive, optimistic people tend to attract other people, while depressed, pessimistic people tend tend to scare people away. You need to learn to be comfortable with who you are, if you want others to like you too.

Keep in mind that God made you just the way that you are, and that God never makes any junk, nor does he make any mistakes. Quit comparing yourself to other people, and just resolve to be the best person that you can be.

And it probably would help if you developed some hobbies to keep yourself busy in your spare time. Take a dance class, learn to paint, or better yet, volunteer for some charity. It is hard to feel bad about yourself if you are busy thinking about someone else.

Answer 4

Just don't worry what other people think about you, I know how hard it is, I'm still trying to let myself be free and not care myself. I still can't seem to do it fully but even the little bit I have progressed it has made a HUGE difference. You'll be suprised how much happier you are when you just let go and learn not to care. Your days are numbered here and you should make the best of them. At first my attitude was just to be in the background, just not say anything that way I won't be hated. Sure nobody hated me but also no one liked me because I was so boring and just wasn't myself. Once I broke out a little, sure some people didn't like me but way more people did and I've made so many new friends. Just keep trying and don't give up.

Answer 5

NO ONE is without value. Chances are that you're being far too critical of yourself, and we are our own worst judges! You just need a boost of confidence!

If you feel that you aren't any good at anything, you just haven't found yet what you are good at. Most people don't realize that they're good at something until they are doing it and suddenly realize that they have a talent for what they're doing.

As far as "blonde moments", I may have dark brown hair, but I all too frequently seem to have blonde roots! (grin)

In used to be like you when I was younger, but later found that I was too discouraged and depressed to try anything, for fear that I would fail and make myself worse. And fear of failure is a self-sustaining trap, for it keeps you from trying to do anything for fear that you might fail.

And if you fail, so what? No one is perfect, and few people (especially me!) succeed in their endeavors the first time they try something. (But there are also those who follow the motto of: "If at first you don't suceed, try to hide your astonishment.") (grin)

I didn't know I had a talent for teaching until I was pressured into volunteering to teach High School Sunday School classes. Apparently my teaching was good enough that I had the parents of the people I was teaching wanting to attend my classes.

I didn't know I had a natural talent for electronics until I joined the Navy. I am now an electronics technician for a major corporation.

Everyone has talents they can offer, it's just a case of finding out what they are!

Wanna be pen-pals? I would enjoy writing to you, and you would have at least one friend who you needn't fear will judge you, or look down on you.

Please feel free to write if you want to. :)

Answer 6

I understand,but everyone has something they are gifted at. Find your gift, and go with it. My wife is dangerous, and a total clod. But She has a gift with cards, and visits to make even the most down person feel good..

Answer 7

who says life is fair.we all have our troubles and shotcommings.the only consolation is we are unique each of us and whether you like it or not your'e special.