How do I get over a ex?

Question

My husband and I have been seperated for 20 months and divorced for less then one month. He cheated on me after 15 years of marriage and now is with my friend who is 10 years younger then me, Problem is I still love him. We have 3 children together and he has not once came back to see them. How do we all get over him?

Answer 1

You get over him by remembering what he did to his family and where he is at now!! In reality his own selfish happiness took top priority over his commitment to you and the children and that says alot about his weak and cheating character. He is not worth the tears you've cried and now he is a worthless father!! Let that nasty no good for nothing witch have his old skanky azzzz! What goes around comes around and it would do all of you good to know that one day she dumps him just like he dumped all of you!! He deserves nothing good in life out of the sick so called love that he thinks he's found in her. Ten years younger......I would feel safe to say it's a lust attraction because your ex does not know what the meaning of love is! The two of them are just down right heartless abandoning these children and going on about themselves like they don't even exist! You cannot possibly still think that you love this man when he doesn't even love himself or his kid's. Your in love with the dream that is lost.......and the man he allowed you to think that he was! After 15 years the truth in him came out and he dealt you a very dirty rotten deal. You take those feelings and you throw them into the nearest trash can! .....Because you and those children did not deserve this! When you think about this man think about his lies, the cheating, and him having all the freedom in his life and how easy it was to move on without no consideration for anybody else. He is not worth one second in your life to ever feel sad or miss what you thought was there if someone can come along and take it from you. What he allowed you to feel for him in all those years was emotional abuse of the worst kind! This man holds no guilt or shame and he is a very shallow human being. You should see and realize that now because he has been totally gone for the past 20 months. You could not possibly still love him and want him back and think that he could ever be any good for you and your children. I would never risk him coming back to desert my children like this again! He cannot ever be trusted that he found himself through the arms of a younger woman to believe he could ever feel any reason to come back to you! he has no feelings for anyone but himself he dosen't even care about his own children.......that is the saddest part!! I have always said to anyone ...you can mess with me all you want but if you mess with my kid's your a dead man walking when I catch up to you!!! Her is not worth any love that any woman could give to him and if you still have a problem believing that you love him I would go see a counselor and know it's ok to hate this man...............you need to let him go so that you can find a man that would appeciate you and give you respect. I am sorry but after all this man done to me and our children he would do the world a favor by throwing himself off a bridge. I hope he had enough sense to get a vasectomy so he can never hurt another child again sweetie.

Answer 2

You will get over him by dating again. I know that sounds a little extreme, but start LIVING your life again, without him in it. Spend time with other people. As far as your kids go, I dont' know if there is a way to get over the loss of a parent......I mean, if he's not seen them in that long a time, then it's like them having to deal with a death. Same tragedy, somewhat worse in a way. I say, try to give them a good full life without him. Show them that life can be happy, and family can be wonderful without that idiot. Start doing things you maybe didnt' make the time for when he was around. Stop cleaning the house and doing the laundry, and start spending fun quality time with those kids. Go on picnics, hikes, have movie night and popcorn at home. Show them that you are stable and not falling apart, and they may be able to cope better.

Answer 3

I do not know why people who end up done so shitty by a spouse, stay stuck like that. He left you and your children and has not looked back once. And you STILL miss him? Why? Why? Why?
He wiped his dirty backside on all those years together and threw it in your face by shacking up with a younger so called friend. Lady learn to love yourself and STOP feeling sorry for your self. You still have a lot of living to do. So get mad, hate him! Let yourself give in to the dark side of divorce. It is a motivator and will help you put the cheating bastard behind you. Get a make-over, get in shape, have somethings stuffed and lifted. And find you a horney young man that will turn that frown upside down!
Take back your life! Don't waste it on some cheating turd! Good luck!

Answer 4

At his point you have to focus on your kids. Put all your energy into them. You are the adult, they are suffering more than you. Even though I do understand how distraught you feel.

Do everything to make your home a happy one. It is imperative for the children, and yourself. Also of most importance for children to grow up with high self esteem is to NEVER talk ill of our ex.

Answer 5

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Many girls break up with their significant others, is because they need time to figure things out. Don't take it personally, if you want her back, you have to show her you can help her. If you love her then you'll let her go, that's it. Not everybody who you date in high school you end up staying with, the chances are extremely unlikely. So if she doesn't want to, then you need to let her go.

Answer 6

First issue is despite all the hurt he has caused you and your children, never talk bad about him to your kids or around your kids. In the wash they will figure it all out and form their own feelings about the situation. You will never get over him, im sorry to say, you invested alot of time with him and made a family. I would hope that you have cut off all ties with this so caled friend. Friends dont do that!!! She doesnt deserve you anyways!!! make time for yourself and start going out with friends or join a activity where you can be around people..Those needy feelings of loniness and hurt will slowly disappear!!! goodluck!!!!!

Answer 7

Go out and do something for you and your kids. Something that has nothing to do with the ex. Grab ahold of your life along with the kids and live for you. You probably have feelings of self-pity, the victim kind of thing. Get over it and do for you.

Answer 8

Get online or out in the real world and meet people. You will get so many confidence-building comments and surprises. Before you know it you'll meet someone who will take your mind off your ex.

Answer 9

lol time table dates! i'm completely extreme. like set up dates with each guy that asks you out and verify later in case you enjoyed any of them. it's going to save issues decrease than administration, and not finished chaos

Answer 10

god love ya abby men are really cruel at times im seperated also only been 3 months and its a totally different situation then yours i feel for ya with the 3 kids you have to let him go and find someone who will love you for you thats what im doen my husband didnt treat me good at all and we had no children together thank god so take his ass for child support and move on and your friend thats nasty gl to ya i wish the best time heals hon jewels