me and my ex were together for 5 years before she cheated on me yeah i was ready to ask her to marry me. but he cheated and i was curious about why the hell do i want her back in many ways my confidence was shot to hell becasue she left me for a guy who came to my house to fight me, in other words a loser immature kid who has a kid, and me im just finished college and i was faithful for 5 years. Its been about 3 weeks and part of me still wants her back, and i told er id give her a second chance i know the trem once a cheater always a cheater.
I also she once told me to move on, and ive been to,d that if i do this will really get under her skin, so im just a cnfused mess becasue i dont want her to be happy id suck it 10 years she was married to the guy after all that she has done.Ive been told yeah she will come back they always do when they see what they have lost, and day by day im getting stronger but it just i love her but i really want her to see what she lost.
2007-06-09 09:31:47 · 26 answers · asked by dodgers10 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have told her id give her a second chance she cried when i told her this is asked me why after all she has done
2007-06-09 09:32:30 · update #1
Hun, move on. Live your life well. No revenge is the best revenge because it makes them feel you don't care, they are not worth the work and worry. Most marriages break up over infidelity. In time she will truly see what was lost. Blessings and healing to you.
2007-06-17 09:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Am I right in understanding that you don't want her to be happy and you don't want to see her married to the guy she left you for? I can certainly understand that. That means you truly are awash in bitter feelings since you two broke up.
She may be making a big mistake but you can't unmake it for her. What's done is done and you won't forget it, she won't forget it and it won't be easy to 'pick up where you left off.'
So why not wallow in self-pity for just a little while longer and then move on not because she told you to, not because it will 'get under her skin' but because it will make YOU happy.
Sure it may feel like hard work, trying to move on when you don't want to. If you are extremely lucky, within a short time, someone will be a great comfort and joy in your life because they will have taken her place with you. You won't have time to mourn and you wouldn't anyway because you'll be having such a good time.
Wish I could guarantee that it would happen that quickly. You have to trust in the future. She already has her future in her sights. She might miss you when the going gets tough and then want you to take her back. That might be five years from now, after she has had a child or two out of wedlock with this guy. Don't wait around for that. Make your life yourself now.
2007-06-17 04:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want her to hurt her? if you have all that doubts why? do you can tell that you can trust on her? for you words I get that you still hurt about she cheat on you... that is not true... cheater is not always a cheater... people can change... I believe that... you think you not have nothing do... why she cheat ... for some reason she did what she did... I think... is 50/50 in a relationship.. in my town say... if you have a store... take care of it... or sell it... I think you need to move on.. let the time cure you hearth... and fine someone new... that can love you... because this is hurting you... and you go to try to hurt this woman.. that maybe do a mistake... but you are responsible to ... in some way... stop thinking on here.. start living again... is not good sometime to remember the past... start looking the present... that tomorrow is a new day.. a new begining...
good luck man
2007-06-09 16:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by jorge c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey guy listen up and listen good. she cried cause shes a woman and she knows your a good guy and she knows shes been screwing you over, that being said doesnt mean she wouldnt do it again. she humped the other guys because she finds him more to have something you dont(something she thinks shes missing) well guess what, most couples do find some one else more attractive but they dont do anything about it. but, she did and she most likely would again. women arent hard wired the same way they are more romantic and they have this idea of what the perfect mate is and guess what, she doesnt think your it. do what she said and move on cause if you dont 5 years from now you will be writing to us again asking for more advice. i know its a hard pill to swallow but another one will come around if you look in the right places and a bar isnt it. good luck usually i berate and belittle people when they ask questions but you needed divine intervention beofre it was too late
2007-06-09 16:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are none so blind as those to busy looking the other way for greener pastures
You don't need to show her what she lost she's to busy with what she thinks she found, another kid with a kid who probably threw what he had a way. Move on and get over her, you said you just finished college, good for you you sound like a guy with his head on straight, so now finish with
this soap opera, and forget about how you love her save it for some one else who may have finished college and has no kids and go from there and build your self a real productive and happy life. A wise women once told me, SUCESS is the best revenge, you sound like a man who has what it take's, don't blow it . . . good luck.
2007-06-16 15:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by myheartsvoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a reason she cheated most women don't cheat unless you give them reason some time they don t cheat then they just give u reason to assume they are cheating a mind game. If she was faithful to you for five years then there's something she found out about you and problem didn't t know how to express it .If she does love you she ll come back .She problem don t know how to face you shes ashamed plus she thinks you may walk off and leave her if she came back. Do she try to contact you in any ways to talk
to you. she may also feel the same way you feel try contact her . Unless she heartless and never loved you .In the mean time get your self together stay looking sharp and pray about it . You know what your girl is like so give it time chances are she not with anyone just trying to figure out what went wrong in relation ship . Unless you miss treated her she more likely to return. Just pray about it and stay encouraged
2007-06-15 02:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by miss katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are guilty of being truly in love with her. she cannot understand this because she does not know the true meaning of love herself. she has a real gem on her hands and does not even know it yet.
The sad part about this is you are so far in love that you cant see past your love for her. I think you should take some real time evaluating whether or not she is capable of loving you the way you love her. you are capable and deserving of having a woman who can be true to you and love you the right way. take nothing less. I think you should heed her advice and at least try to move on. she wont see what she lost until it is too late. someone would have to hurt her really bad for her to understand this. And as you said, you dont want to marry her only for her to turn around and leave you years later. You know you deserve soooooooooooooo much more. try match.com, Dr. Phil recommends it! I dont want you to waste your precious love on a woman who is not ready for it. I also dont want you to get hurt again and again. You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make her drink. Love her, but love yourself even more.
2007-06-16 00:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by mgarris2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take her back. I know part of you either still loves her or cares for her a lot but, you don't deserve someone that will do that to you. Especially since you were together for 5 years. WOW! You need to find someone that you can make completely happy and can reciprocate to you. You don't want to worry about her skirting behind your back all of the time. I know it will be hard...but, I would move on.
2007-06-09 16:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by 1 LT Lyhane's Wife 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do decide to take her back make sure you both seek councelling or you may never be able to truly forgive her and that would cause tremendous strain on the relationship. If I were you I would cut my loses and find someone new. If she didn't have the respect for you after 5 years of being together why would she get it now.
2007-06-09 16:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Foxybaby1976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you hurt, but also realize if you had married her maybe she would not have cheated. After 5 yrs of being a live in whore, she may have thought thats all she'd be. She has proven she cannot be trusted. Give it a year and she will be unhappy with this jerk. Look for a woman with morals.If she will sleep with you before marriage she has none.
2007-06-09 16:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋