Is your woman prone to outrageous fits of rage over small, insignificant issues?

Question

I mean like a 1/2 hour, *Full Force* fit over something she will later admit is not important.

***THIS IS NOT A PMS ISSUE, THESE EPISODES ARE 3-4 MONTHS APART AND DO NOT SYNC WITH PERIODS***

They are extreme enough that if I had a tranquilizer gun, I would drop her. Yet when she's done she says "Oops sorry" and goes on as if nothing has happened and wonders why I'm freaked out.

Is this a *Chick thing*? is it a mental illness?
I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this?

With the exception of these rage fits , she seems to be fairly normal.

*** This is not a new issue ,it has been happening like clockwork,3-4 times a year for 5 + years.

Answer 1

Perhaps there are other things that are really bothering her in her life, and she takes them out on you. Even if the issue may not be very siginificant, stress and anger builds up and it will explode.

Is there anything in your relationship that she could still be bitter about? Is there is an issue/fight that was left lingering (with no resolve?) If that is the case, she might have a lot of anger built up inside of her. And she will repeat these episodes until she can make peace with them.

The only thing that I can suggest is to communicate with her and encourage her to open up if she needs. Just tell her that you are there if there is anything going on in her lfie that she wants to discuss. Ask her if she is worried/stressed/frightened/mad about something in her life or relationship. Listen to her. Maybe her her through these problems.

Answer 2

I don't think this has to do with her being a woman. I think she may have the kind of personality that lets little things go when they bother her- at least she THINKS she let go of her frustration over something small when in reality, there is a little counter in her head adding up a bunch of little things that bothered her and building and building until BLAM! one more little thing sets her off.

So even though it may seem a small thing set her off it was more of a collection of small things added up together that she was expressing all at once.

Encourage her to seek anger management and to find some other outlet for these explosive moments or to express her frustration more completely as each small thing happens.

Answer 3

Oh my gosh!

I hope she doesn't read this! She might have another one...

I don't think it is a mental illness. I freak out over things pretty badly sometimes (I'm a woman). I think that you shouldn't become "freaked out" over these "fits." Try to calm her down as much as possible and when it is over, ask her why she is so upset. If this persists and really causes you problems, then seek counseling help.

Good luck... to both you and her!

Answer 4

I am a woman and sometimes I have fits of rage if my husband pisses me off but I only say sorry if I'm wrong which I never am so deal with it!

Maybe she is going thru some thangs so ask her when she is calm what's up with the fits!

Answer 5

This is a chick thing alright.


The difference between ladies and gentlemen, is that men will straight out tell you what they are feeling, where women tend to hint it and say the complete opposite of what they mean in hopes you'll figure it out.

So, say maybe you forget to call. She says its fine. But inside, she's very hurt. Things like that all can build up to cause straight out rage.

Encourage her to tell you more what she is thinking...and less of bottling it up. It sounds like she recognizes it after she explodes.

Oh, and you are very good to not accuse her of PMSing. Becuase not only is it terrible to accuse someone when they have their period...you have a 3/4 chance of being WRONG.

I hope this helps,
Best wishes,
Terri

Answer 6

No, I don't think it's a chick thing. My wife is very patient and rarely loses her temper over anything. If we do have a disagreement, we talk it out and it's over. It sounds like she's a bit high strung and just hasn't learned to control her temper or think before she reacts.

Answer 7

My mom does that sometimes; she just gets mad over the littlest things. I think that its more due to frustration than anything else, though. I think that its a way for them to try to take more control in their lives, and it just comes out as "rage".

Its not a "chick thing"...

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Answer 8

I had one like that. It was usually after doing crack or meth so I dropped her. She hit me in the eye and scratched the cornea. She's a felon also as are both her brothers and ex-husband. Want her number?