the thing that i was trying to prevent came true. my daughter told me she wants to have the same job as me.....she wants to be a pornstar too. i told her before that its not a good occupation to get into but she didnt listen. we talked to her and she was really thinking of giving it a try. i dont know if thats a good idea, she just wouldnt listen and she really wants to do this. what do i tell her? please give me your thoughts......
2007-06-09 04:53:24 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just tell her this......."Mommy is in an occupation where you don't have to be very smart. It is 'taking the easy road' and not many people have respect for me. I have absolutely no respect for myself and will probably experience more then one STD in my lifetime. I am dirty and used. I will most likely never find a man who respects me because of what I do. In a few years when my body no longer looks as good, I will have absolutely no way to support you or myself, unless I become a hooker. Now, is this the life that you want??"
Maybe if you say THAT to her, it'll change her mind. People like you shouldn't have children.....
2007-06-09 05:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her anything, you've already done that. Listen to her and ask her what it is about that profession that attracts her to it. Does she want to be like you? Does she like the idea of having sex with multiple partners? Does she think it will lead her to stardom?
You've explained the pitfalls, let her explain her reasons. She apparently thinks it's a glamorous thing to do. Have you allowed her to come with you to work to see exaclty what goes on? If she's thinking about making it a career she should see the reality of it before making up her mind. The good thing is, if she does go ahead with it, you'll be there for her when things turn out to be different from what she thought it would be.
If you continue to try to disuade her she will want it all that much more. Try working with her and guide her through the process. At some point, with luck, she'll decide it's not for her. Or she may love it and be very successful at it. The point is, she has to decide for herself what she's going to do with her life. You know the pitfalls so you can support her and steer her in the right direction but you can't decide for her. Just love her and hope for the best.
2007-06-09 09:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you should just go and talk to ur daughter and maybe u should drop being a pornstar cause that just influence her more of doing what her mommy does so just like really sit down and talk to her about the bad buiness that goes on when ur a pornstar.....
2007-06-09 04:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jalisha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you not want your daughter to follow in your footsteps? Because at SOME level you knew it was wrong. YET you were NOT willing to STOP it and do something else for a living, and when she seen that she could have sex with good looking guys and get paid for it on film( this is nothing more than filmed prostitution) she figured if you could do it so could she. You QUIT being a porn star and tell her YOU were WRONG all these years that you made a whore out of yourself and people only respect you as a sex toy and not as a human being. Tell her you do NOT want that for her. Then get into church hon if you want to save your daughter. Try the united pentecostal church they are good.
2007-06-09 04:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that its disgusting personally for you to share the experiences with your daughter. Tell her that alot of people wont take her seriously and its harder to to find a good man thats tolerant of a job like this. Plus dont tell her anything, its her choice, that doesnt mean you have to be a part of it. I just really dont get the lifestyle so maybe ny advice soesnt help you at all. Ask other pay for sex professionals how they address this subject with there children.
2007-06-09 05:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she would not get a lot of money in the future tell her that being a doctor or a laywer will make good for the community but being a pornstar is rediculos!
2007-06-09 04:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by ♥HotMess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her that porn is not something people look at to find talent.engage her in a conversation of the possibilities of STD and HIV it's important to talk to children about this.because i am 14 and i became sexually active when i was 12 and i contracted an std it was curable so i got lucky but i don't have sex anymore.let her know she should have sex with someone special it will make her feel like the best person in the world sleeping w/alot of people is devaluing yourself.
2007-06-09 05:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by i love wezzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH
kids look up to their parents to see what is wrong or right. They see wot their parents do and think its ok for them to do the same. How can u tell her not do something you rely on for a living and expect her to not want to do it? hypocrisy doesnt work well as a method of teaching.
2007-06-13 01:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might not wanna here this but you know what?
YOU had the example right there in front of her so now thats what she wants to be, had you set a better example she might of wanted to do something else.
2007-06-09 05:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Parachutes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parenting...NOT YOU! How could u even consider persuing a "career" like that at all? But especially with a daughter!! Children looks up to there mothers, for guidaance, support, love. You follow me? Tell her not to be a sleeze like her mama. OMG how gross for you to be teaching he sinful ways. I will keep you nd she inmy prayers! :)
2007-06-09 06:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋