A) Growing up in a very unstable house with alcoholic parents who spend all their benefits on beer leaving not much money for food. Living in a very deprived neighborhood without much prospects of a good education. Often getting smacked for petty things but always having your parents their when you needed some affection and love. Being in a family. A life of crime.
B) Growing up in a foster family who live in a reletivly nice neighborhood, eating nice food and having clothing allowances and activities paid by social services, a decent education. Being disliked by your foster family and constantly reminded you are a bad child for being taken into care. Always looked down upon. Never being able to feel you belong to the family, not allowed to decorate your bedroom to make it personal, every christmas getting told your nice expensive presents are only yours while you like there. Growing up resentful and loney.
2007-06-09 08:24:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think growing up poor and in a bad neighborhood but with a family who loves and supports you would be better. Of course, neither one is an ideal situation, but I think growing up with love and affection give you more self esteem and confidence to go on.
2007-06-09 10:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of those option's are acceptable.
I don't personally like social workers very much how ever if you have one. It would be worth talking to them about it because long term both of these situations are going to be damaging to you. If this gets you nowhere try child line help number I'm sure they could give you some good advice.
The foster family is getting paid a lot of money to look after you. and what they are actually doing is child abuse. (psychological abuse). Telling you all those toy's are not yours. Is not nice. especially if they have children of their own who don't get told this It must be making you feel very alienated and like you say lonely, which is not healthy for you. Try to get with another foster family and keep trying until you get somewhere you like being. with people who will support you . I think it's probably best not to go back to be around your family full time if there is lots of alcohol abuse. you can always visit on your own terms. It's really good that you want a good education because that will really help you in the future.
2007-06-09 15:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the good thing about growing up with either of those is that when you reach 18 you're on your own to begin whatever life you want to. Those first 18 years may seem like they drag on and on, but one day you will look back and say "where did those years go, they went by so fast". There are lots of scenarios out there but once you become an adult you "choose" what you want to do with your life. Most kids make it thru those trying growing up stages. The point being you need to survive those years. I didn't see any reason to choose either because a person never really has a choice of either of those, they just happen and sometimes happen because of the courts decisions.
2007-06-09 15:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both suck. I know single mothers who have had their children taken away because they were not able to support them properly. The children were placed in foster homes who received about 600.00 a month per child. Why don't they just give this money to the mother than the kids could be well provided for and with someone they love. I know theirs good foster homes but I really believe, from experience, most are in it for the money. A solution, I raised 4 kids by myself, I did receive a minimal amount of child support but their father didn't have anything to do with them, he even told me he didn't want to raise any kids, which we both agreed to have. My solution is to make people,male or female, responsible for their actions, if they neglect their parental duties throw them in jail. If we neglect our animals we go to jail but it's okay to neglect your children, what a scewed up system.
2007-06-09 15:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by darowdomo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both seems bad. Hope either one is not your scenario here... I'll choose C, which is moving out on my own. cos psychologically, both A and B are going to create serious behaviorial problems for the child now and the future... He should be taken care by other next of kin.
2007-06-09 15:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by Schizophrenic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(A), At least you know that whatever they are doing, they chose to keep you, they may not be great parents but they can show some affection if needed.
(B) As for B, not a very good scenario. I personally do not understand about the care system.
2007-06-09 16:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by Babe K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so one of you is psychotic and the other neurotic. The psychotic is usually the better off in the long run because he knows most of the time how he is. The neurotic? May never know or figure out how or why he is the way he is.
2007-06-09 15:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer a every time you make of your life what you can and only by being with your family will equip you with the knowledge and social skills you need when you reach adulthood
2007-06-09 15:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by mrhoppy22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A - cos no matter how bad your family are at the end of the day they want you and are there for you. they are your own blood and want the best for you.
i wouldnt want a foster family cos if they carry on sayin ur bad thats why your parents didnt want you ur gonna start believein it and start blaming yourself even if it isnt true
2007-06-09 15:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
interesting question ! i think there both dreadfull circumstances but id rather a than any atleast you feel like you belong there and you have your parents and love there i know we need money and food etc but love is 1 of the main things well thats my opinion anyway :)
2007-06-09 16:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋