I posted a question 3 weeks ago(U ve to read it to understand this now) i got great advice here.This is what happened after.2 days later we met for dinner just the 2 of us & things were great.so we ve been kind of seeing eachother.This tuesday was supposed to be our 1st intimate night.While we were midst of our foreplay at his house,there was a knock.He got up & said"don't move keep that position".Then i heard"what are you doing here?why didn't you were coming?" a woman's voice replied"surprise baby" Intermediately I jump off the bed,got my clothes on & sat up.He said to her"you ve to go to a hotel".They started fighting.I was ready to go home i knew this was trouble,so i got out & she looked at me & said"is that why i need a hotel room"& he said"yes".she said"do you know we are getting married". i looked at him & he said it out loud"NO we are not".She was crying & ended up leaving.I left few mins after her.he sent me flowers the next day& said he's not with her.what should i do now?
2007-06-09 09:31:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He said, they have been lving in different states for 8 months now. They had not seem eachother in 3 months and that they broke up.
he says she has the tendency of broking up with him and getting back and that she probably thought it was going to be the same this time..
I'm MEETING him for dinner tonight.Should i give him a chance?
I really like this guy alot. i believe what he is telling me but i do not want to make it easy for him. I want him to know i have values. Apparently the girl will be there with su to settle things.
he says he wants to be with me.
If you are interested in the posted question 3 weeks ago so you can better understand it's at the bottom
POSTED QUESTION 3 WEEKS AGO AT THE BOTTOM
2007-06-09 09:35:45 · update #1
I really like this guy but i don't know where he stands about dating a black girl.He's very good to me & we have alot of fun with our mutual friends.My best friend is dating an Irish guy & i often go with her to parties,thats how i met him.He is really cute,tall& educated.I'm just crazy about him.I want him.I think he kind of knows i like him.2 weeks ago he & I talked about interracial dating.He said"I ve never dated outside my race".I asked him if you would, he laughed & said "if it was you yes" BUT then followed that with "No i'm just kidding, i never really think of things that will NEVER happen".Last weekend we all went out,he came with a white girl.He felt the need to explain who the girl was.He said it was his workmate, but i think she likes him too.So i decided to leave them alone, instead he kept on holding my hand & whispering in my ear.He kissed my neck,hugging really tight so much that i felt his THING.he is sending me mixed signal.What do you think? should i make the move
2007-06-09 09:36:10 · update #2
THIS IS THE SAME GUY...The story 3 weeks ago was how we were getting along and how we got to this mess i'm in now..
I some of you think it's different guys.. NOPE
2007-06-09 10:02:45 · update #3
Wow interesting...... its either he is with her, or he isnt with her, so how can you tell?. I personally wont go with a guy who I am not sure of as to whether he is SINGLE or not. If I were you, I'll give it some time and not get intimate with him yet. *EDIT*: Oh, girl if you are black and he is white, theres nothing to worry about (my boyfriend is white too). He is still a guy and should be regarded as one, no matter what his skin colour is. He obviously has a strong sexual attraction to you; THAT ISNT GOING ANYWHERE ANYTIME SOON. My previous advice still stands: GIVE IT A LITTLE TIME UNTIL THINGS ARE CLEAR. YOU ARE IN CONTROL.
2007-06-09 09:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that can make that decision. Do you believe him, or do you question their relationship. I would ask to see the two of them together ----------invite them both to dinner w/o each other knowing about the other person. When they arrive at the meeting place, very CALMLY "thank" them for coming and explain to them you are a bit confused as to what actually took place that evening and would like to try and "understand" both sides, therfore you invited both of them to try and clear things up, HOWEVER YOU TELL themyou are ""ALL ADULTS" here and you insist the conversation is handeled in "ADULT MANNER" with the show of RESPECT to everyone. (Which really means you do not want to hear any yelling or name calling). Make certain you have this dinner/meeting in a VERY PUBLIC Resturaunt.
Believe it or not this really does work. Just remember to REMAIN COOL and CALM; do not for any reason get upset. Then once the dinner/meeting is over with, thank the both (again) for coming. Then sort everything out later on (maybe a day or two) in your mind; jot down notes ; pros/cons. Then YOU DECIDE who is /was telling the truth and go from there. YOU MIGHT be surprised what you end up believingand or feeling about either one of these people. THIS REALLY DOES WORK when making such a hard decision.
2007-06-09 16:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe you should go to the dinner. Talk things out with the both of them and then make a decision. See where things go from here. Post on here and let us know what happens. I hope it works out for you because it appears that you really like this guy.
2007-06-09 16:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with the interracial part. But this guy need to get his business straight. i am quite concerned about how the other person showed up at his door and he so easily sent her away after having a relationship with her. Could it be he is using you for his first interracial relationship. I forewarn you get some real answers from this guy before you get to deeply involved with him.
2007-06-09 17:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my concern is that.. in the moment that the ex- appear in the door he not tell her that he be with you in that moment... you need to be be careful with this guy.. I think he like to play in two court on the same time... I think you can go to dinner with him.. let him explain what happen with his ex-... and ask if you and him can be friend for now.. because you want to know him better.. before something happen between you and him... also... check with his friend.. they can tell more information about him... a third party can be helpful to you check if he can be trustful in the future...
good luck
2007-06-09 17:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by jorge c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oof....hun, if I were you, since things didn't get intimate, her showing up right before was a huge sign...a big red flag if you will...
he hasn't resolved things with his ex...well his kindof ex...and it isn't fair to you that he wasn't upfront about his long distance relationship that was on again off again in the first place...kinda makes me wonder what else he isn't telling you about...
If he has such a history with this woman, 24 hours later, it isn't resolved yet...trust me...go ahead and have dinner with him, but if I were you, I think you would be better off just as friends...
2007-06-09 16:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First question: Dump that lying loser. Talk to his ex g/f and get HER side of it. Talk to others that know them both and get the truth then.
2nd question , If you like dating a guy of a different color go for it as long as he isnt like the lying loser you mentioned before.
2007-06-09 16:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
these things happen..you have to let him know about your doubts..and that you need time to think things through...
though the truth is your feeling for him will win you over..i wish i knew what to tell you..this si a big mess
honestly go out with him
good luck
2007-06-09 16:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my some interesting life you have. If the fiancee will be there only to say they have broken up then i say go for him..you have to get her side of the story too.
GOOD luck tonight
2007-06-09 16:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..i read the whole thing. I say give him a chance..the guy owes you a good explanation though.
if you like him that much and trust him then go ahead with him..
if it works it works if it doesn't it's life.
2007-06-09 16:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋