My best friend and I have been friends since like grade 4 and now in grade 10 we have both begun being really good friends with this other girl. The only problem is that she is starting to cling and like the other girl more and kinda they are ganging up against me all the time. Theyve been acting really immature lately, almost middle school like. As in I sit beside my best friend in english class and the other girl sits behind us and then they will pass notes to each other about me and gigle and not show me!
so my question is... what do I do? Do I ignore them? Do I tell them the truth? like what do I do b/c im scared that if i ignore them for a while that ill lose my best friend for good
2007-06-09 15:55:56 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a very common 'middle school-type' behavior. I would hope that all of you would be a bit more mature in handling relationships. I am sorry that your friend has hurt you, but you must be honest with yourself and with her. Talk to her. Let her know that you have nothing against her including other friends, but you feel left out sometimes and feel awkward when they write notes and laugh and not share. Ask her if her friendship with you is still important? If she talks and acts as though there is nothing wrong with her, but with you, then I say it's time to move on. Who says that you have to stay friends with someone throughout all of your life? There are times when you may part ways with friends when they are not doing the things that you want to do, or expressing behaviors that are contrary to yours. It's okay. The main thing is - you should not be feeling lousy over this. Pick your face up and put your smile back on and get back into the business of networking and meeting new people. I am sure that there are plenty of girls around who would love to befriend you - sometimes girls get wrapped up in themselves and forget the world. Now, it may be your time to venture out and find new folks to have fun with.
2007-06-09 16:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way she's acting now is NOT as a best friend. I would just chill out a little bit. In time she may want to be friends again. It hurts, I know. It's not nice when a best friend acts like you are no longer important to her.
I think the only thing you can do is try and make other friends and think about doing other things.
I wish you all the best.
2007-06-09 23:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this happen to me a few years ago. Just try talking to your original friend and tell her how you feel. Hopefully she'll get the idea and talk to the other girl about it. Sorry if that doesn't help much, I'm kinda tired and may not be thinking straight. Good luck though!
2007-06-09 23:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Caleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! this is whats happening to me NOW! I can't believe it. I also have this best friend, who became my best friend during 4Th grade, and until today. But she and her new found friend, gangs up on me, too! And I'm getting nervous because school is opening again this Wednesday!
The best thing to do is ignore them both. This "best friend" of yours is obviously not your best friend anymore. Try to find new best friends to hang out with, and make sure that they don't gang up on you like your best friend did.
Be strong. Best of luck for both of us!
2007-06-09 23:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by kymie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋