I split with someone I was with over a year and a half ago. I found someone else, had a child since then, and THOUGHT I had moved on. I still dream about my ex and sometimes catching myself think of that person. When we were together, I really thought I was in love and now that it's been over a year, I really believe that. How long has it taken you to get over an ex? I don't talk to or call that person but so much in my life reminds me of them.
2007-06-09 19:04:08 · 5 answers · asked by JC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think what you are going through is definitely normal. I don't think you ever get over a person you truly loved and you will be reminded of them over the course of your life. Now that you have a child and someone new partner in your life, just think of how grateful you are for what you have. I don't think it will become easier, just remember that things happen for a reason and if it were meant to be, you guys would have ended up together. Sometimes people come into our lives to teach us a lesson and move on. Maybe that person taught you what to look for in a healthy relationship. Maybe you have that now or it is something you look for in your relationship. Good luck.
2007-06-09 19:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by Curious1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Splitting with your ex over a year and a 1/2 ago..you'll Always hold that special 'love' for her..but try to remember You split up with her, there must have been a reason..so now you're wondering the what if's*.....it's normal....but you need to really move on now with your new partner a child. Perhaps this New relationship was a whirl wind for you..happening so fast...meeting someone and having a child with them..if this is the case..you may have regrets for quite some time. Are you Happy in yor new relationship? Do you feel Trapped? What was the Reason you broke up with your ex in the first place??
You need to figure out if youre in this new relationship because it happend so fast and you got in deeper than you thought...and now are regretting it...or if you really love this woman and want to make it a true Family* Once you've come to that decision...you can then move on with your life * Best wishes*
2007-06-09 19:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it has nothing to do with whether or not that was true love - you never forget someone you shared a part of your life with - even if it was only 6 months! Yeah - some of us will always have lingering thoughts especially when life gets challenging and stressful like when kids come along - it's almost a way for our minds to escape to a less stressful time when things were easy and carefree. Your mind always plays tricks on you - you remember someone in hindsight as perfect and wonderful - when in reality they were not. If you met them again - and hung out for awhile - all of the negatives would soon reveal themselves again and the reasons why you split up in the first place would come back in time. Sometimes your mind just dramatizes the past. I know I have some memories like that of sandy white beaches and the sunsets and all that from my free and carefree days - and you wonder if life will ever be like that again like it was with that other person. I wonder if I'll ever see the ocean again after 3 kids and now being in the midwest. But, one look at that baby's eyes and the truth just hits me - what I've got now is more stable, more fulfilling and in the long term - WOW my choices and thought life will affect this spouse and these kids and so I just remind myself that I can't let the past ruin what the present is - especially when the reality of the past wouldn't have lead to anything as meaningful as what I've got now. What a responsibility and a priveledge to be a parent - this is normal - all a part of growing up and realizing that you have to be strong - morally right and in control of your mind and knowing the tricks it can play. You have gotten over that person - many of us just never forget - and that's all a part of life. You have to put those memories in their place and realize - the ones about how this baby was born - who he or she will be and your impact on him or her - is of greater magnitude than that.
2007-06-09 19:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will always be moments in your life where you'll think of what you thought was true love back then. And also, you will probably have some hypothetical questions too, wondering what if's. I honestly believe you're still holding onto that relationship, which is unfair to your current relationship. But I think it's common..Just stay outta trouble!
2007-06-09 19:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by dazzlingclassic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno exactly how u feel..i still hav dreams about my ex..thing is mayb u dint get any closure n still miss d good times...not sure abt u but i kno that there is no going back..u have to try to let things go..its been more than a year and im wid a new person but i still think abt my ex..its sad how things change but thats life..u have to move on..sumone told me that dreams are just dreams n u cant control it..so thats wut im gonna tell u...take it one day at a time..n i promise things will start lookin up...they r for me
2007-06-09 19:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋