How can I deal with SARCASM without getting offended?

Question

I get off to a great start but eventually I want to rip someones head off. I think I can't take a joke. Any thoughts?

Answer 1

Sometimes you can laugh it off, but sometime it can go over the line. Trust me sarcasm can go to far. It cuts deep. I am very sarcastic and have hurt peoples feelings. I am now trying to be more sardonic, which is more situational, than personal from what i understand. Its hard because I am good at being sarcastic and have been all my life.

Learn defensive remarks to say back. Something like "your attempts at sarcasm never seems to amaze me!" You can also always walk away.

Answer 2

Sarcasm is expressed by all of us at one time or another. It sounds like the person you are receiving most of it from may be carrying it on too long. That's time to tell them you've had enough and need a break from it.
Another thing that will help is understanding the basis of sarcasm. Read a few psychology books that mention it, and look for what's available on it on the Internet. That will help you develop a tool to cut it off at the start.

Answer 3

What, though, if you are on the receiving end of sarcasm, perhaps from friends or schoolmates? Before succumbing to the urge to retaliate, realize that we are living in “critical times hard to deal with.” (2 Timothy 3:1-5) Youths face huge pressures. Notes the book The Loneliness of Children: “Children . . . bring to their schools all the prejudices, resentments, aggressiveness, and pent-up hostilities they have been taught at home.” Such hostilities are often released in the form of cruel speech.

Knowing this can help you avoid the tendency to retaliate when victimized. (Compare Proverbs 19:11.) It also helps to remember the apostle Paul’s words: “Return evil for evil to no one.” (Romans 12:17) ‘Turning the other cheek’ to someone who has slapped you verbally takes real self-control. (Matthew 5:39) But it does not mean that you must make no response whatsoever when sarcastic speech amounts to an insult—or a threat. The book Violence, by coauthor Irwin Kutash, observes: “Affronts that are not successfully counteracted can have far-reaching effects for victims . . . These victims become easy targets for further victimization.”

At times, then, circumstances may warrant your counteracting a verbal attack, not by lashing back with spiteful words, but by calmly and peacefully speaking to the abuser in private. (Proverbs 15:1) Joanne tried this, telling a classmate: “I didn’t appreciate the comment you made in front of the class. It was really hurtful.” The result? Says Joanne: “Since then he’s respected me and hasn’t said anything else.”

Twenty-year-old David, however, points to another source of hurtful speech, saying: “Your parents are supposed to love you the most; yet, they are sometimes the ones that make the most biting comments.” Of course, this is often done in innocence; in trying to correct you, they unwittingly crush you. Why not try talking to your parents about it, letting them know how you feel? Perhaps they’ll be more sensitive to your feelings next time.

Finally, it helps if you do not take yourself too seriously. Author Donald W. Ball observes: “The effectiveness of sarcasm . . . lies in its imagined consequences.” Yes, don’t blow an incident out of proportion by imagining that you have sustained irreparable damage because of one unkind remark. Keep a sense of humor!

The best way to avoid being a victim of sarcasm, though, is to avoid using it yourself. Says the Golden Rule: “All things, therefore, that you want men to do to you, you also must likewise do to them.” (Matthew 7:12) When you apply this rule, you can avoid being a user—and perhaps a victim—of hurtful, sarcastic speech.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Your anger and rage are only hurting yourself. Instead, look the person right square in the eye and say, "may I ask you a question?" Then ask: Are you aware that your bitterness that comes thru in the tone of voice you use, is hurtful to those around you? Do you get some perverse pleasure out of hurting others?
They never respond, but it gives them something to think about, and then in the future, just ignore them. When dogs are rude and obnoxious the best way to train them is to totally ignore them and pretend they are not there.

Answer 6

Just say to yourself - not worth getting upset cos the person is nothing really. But in the long term you need to grow up and be more mature to handle this problem.

Answer 7

just loosen up, I had the same problem when I had first moved to where I live now, but had found out it is alot easier to loosen up, but don't let people walk all over you, you have to draw a line somewhere.

Answer 8

Grow a backbone and learn how to laugh at yourself.

Answer 9

You can't take a joke.

Answer 10

try being sarcast back I like it helps me drive a point home