im 15 and my girl freind is 14 and she is pregnant what do i do?

Question

hey guys i really need to know this really bad ok my girl is pregnant and i havent told my parents i plan to tommarow but yeah um anyways i just wanted to ask sum1 elses opinion...

and dont ***** at me ok i know i fucked up...

ok seriusly saying im going to jail wont help me at all ty but i live in walla walla... i have no clue if u guys know were that is but yeah... and its in washington... but yeah um she is ok with it and no matter what happends i wont leave the baby... and we just figured out today that she was pregnant so yeah its only been like 3 weeks... god i know this is going to ruin my child hood and im ready for that i really am... if i could stay with her forever i will... ive been dateing her for 5months now

ok i turn 16 in october and i have a job that gives me about 400-500$ every 2 weeks so im not worryd about the job thing but yeah im just worryd about her... and she will not give it up for adoption and she is hella ageinst obortion and so am i... the reason i am worryd about her is because she is young and i dont want her do be like idk how to say it but "hurt" from this, not emotionaly but physicly, i know the hole pregnentsy thing there will be pains but yeah i dont want her to have like sumthing wrong with her... how do i reaply to a post i dont wanna keep dooing this...

Answer 1

Well obviously you are going to tell yours and her parents which is the 1st step - be prepared for a bad reaction, particually as they may not know that she has been having sex. (Not sure if you are in the UK but age of consent is 16 here and her parents may not be too happy at all!)
Have you both talked, do you want to keep the baby? If so how will you support it etc. These are the questions that her parents will want answered.
How far gone is she as if she wants a termination there is a limit. Obviously the earlier it is the less physically traumatic the experience will be for you girlfriend. Although mentally it can be whatever stage you are.
She is going to need support what ever you decide to do, be there for her and I hope it goes ok with the parents x
edited to say you haven't ruined your childhood you have just atlered it. Some people have made it sound all bad, yes babies are hard work but they are so worth it and if you love each other and have supportive families having a baby may well be a really positive experience for you both.

Answer 2

I'm not going to say oh you f*cked up. I'm a teenager myself and I've seen some of my people make foolish mistakes. I haven't made any that drastic but i know what point your coming from.

First you should just kind of calm down. If you panic then your girlfriend is going to panic. Tell your parents at the right time. If they're calm and you have not gotten on their nerves lately or gotten in trouble tell them. When you turn 16 you have to get a job so you can support your baby.

You also have to be there for the mother of your child. Make sure she's comfortable and she knows that you have her support. Support her at all times and make sure you help raise your child. The mother really has most of the responsibility but you do too. If she needs any type of help with the child make sure your available 24/7.

If you live up to your fatherly duties and responsibility you'll be fine. Don't have the "oh I'm not ready to be a father mentality" because now you are. Love your child and just be there for him or her the best and i mean best you can. All you can do is put your all into raising your baby and hope that in the long run you did a good job at it.

Also ask your parents for support since your not 16 yet. Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm 17 and just graduated high school, probably closer to your age then anyone else. I'm 20 weeks and 5 days pregnant. I was so afraid to tell my parents even though I wanted to. I never did tell them. They found out when I was 10 weeks through one of my cousins who told her mom who told my mom. To be honest I could have still been hiding this pregnancy especially since I've only gained 2 and a half pounds and my plan was to hide it until I turned 18 in early July which I could have easily done if my cousin hadn't told. But my parents have been so supportive and I've been to the doctor three times and I go again tomorrow to find out the gender! I'm very happy they found out. It's best to let your parents know especially for her health and the babies, especailly since she is so young. Make sure she starts taking prenatal vitamins which you can get over the counter at any store for around $10 a bottle. Also make sure she scheduals a doctor appointment ASAP! If she doesn't have insurance she can get Medicaid to pay her hospital bills, but she will need her parents help getting it.

I'm glad you have a job and my advice is save as much as you can. I'm trying despretly to save anything I can. My boyfriend doesn't have a job so I'm working my butt off. I'm happy to hear that you are going to help support her. She shouldn't have a job... her job should just be taking care of her body and baby.

Make sure you discuss with both your parents about social service assistance, like free health care, WIC, food stamps, and child care.

I wish you luck and please understand she will go through many drastic changes and may have moods let some things go and be there for her.

Answer 4

Relax- you're not going to jail for being a year older than your girlfriend! Whoever said that is completely misinformed.

It's in everyone's best interest that she see a doctor for prenatal care. Telling your parents is a smart first move. You might also go to a free pregnancy center to get in touch with resources in the community that can help you. Some of them offer medical services on-site, others will give you a referral, but either way they'll support you. http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp

You sound like a great guy- so many ppl would run in the opposite direction in a situation like this. Stay awesome!

Answer 5

Be str8 with your folks,tell the truth,and be responsible for your actions. You can pretty much kiss your childhood off.You need to be a man,and that means taking care of your responsibilities. You are now responsibile for a human life...and that is not something to be taken lightly.
Places to go for help...Planned Parenthood,(although you should have gone there first and gotton some free condoms),many church organizations like Catholic Charities,search the web for information on teen pregnancy and where to turn for assistance.
Most of all,remember that the pregnancy is not the baby's fault...he/she is an innocent...so don't take it out on them.Get a job,and get ready for a long rough road. In the end,you'll find it can be the most incredible experience of your life being a father...or the worst. You'll get out of it what you put into it. Just like YOUR parents did...

Answer 6

Rayen is right. Your childhood is over.

But, it is not hopeless. You're the same age as my brother and (now) sister in law when their first was conceived. Both parents signed a waiver which allowed them to get married. an they're still together, this will be their 10th year. It was very rough going for a very long time. But with love, hard work, patience and understanding, you can make it through.

You are both still very young... and you will both have your times when you behave like spoiled selfish brats. Both sets of parents (in this case) were very supportive and I believe that led to the ultimate success of their marriage.

Believe in yourself. Believe in each other. Step back whenever you're angry and take a deep breath... and try to go back into the discussion with a calm head.

And... finish school. That is something my sib did not do, and the family still struggles for it. *finish school*.

Tell your parents *together*... you are a team now... you need to support each other through the good and the bad.
Best wishes, and welcome to the real world.

Answer 7

Well I think you know you have a very bumpy road ahead of you. It will be difficult but you will get through it. However, yes your childhood is over. Obviously you will have to talk with your parents and her parents. They will be the ones who will help you through this the most. You will have to prepare yourself for all of the emotions that will run amuck, but just realize you will get through it. Being so young you must finish school in order to get a good job to support your baby as you are far too young to financially support a child. I would recommend that you and your gf seriously talk about adoption - and being that she is so terrible young it will be very hard on her body to deliver a baby. FYI the female body isn't fully developed until around 21. Unfortunately there is no good advice for a situation like this - other than to seek your parents assisstance with comming to a good outcome.

Answer 8

everybody makes mistakes and you will have responses to this question like "you should've used condoms or not had sex at all ..." maybe it is true but it is not what you want to hear right now. I think you should talk to your parents and hers together and get them to help you work out were to from here. Many ppl will tell you that you are too young to have a baby but ultimately it is your decision. If you do decide to keep the baby it will be a huge lifestyle change for both of you but could totally be worth it. I think the fact that you are talking to your parents tomorrow shows that you have accepted your mistake and are taking mature and responsible step towards working it out. The best thing that you can do at this stage is help your girlfriend through whatever decisions you make and let you parents help you too.... it's not a bad thing to admit that you need help. Good luck and let us know how things go :)

Answer 9

The bottom line is...a baby is never a bad thing.

Middle and High school health class often strongly emphasizes the reproductive systems and the consequences of unprotected sex. They focus on discouraging students from becoming parents, but often neglect to educate students on what to do if they become parents anyway.

One thing you can expect is a lot of people sadly shaking their head, judging you, and saying things which start with "If only..." All of that is in the past, what's done is done, and the only thing the "if only..." game will get you is anxiety and depression. Instead, just focus on one simply truth..."A baby is never a bad thing."

That said, 14-years is quite young to begin a family. Abortion may be a tempting option, however with the number of eager couples who are waiting to adopt, it would be far more compassionate and humane to allow the baby to go to term and allow someone to adopt it. I have known far too many young women who had abortions, then later regretted the decision.

You're life has changed, but it's not a disaster. You'll be alright, just keep calm, seek religious and/or psychological guidance if you can, and things will turn out as they should.

Good luck

Answer 10

my daughter got pregnant at 16 and like most in this situation she did not want to tell her dad thinking he would hit the roof. She was wrong about that and I now have a beautiful 11 year old grandaughter. Whilst it easy to say you should not have got into this situation, you will both need all the help you can get now. My advice is to tackle both sets of parents straight away and I think you will be surprised at how supportive they might be. Good luck (and be more careful next time!).