This last year my husband has done some very hurtful things to me . No cheating but other stuff . I don't know if I am just hurt and it will take time to heal or if I am falling out of love with him . I feel I hate him more hten I love him and I don't want to spend as much time with him as I used to . When we are talking on the phone and he says I love you i try to avoid saying it if I can get out of it . Am I just really mad and this will pass or am I falling out of love with him ? He is leaving for a week for schooling for his job and I figured I guess that will help me sort out my feelings but anyone else can help me ?
2007-06-09 15:38:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
K noe abusivness here either just alot of lack of doing and understanding or listening to me instead of being selfish and he needs to grow up alot i just feel he never will cause for god sakes he is 30 . He scares me cause of this cause i am only 23 and i don't want to waste my life away if this is happing and find out later i should have or could have done something moreto make my life better and succecful I don't know if i am getting cold feet either .
2007-06-09 16:03:33 · update #1
You are not falling out of love. You wish, that would be easier. You still love him very much. That is why u are so mad. He hurt you and you are bitter and quite possibly you want him to pay for it. You love him and you know it and feel it. If you didn't you wouldn't care enough to be mad. Deal with your hurt and your anger before you loose your marriage or so you can move in peace.
2007-06-09 19:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
True love isn't a feeling that should come and go. If you truly love someone then leaving isn't an option, even if they have hurt you (abuse is different altogether but you stated that's not the case). I agree with another person that some time away will help clear your head. When you do, take the time to really think it over. Sometimes things get out of control and both sides end up hurting each other. He may be hurt too, only just hiding it. Even if you don't spend time apart, give yourself enought time to make a decision that you don't end up regretting later.
2007-06-09 16:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by krista_h19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times people fall out of love for small thing's and over time the hurtfull things that are said and done over time take away the feelings that you had for the person you once loved, i have always tried to never say thing's you cant take back . Have a talk with your husband and tell him how you feel and that things he say's or does is hurting your relationship .and maybe things can change. GOOD LUCK
2007-06-09 15:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by sleepyhead and babykins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i don't think you can fall out of love with someone. i believe there is one right person out there for everyone and only one right person. i think it is easy to think you love someone and then find out that it wasn't true love. you need to decide if he's the one for you. if it helps, sit down and share your feelings with him, a good marriage takes communication and you shouldn't keep things from the other. it is ok to need some time to think and it is ok to tell him exactly how you feel. he may actually already sense something, most married couples can read the other like a book and always know when something is bothering them. if you aren't saying i love you back then chances are he knows something is up. he maybe trying to figure out what he did and let's face it, men can be dense!!
2007-06-09 19:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime there is more negative than positive in the relationship, especially if there is mental, physical or emotional abuse then you become a victim by staying in a destructive, demeaning abusive relationship... If this is true its time to get out of DODGE... ASAP....If you are showing love and affection but not receiving it in return then its wasted and meaningless.. Love is a two way street, when it becomes one way , you have reached a dead end..
2007-06-09 15:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. Everyone does hurtful things in a marriage. I would not know what to do if my husband felt that way over things I did. We fight as passionately as we love eachother. It has gotten bad before, but we always make up and forgive each other.
2007-06-09 15:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may just be hurt over the things he has done. A week apart will be good for you. This will give you a little time to think and see how it feels without him.
2007-06-09 15:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tyra99 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the simple fact that you have to ask yourself the question should be enough information...you know the answer...now follow thru
2007-06-09 17:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should really have a strong and serious talk with him.
2007-06-09 15:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by Blax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋