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Please answer this. I'm planning on leaving my husband & need quick advice. I've been with my husband for 2 1/2 yrs. We have been married 11 mos. We are both miserable. I would love to make my marriage work. He is my world. I react to the way he treats me, which in turn we both end up miserable. I don't trust him with reason. We have sex maybe once a week. He is heavy into porn. He jacks to that the minute I leave the house. Then doesn't want it from me. He always puts me down. I am an attractive woman. Good looking Men ask me out all the time. He always tells me I'm fat and to lose weight. I am by no means fat. I have a big butt & legs, but I am in proportion. I found numbers in his wallet of 3 x women in his past. He said they were only friends & to deal with it. These are women he had sex with. He was dating then before me.To me that's cheating. I love sex and am going nuts. I've tried talking to him. He makes me feel like I'm nothing. He abuses me in everyway

Answer 1

Get out of the relationship, if u have other guys asking u out then u know u will have someone else to fall for. U WILL find someone else to love and will love and respect u back. DON'T let this jerk just keep abusing u like this, let him jerk off to porn if he want's, just get out and find another man that you cna be completely head over heels about. You deserve so much better.

Answer 2

You sound like you want reassurance that it is the right thing to do in leaving him.

I would say from what you have said that leaving him is the right thing to do. I wonder why you married him in the first place? Find someone to help you with the impact of his abusive behavior and your reasons for putting up with it for so long. 2 1/2 years is a long time to put up with this kind of behavior.

There are plenty of other men out there who would love to meet you.

Answer 3

I could say alot on the issue but were you both like this in the begining. You can't change what a person want to do in his heart it sounds like you both don't care are never did. It takes to to make a relationship should you start changing things you can change like you. I know you are saying its not me but its just not him. If he is abusive I don't advise you to stay because it will get worse before it get better. Regarding emotional, spiritual, verbal you have control over those if you want to be happy you have to not do things to spite him just to get back at him do things because you want to do them. You didn't count up the cost in the begining know you are really suffering because of that but something sparked the negative attitude between you both this thing happens very slowly you both keep saying things to hurt oneanother doing little things to hurt and those little things turn into what you are going through right know. You are in denial if you are blaming this whole thing on him i'm sorry I hope you can really find yourself so you may be able to restore your marriage with a few small changing in you be blessed

Answer 4

You didn't ask a question...
but I think your question is: should you leave him? ABSOLUTELY.
You say that you are planning on leaving him, but you must be unsure, because you wrote us these things and didn't ask a question about your future, but instead told us details of your present.
You need self-respect...why don't you have more? Because he doesn't respect you, and now you've been led to fear that you can't do any better.
This man has all but destroyed your self-esteem.
Dream...plan for a future without him, and don't have any sex with him, he may give you a disease.
Get tested as soon as you leave him.
If you continue to have problems leaving him, you can put me as a contact or email at this yahoo ID.

Answer 5

If you feel the need to leave...then leave. If you feel your marriage has met a Dead End and counseling is out of the question....leave. Most certainly, above all 'else' if he abuses you, mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, etc...you 'must' leave for your own saftey and sanity. He obviously has issues. If you don't want to spend the rest of your life being belittled and having to believe your unworthy for your entire duration here on earth...by all means stay. I don't even know you but I 'do' know you're worth more then that. Pack your things princess. You'll be glad you did! Best of luck

Answer 6

This doesn't sound like a marriage, it sounds like a disaster! Why you would be so attracted to him is beyond me. If he is verbally abusing you and has an addiction to porn he has major issues. I have to agree with the others in that you really didn't state your question but I do not see any reason why you would stay.

Answer 7

Since there isn't really a question....
You have to respect yourself to get respect... In other words you do not respect yourself if you allow a man to belittle you... If he shattered you from the beginning why did you stay with him in the first place?.. If you're both miserable take yourself out of the situation and make a betterment for yourself.. He doesn't respect you or your vows... Learn some self respect and try again

Answer 8

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Answer 9

So then he changed after marriage? Or was he always like this? At any rate, since you're both miserable, it's time to end the relationship.
Be very very thankful, you have no children. Please get out NOW before you do!

Answer 10

It really sounds like you're making the right decision. You are in an abusive relationship and he has little concern for your needs. Get out before it gets worse.