postpardum?

Question

has anyone ever experienced post pardum before? my anxiety is super high right now...for example....I don't like being home just me and baby...I get nervous...very anxious...just someone being here puts me at some ease and I tend to feel this way more so at night than anything....I never felt this way when I was pregnant but after having my son it's been one obssesion after another when it comes to worrying....first it was SIDS..I still worry but not as much then and now it has become spider....I started flippin out about any spider that i saw and eventually started crying and stayed away from my house for a few days because of it.....I'm talking with adoctor on monday about this but I wanted to know of anyone elses experiences with this. It also feels a bit harder because I have noone going through the parenthood with me....just me and I know if I had the companionship I might not feel so bad. IT's not easy doing it alone but I love my son with all my heart.

I am a single parent and I do feel it's more of an anxiety problem than anything but it has stemmed off since having my son....I wonder if I have post pardun and it's hightening my anxiety and phobias( which would be the spiders)

Answer 1

Ignore everything in the first answer.

Anxiety and depression are very common with a new baby. My husband was home for a week to help me with my first baby, and it was still a major roller coaster of emotions. New babies take a lot of work and even though you love him to death and want to be there for him all the time, you are tired. It's okay to be tired and scared sometimes. Sometimes life is tiring and scary.

But, life also changes. I was the most sensitive for the first 2-3 weeks after having my babies. After that, things gradually got better and better. I felt pretty good when my babies were 3 months old and the best after I stopped nursing at 7-8 months.

Give it time and for sure go see your doctor. He/she may want to prescribe anti-depressants. They can help, but there can be risks too. You may want to try starting an exercise routine if you haven't already. You should also seriously consider some counseling/therapy. There are wonderful psychologists out there who specialize in helping new mothers without the use of drugs.

You know, one of the best things anyone ever said to me was, "It's okay to cry, just not all the time." This goes for you and for your baby. Sometimes babies just cry. Sometimes moms do too. (I'm almost crying right now.)

Chin up. Things are going to get better!!

Answer 2

I understand what you mean. My husband returned to Iraq 3 days after our daughter was born, and I was terrified to be alone. The first night, I went to my mothers. My advice to you is to worry a little, but try not to obsess. Read up on SIDS and do everything you can to prevent it, but know that no matter how hard a parent tries, sometimes bad things happen. I think it's wonderful that you are seeing a doctor Monday. Most mothers don't have the courage to admit that they have a problem that IS NOT THEIR FAULT! As for spiders, you can have an extermination company spray your home, the chemicals are safe for baby and you, and will keep spiders and other bugs away. One thing that may help you is getting one of the video baby monitors. That way you can always see your son, even from your own bed.

Good luck, and I promise that things will get better.

Answer 3

I would cry when no one was around. It was hard because my husband and I did not live together at the time because he wanted to fix up our place so itd be ready for the baby and it wasnt done when she was born. So I had to live at my moms for a bit while he lived up there working at hs job and working on the house. And my mom lives over an hour away so he could only come down to see us once during the weekdays and on weekends. I missed him a lot. And my mom worked two jobs at the time, my dad worked a lot of overtime, my brother was away at college, and my sister had just gotten a new boyfriend (her fiance now) so she was spending a lot of time with him when she wasnt at work. So I was alone a lot. My mom and sister helped out as much as they possibly could though and I was so grateful that they were there being that she is my first (and so far only) and I was new to the whole parenting thing. The main reason I was so depressed is because I wasnt living with my husband and I didnt like it. It wasnt my idea of an ideal situation. But it all worked out. I got better and so will you.
Post-partum is real. You might want to see your doctor if you feel its getting out of control. Most people who suffer from post-partum are better within a few months. But some can have it for up to a year.

Answer 4

Joe C is a complete moron. PDD IS a REAL problem. I had it, but that doesn't sound like what you have. It sounds like you just have an anxiety problem. Are you a single parent? You didn't mention anything about his dad being around. You might just be anxious about anything in the house that might potentially harm your baby. You need to try to find a calm quiet spot and maybe do some Yoga to relax. Use lavender products too.

Answer 5

This sounds like a milder form of postnatal depression, which is common. You are not alone. The best thing you can do is to talk with your doctor, explain everything, regardless of how silly you may feel, and he/she will help you. Talk to friends. They will provide you with a great support network that is invaluable. Above all, trust your instincts and know that as long as you love your son and are doing your best by him, then he will grow up to be a happy, well loved child.

The first answer you received should be totally ignored; it is provided by a man who clearly has no concept of anything outside his own sad little life.

Answer 6

First, congratulations. Second, many people go through this so you are not alone. Just look at Brooke Shields for example. There are lots of resources on the internet. You could even call a crisis line to get more information. The United Way has a 211 resource where they will do the research for you. Best of luck. You will be a great mom.

Answer 7

You poor thing. You're definately doing the right thing by seeing your Doc. This is supposed to be one of the happiest times of your life, watching your child grow etc. I don't have a personal experience with this but I feel for you. I'm sure your Doc will have all the RIGHT ANSWERS for you. Good luck

Answer 8

i jus read somethin about this actually, post pardem OCD(obsessive compulsive disorder), more then depression it sounds like and anxiety about being a single mom. i think goin to the doc will help you a lot and time will prolly help with the anxiety although i think its fairly normal to worry about things you never even gave a 2nd thought to before, best to you

Answer 9

I believe you are referring to "post-partum" depression. Almost every mother experiences this to a small degree. When it becomes serious, it's time to see a doctor.

Answer 10

i havent had my baby yet soo id ont know lol. immore worried about post after birth thing.. were im very emotional n cry fer no reason (lol i do that enough as it is) and you get depressed