A friend of the family offered to throw my babyshower. About a month ago she told me it would be on June 17th, at which time I'd only be almost 6 months, not to mention it's Father's Day. I just mentioned these facts but didn't complain, because hey...someone's throwing me a party!
A week and a half later I had all the addresses for invites emailed to her, and I didn't hear back fom her for a few days, so I called to make sure she'd gotten them...and she hadn't checked her email yet. But she said she would and then send out invites ASAP.
Now it's a week before the shower and she STILL hasn't sent invites. I could call everyone and tell them, but she hasn't even told me all the details (such as time) and it would take a LONG time to call the whole list.
I don't want to be rude since she's throwing me a party, but would it be out of line for me to ask her if MAYBE it would be better if we rescheduled for a later date, so the guests would have more notice?
2007-06-09 06:46:57 · 13 answers · asked by grayhare 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would imagine that she has already decided to reschedule. I cant imagine anyone being dense enough to not send out invite to a large group this late in the game.
Do you have a third party would could ask this friend on your behalf without her knowing its you who's wondering? That would probably be how I would go about it.
2007-06-09 06:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not out of line to mention that you would have to reschedule. Etiquette dictates that if you're going to throw such a party (just like a wedding) you would want to give your guests at least two weeks in advance (and even that is cutting it a little short).
You should explain to her that you would like people to be able to come, but you don't think everyone will be able to fit it into their schedules on short notice. Then ask her if there are other days that she would be able to do the party that are two weeks out, then help her with the invitations yourself. Nothing says that the mommy-to-be can't help with the invitations, right? That way you can be sure that it gets done and at the same time it doesn't seem like you're being a pain in the butt.
2007-06-09 14:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I think you should call her and set up to have a meeting with her and see excatly where the invites are and just calmly talk to her about the situation and the pressure it may be putting on eveyone at the last moment.
I don't think it is a good idea to have a shower on Father's Day. I think you should ask her to re-scheduled for I am sure that by now everyone has plans for that day.
You could of course have what they call a "drop by" meaning , they can come stay a few minutes, give you a gift, get a refreshment and then leave , with out the obligation of having to stay the whole time.
2007-06-09 14:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lois H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be straight forward with your family friend. Tell her/him that the guests need to receive their invitations a few weeks in advance, so that they can plan it in to their schedule. If you send out the invites now, you won't get a lot of people coming to your baby-shower, because of such late notice. Second of all its Father's Day! Everybody's going to be celebrating Father's Day with their own family! Tell her you appreciate her kindness in volunteering to host the baby shower for you, but that you need to reschedule to a later date, and that she NEEDS to send out the invites NOW. And if she can't do that, then you need to take matters into your hands, or give the responsibility to a more responsible friend.
She obviously doesn't have this planned out at all. She hasn't told you any details like time, etc.
2007-06-09 14:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by lily_evans 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would think that she may have already thought of coming up with another date, and perhaps is scared to ask you for fear of you being upset or mad. Also she may have a surprise that you don't know about. I would just call and say, "hey, I know this is a busy weekend with fathers day and I know you have been so busy that the invites haven't gotten out yet. Why don't we just come up with a date that works better for you...after all I am only 6 months along, LOL, we have lots of time". Try to make it light hearted and nice, that way she doesn't feel like she let you down. There may be something going on in her life and she is just trying to do to much. Good luck and congrats on your baby.
2007-06-09 13:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point, it has to be rescheduled. There is not enough time for people to shop for gifts and chances are- everyone already has plans for father's day.
I would ask a relative to politely take over the babyshower detail.
2007-06-09 13:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but your friend has backed out and doesn't have the guts to tell you. You can't send out invitations a week before the shower if you want people to show up. You need to give them proper notice. Someone in your family should really be throwing you a shower. To save yourself heartache from people not being able to show up, find someone dependable to set this up so you can have a shower that you'll always remember, not one you wish you could forget. Good luck with your baby.
2007-06-09 13:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think rescheduling is a good idea. With such short notice people may not be able to come. I don't think it's rude to ask her at all.
2007-06-09 13:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by violachic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes put it off for a bit if you have to fathers day is a bad day any way my oldest was born the week before mom's day and its hard to plan her bday parties b/c not a lot of people come to them we put it off a couple of weeks and everyone showed that was invited this time they need the notice to make the plans to attend
2007-06-09 13:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by renee70466 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Defiantly reschedule if you want people to come. She should have sent them a month in advance to get the most people to come. Since she hasn't sent them yet I would ask her to change the day.
2007-06-09 13:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by chrissie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋