does sex hurt?

Question

i havnt had it but my boyfriend is giving me signs that he wants it. but i want to wait but just incase we accidently happens does it hurt?

i havnt had it but my boyfriend is giving me signs that he wants it. but i want to wait but just incase we accidently happens does it hurt?

for the people saying dont have it i wont i want to wait till im 18 before ill have it im responsable and it will be safe. and dont call me stupid for putting this up caus ei dont want to talk bout this to my mates cause theyll think im stupid for asking.

for the people saying dont have it i wont i want to wait till im 18 before ill have it im responsable and it will be safe. and dont call me stupid for putting this up caus ei dont want to talk bout this to my mates cause theyll think im stupid for asking. and for the people asking how old i am im 16

Answer 1

No one has done a good job of answering your question. So I will try. I understand your position; I think you sound really smart and responsible, so I will respect that. Firstly, make it clear that you do not want to have sex until your eighteen. Don't be afraid that your boyfriend won't stay with you if you tell him. If he does, he's a jerk. There are plenty of other things you can do, sexually, that don't have all the consequences of intercourse. People are answering your question about whether or not it hurts based on their own experience. It may or may not hurt. But if he is gentle and you communicate throughout the process, and you are relaxed and comfortable, it really shouldn't hurt. You may not be able to relax completely and this may cause you to be more tense. Before you have sex for the first time, make sure you know your own body, and can help your partner get to know it (i.e. fingering) before he goes in.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Ok first of all it can't accidentally happen. Everybody is different some people don't and some do hurt. It hurt the crap out of me and i bled all of my boyfriends bed at that. The next couple of times it hurt too. I would wait though you do not want to do something that you will regret later on in life. You never know what could happen you could either get pregnant or catch an STD you need to make sure you know all the consequences incase u decide to do it. But be careful and I would hope that your boyfriend is not over 18 and u under b/c if you do have sex and end up pregnant or with an STD your parents can have your boyfriend arrested for rape of a minor and he would be charged and put in jail. Just make sure you think about it first

Answer 3

Well you don't seem to have many of sensible answers from many people on here.
You seem very young, how old are you? I don't think anyone male or female should have sex until they feel they are ready.Your virginity is like a bubble once it pops its gone and you can't get it back. When you turn 18 that doesn't make sex any safer you have to take precautions what ever age you are.
In answer to the question you asked, yes sex can hurt for some women the first time and you can bleed quite alot. This all depends on how big his penis is, how tight you are, if he is gentle, if you are relaxed or tense etc.

I do hope you don't rush into anything and that your boyfriend respects you no matter what decision you make. Just remember if you don't respect yourself no one else is going to either.

I hope you make the decision that is right for you.Please make sure that when you do decide to go ahead with sex that you will use a condom it is soo important for soo many reasons xxxxx

Answer 4

Sex is no accident. You either have it or you don't. At first, sex can hurt; especially if you've never had it before. Sex is really complicating at first, but sex gets better as the years go by. I am so happy that you've decided to wait because you are making a good choice for your body; which is a sign that you have respect. Do not let your boyfriend change your mind. If he really loved you, he would respect your choice. Do not ever have sex when you are not ready because it doesn't feel nice at all.

Answer 5

Do not be pressured into having sex if you do not want to.....as for it hurting Yes it does...but it many differ ant ways....if you are not in the right mood and not let your mussels relax and lubricate your vagina when the penis penetrates you will not only hurt you big time but him as well....you can get pregnant even if you a condom as it could spilt...you can pleasure him with oral or masturbation....so do not have to go all the way....if he loves and respects you will not pressure you into some thing you do not want to do.....wish you all best...

Answer 6

Yes, careless sex hurts, but making love doesn't.
Theres a difference.
PLEASE wait, you already know you are not ready!
Sex is horrible if the other person doesn't really care, and if they don't respect you, or your body.
You seem young, and even if your boyf says you are old enough for him, that is not what matters.
What matters is if YOU are ready.
Respect your body, and DONT let this brainless boyf of yours claim your virginity.
Keep your virginity until adulthood.
It is your trophy of self respect, and your body's most prized possesion.
Wait for the man that want that wants to spend the rest of his life with you, HE will be the man that truly deserves you!
But sex is for people who are grown up, and responsible.
So far you are being rather responsible by saying
''I Want To Wait''
but your body has to grow up into a woman's first.
So don't risk pregnancy and diseases, you don't want a baby yet do you? And im sure you NEVER want diseases,
so wait for the man you trust and the man that truly loves you.
He WILL be worth it!

Answer 7

Yes, sex can hurt is many ways. First of all, losing your virginity is painful and can be messy (blood from the hymen being punctured). Second, there is always the chance that you can become pregnant. Are you ready for that if that should happen? Will this young man step up to the plate and be a responsibile father? Third, sex involves emotions and should be out of love, faith and trust in one another. It should not be taken lightly. Wait until you are mature enough to take on the adult responsibilities that can come along with having sex.

Answer 8

Good for you for wanting to wait! just because your boyfriend is showing signs of wanting sex does not mean you have to the choose is yours! as for wanting to know if it hurts it really all depends, there is usually a slight discomfort but nothing that should cause any real pain. when you do decide you are ready it is best to be comfortable and to make sure your completely relaxed, and your not tense as this can cause problems as he is trying to enter. plz plz plz make sure that when it happens you are safe and the decision was yours and no one else's

Answer 9

Yes it will hurt but it shouldn't be horrific.

While I agree that you should wait, if you think you may "accidently" have sex. Keep condoms and spermicide around so that in case of accident, you can break the wrappers and you don't end up being parents as well.

Answer 10

Sex feels so good. I love to have it. But it took me quite a long time to learn to relax my muscles, so that it don't hurt. Abd it took me even more to learn how to get pleasure out of it. Acctually my first time was desastrous. Tha guy was huge, and it was only my first time, and he didn't care much about me. And never before had I had pain like that. The next 10-15 times it was still painful. After 10-15 times more i started to enjoy it a bit. And after a few more I had my first vaginal orgasm.
But girl choose carefully the guy you wanna have sex for the first time with. That could change your whole life. Make sure he treats you good, and he cares about you. If it's so, sex might mot be as painful as my first time, or it mightn not be painful at all.
Good luck and think well