My ex-partner of five years and father of my child have been split for 18 months. We moved into new relationships very quickly after ending it, both admitting they were rebound relationships to help us get over eachother, problem is it never worked. A few weeks ago we had a good catch up after months of little contact and had a few more good catch ups after that (if you know what I mean), we both admitted we were still in love with each other. I ended my rebound relationship and he was about to end his and we were going to try again! Till one morning his partner said to him that she hopes his dream does not come true as he had been talking in his sleep saying he loved me and not her, later that day she told him she was pregnant! I don't know if it is true or whether she had an idea we were going to try again and is doing this out of desperation. Should we still try again or what? Please help I am at a loss of what to do, I know I love him but can we get over this?
2007-06-09 21:07:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you both need therapy if you think replacing each other with other people is going to make you get over your past relationship. I feel sorry for the other people involved.
2007-06-17 09:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to get over it. This guy never married you despite your having a child. What a jerk! You notice he let you go ahead and end your rebound relationship but he had some sort of reason not to end his. He went home to his rebound relationship and had catching up to do with her too - that's how she got pregnant. Either someone mailed her the sperm, it was another case of Immaculate Conception, or she got knocked up the old fashioned way.
Sounds like this guy likes to live with one woman and enjoy her while he sneaks around and enjoys other women too. Your reading deep feelings into this is fine for you but I have a feeling you knew he was that type already. So just go with the flow, I say. Be his 'little something on the side' and rest assured, he won't marry this woman, nor you and probably not the next one. Apparently he doen't know anything about contraception either so expect one big happy family of half-siblings to develop.
2007-06-16 20:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your booking a flight with someone elses luggage instead of yours, can you ever get over it? you ask, you did get it over and then allowed it to start again, now you say this women is crying a bun in the oven and your wondering if it's all a ploy of deception, out of mere desperation, who know's and if it is then what but if she's telling the thruth, guess what? some one will have to stay and some one will have to go, unless your willing to put up with an extended family being you have a child all ready besides you spoke of some xtra catch up's if we knew what you mean well if you used protection then all's well that end's well if not then i guess the guy in the middle is gonna have the finnal say about who get's top priority . . . good luck . . .
2007-06-16 16:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by myheartsvoice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suspect the sudden pregnancy is a devious ploy to keep your soon to be (ex) new partner from leaving. I won't be surprised if you find out that she is not even pregnant.If you guys truly feel "in love again", then I say go for it.As for the other lady, let your guy call her bluff by saying that he is still leaving to be with you.That he is willing to take care of the child if it turns out to be his after birth.She may cry, threaten that he will never see the baby,that he shouldn't leave because she loves him etc.However , he should stand his ground. You both deserve a second chance at happiness.I wish you well.
2007-06-17 23:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a good reason why you broke up in the first place...it's never a good idea to return back to where you started...you will be depressed more on the 2nd time..just move on. I'm a divorcee abt 8 years with 3 kids..it happened to me, i made a mistake accepting him again, guess what? it's only in the beginning you would think that he is actually the one, u never should have left him...but that does not last...people dont change...my advice to you..just move on while you still can...there are more to life , but it's your life.. you decide
2007-06-18 01:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by ladyjane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blessed is Correct. The Decision will be basically up to "him" but if a child is on the way, you have to take that into consideration also. It really seems like a convenient time for her to bring this up doncha think? Are you really sure any of that even took place or is this something"HE" said and may be using it as an excuse to not reunite with you.. It is a possibility. He may be wanting to keep seeing you but stay with her, and this is a convenient way to do it..
2007-06-10 04:18:12 · answer #6 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the girlfriend is trying to keep him by making up a pregnancy.I mean,how covenant is it that she supposedly heard him talking in his sleep and then found out she was pregnant?I would ask him for some proof of her pregnancy before making any decisions about trying again.It could be that he really doesn't want to be together and HE'S the one making something up.Either way,check things out very well before deciding what to do.Just my opinion,take it as you may.
2007-06-10 05:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suddenly she is pregnant becuz of a dream he had. I would be telling him to go the the doctors with her afor a check up to see if she really is pregnant.
If you have decided, both of you, to try the relationship again...I would say go for it. What is the worst that can happen?!! If it doesnt work out, the most you can say is atleast you gave it a shot.
2007-06-17 13:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by garingercompany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask ur self this..does he just love you now b/c yall are having a baby and then after that is he just goin to end it agin!..or does he realli love me and want to be with me forever!...yall need to sit down one night and have someone baby sit the kids..and talk long and hard about weather u want ot be together...me and my husband are taking a break from each other..we got a babysitter..and we sat down for a lil while well for a long while for bout 6 hours and talked it out!..we finally came to a decision to stay together and him to move back in..a couple weeks later we got in another fight he left to go to his brothers agin and we still have not worked it out yet..and that was 4 months ago!...hope you make the right decision...good luck!
2007-06-10 04:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would feel that it is a decision that he has to deal with. Sorry, but he could be playing a stalling game as well. If his gf is pregnant, he has major decisions to face that could include you. Why not sit down and work these possible scenes into your mind and see how they play out to you. In the meantime, just listen and be there when he wants to talk.
2007-06-10 04:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋