is it only me but i always feel alone in crowds?

Answer 1

I think it's a common feeling. Many people find it alarming, don't they. Perhaps it comes from an instinct of watchfulness in case of threat, or invasion of one's personal space amongst the haphazard unpredictable movements of a crowd. Conversely, in the mass hysteria of a congregation of shared belief people can feel secure, protected, their sense of personal identity endorsed - and that may explain the wonderful warm fuzzy feeling they mistake for a religious spiritual experience, even beyond their place of assembly. But in a crowd of "others" they can feel alone, too. Fundamentally I think, we are all always alone, inside our own heads but most don't contemplate the sensation amongst the internal and external babble. So it's alarming when confronted, especially in situations where it's not supposed to exist, such as within a family. I think much of the problem arises from people's unconsidered confusions between "identification", and "connection". They are comfortable with what they can identify with (seeing themselves in it); but have not learned a real experience of connection with what they identify as "other" (such as a beetle or weed). I think the latter is the basis of spirituality - which has no need of supernatural beings. With it one also values "aloneness", singularity - and can never feel intimidated or lonely, alone or in a crowd.

Answer 2

I know the feeling generally strikes you when you're at some sort of function. Plain crowds, like on the street, don't give you time to think, you just get out of their way. But at a function, you're there for a purpose as are all the rest. If someone speaks to you, ask them about their impression of what is going on. When they tell you, you will probably pickup some more information about them. Use that to continue the conversation. Before you know it, will you no longer feel lonely, but you will have made some new acquaintances.

Answer 3

It's not just you. Sometimes that even though we can be surrounded by people, we just feel alienated in the fact that we have nothing in common with the crowds, and maybe that what makes you feel lonely. You're experiencing something that no one else around you is, whether if it's an emotion or a situation.

Answer 4

Stop thinking in the crowd and start talking to someone. You will no longer be alone.

Answer 5

I used to feel like that, but that's only because I didn't know anyone, and I didn't try. To make things easier, here's what to look for. There are three layers for a dance floor. The core is for all the cool, outgoing dancers. The middle layer is for social people who want to do what the core people are doing but don't know the dance moves. The fringe is for people who hold their drinks and walk around looking lost. Move into the middle layer and do what their doing, and introduce yourself to people you would like to meet. Then, work your way to the core, and get down with your bad self! Think this: This room is full of strangers, and chances are, I'm never going to see them again, so who cares what I do.

Answer 6

Possible solutions

1. Take someone with you

2. Talk to someone while you are out, even if it's just the salespeople

3. Arrange to meet someone, or even a group

4. Go somewhere where you know people. Churches are nice, so are fvorite restaurants or even (gulp) taverns or bars!

5. Go somewhere where there is nobody around and see if you feel companionship!

Good luck with that in any case.

Answer 7

crowd is a single entity, look in that way, learn to see it that way..and if you are not afraid of it then be blessed.You carrying clear sign of being a leader, still, if you do not have any fear of crowd...Do not be part of it, that is a feelings of loneliness, rather embrace it as is... or stay away, there is always individuals which you will extract from it, with same qualities.

Answer 8

I feel alone too. I try to seek out people who seem alone too. Everybody needs a friend and feeling sad about being alone will not stop me from trying to make friends.

Answer 9

I do too. Even when I'm with my family I feel alone, like, what am I doing here?
I spend alot of time alone, but I don't feel alone or lonely when I'm by myself.
I hope we're okay.

Answer 10

I hate crowds of people. I always feel panicky and want to escape.