My Fiance'e has some mental issues. She is seeking help that I dont think is working. When she is not psyco, she is a great person. We lived together and have a baby together. Recently, she had one of her episodes of mental problems, she ended up trying to file an Emergency Protection Order on me., I have never done anything to hurt her or even threatened to....Her EPO Was denied. Now, we have lawyers involved and trying to work out custody and visitation. She is now back to her old self and she sounds like she is sorry about it. I think I need to back off and let her get herself together some. I should get a place of my own and just "date" her until I see some drastic improvement. I just would like other peoples opinions on this. I do love her but I dont know if I can handle living with someone who has these issues. What do you guys think?
2007-06-09 10:48:07 · 10 answers · asked by the need to know 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't fix emotional/mental problems with love, it takes therapy and finding the source of the disturbance. You need to be strong, it can hurt much worse to get involved with disturbed people, and your life might never be OK again.
2007-06-09 10:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should first and foremost BE HER FRIEND. Do not judge her or push her away. Really support her and be the foundation that she needs to get better. Listen to her talk to her just plain out be there for her. In a relationship, married,enganged, or just boyfriend and girlfriend sometimes you have to just be that person's friend. I also feel as though you should give it time. If she is truly sorry about what she has done then it will show. You can't make people change they have to want to change for themselves. Everyone has mental issues some people's are just worse then others and it can be hard to cope sometimes, maybe you should try to go to counseling with her as well. Even sometimes take the kid if he/she is old enough just see the everyone's point of view and get an unbiased opinion on the matter.
2007-06-09 10:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keeping some distance is an excellent idea. She needs some space and peace to work on her issues. You might benefit from some counseling as well because it seems that maybe something about you pushes her buttons and you'll want to understand how to avoid contributing to the problem. Be very careful how you approach custody issues. In her more normal times, she will accept that all you want is for all of you to be safe and happy, especially the baby. If she has any paranoia or even if she just has a lot of anger, she will see anything you do as stealing her baby. I wish you both peace and understanding.
2007-06-09 10:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't have much experiance in things like this, but what is her mental problem? And if it got into custody wouldn't you get the child because she has mental problems? And I think that if she needs her space you should give it to her, but if you still love her maybe you should try to talk things through if possible. And how long have you known she's had this problem? But that's all I can really say if it even helps.
2007-06-09 10:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that the woman who gave birth to your child has problems and you are upset. This is not about the woman as much as about your child. If you think your child's mother has issues then please consider getting legal assistance and take custody. Do not "back off' and let your child remain in the custody of someone you mistrust. Are you a father or just looking to have a relationship?
2007-06-09 10:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lizbiz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave, you need to support on a level of friendship but mental "issues", go very very deep, unless she truly addresses them on her own time, it wont change her nor will she be free of anything. Let her conquer this on her own, it builds strength for you and her. Your child is number 1, think of them first, if you are not living in a mentally structured environment nothing will ever ground your child mentally and the future may be glib
2007-06-09 10:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by defenseonly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 21:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll pray foryour situation. try to be there for her as a friend but put the hcild's saftey and yorus first. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time (Hugs)
2007-06-09 10:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's unfair! To you, to her and the baby. Of course you should support her if you love her, but with time, she will get even crazier perhaps. You should draw the line and move on sooner or later
Good luck!
2007-06-09 10:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be more specific wat is the mental problem she has and why has it taken til now before u realised she has a mental problem.Has the problem just come about now. If u could answer these questions then i could better answer yours. Email me.
2007-06-09 15:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋